Virgin sex pointers?

[Anonymous]

Hi! So I'm a virgin and its looking like I'm not going to be for much longer. I was wondering if you have any tips to make it better/easier? He is pretty inexperienced too, so any information from either point of view would be great : ) Also; I think I'm really tight. He tried to get his finger in me and even that was a bit painful, to the extent that he never actually got it in. Any ideas on that one? We didn't use lube if that makes a difference?

[Anonymous]

I had the same problem,& I would not recommend like some idiots here suggested - obviously not woman. That you should just push thru it & force it.

That can actually be dangerous , you can tear things outside of just your hymen,& even now they are saying that doesn't need to be torn, as here are already holes, but stretched...

Not to mention psychologically it could turn you of sex.

Ut does not have tobe done al at once - you can take time.

So I would suggest trying fingering more & more for a while, eventually you will stretch -i mean it is ski not metal lol

You ay want to try fingering yourself at home- just because it takes away the surprise factor making it easier to relax. You know where when & ow your finger is gin in.. Even if he was not trying to hurt you it could just because you are tense.

I do ont know when it changed for me, but I went from not bering able t tolerate a finger - could not imagine ever having sex- it was so painful, & now he can get three in- which is supposed to be the size width wise of a typical penis.

It does not hurt & it is even starting to feel good inside - I was always able to orgasm fro clitoral stimulation, but I did not see the point of vaginal intercourse because I was all pain ^& pleasure, but I a, starting to notice places where he ouches ha feel god inside a well.

I would say the most important thing is patience.. You guys may be in a rush which is up to you of course, but being patient really made it work.

Once I wasn't worried about this one big even & we just tok it slow over a period of time, little by little, bow t just feels like we have been doing this all along.

Good Luck.

[chromosomevenus]

Have you ever masterbated? Exploring yourself can help make this experience a little less uncomfortable. In my experience it takes a little time to get used to sex, or to enjoy sex. I can't give you any specific tips because everyone's body is s different. You might want to try lube, especially if you are nervous.

Good luck and remember it gets better even if the first time is not great, or good.

[chromosomevenus]

I am not saying you need porn, just make sure you know your vagina.

[abusauce]

just gotta be a hero, lol lube is a possibility, but if there is pain go till you drop :P

[toulouse]

You're a moron & ui fel bad for whoever you got bribed to have sex with you. :)

[chromosomevenus]

Sorry I misread your second note.

[Anonymous]

lube and slowly