Virgin using a vibrator?

[Anonymous]

I bought a vibrator a few years ago becuase I thought it would a good idea to break my hymen myself before I have sex with a guy and avoid the pain and awkwardness. Took a few goes over a couple of weeks before I managed to get it in. I thought well that's the job done and left it. Ages later I tried it again, couldn't get it in easily so I thought well fuck that sucks, I tried again today and got it in, but it hurt, not at the start/opening of my vagina like it did at the begining, this time it hurt deeper in/further back? Also felt a bit like stretching, but was painful, something I don't want to expereice if I ever am with anyone else. Also it stung when I peed afterward, and a few hours later today I thought I should have a shower to wash away the lube as I used a lot.. was a bit lazy, don't judge, but when I used the shower head directly on my vagina it hurt. I'm scared I've done some damage? Is this normal, and why does it hurt and hard to get my vibrator in now when I swear I broke my hymen years ago! Also any exercises I can do to make it easier.. Do I have an unsualy tight vagina? I would just like to be normal :( life would be hella easier if I just had a dick!!! :(

[bavvo]

Well it really shouldn't have hurt you as it sounds like you used lube so it can't be friction burns but then again what kind a Vibrator did you use as some cheap copies like knock off made in China they have a strong chemical smell to them especially the fake skin type vibrators so this could of played some part. It really sounds like a friction burn as it hurt you or stung you when you peed as well as when showering. Really using a Vibrator shouldn't hurt you at all and yes to a point you would still be tight in the vagina if you only broke yourself in two years ago. Unsure if I've helped or not

[Anonymous]

Lol, someone's too horny :p
If you want i can give the D gently , i am expert when it comes to virgins :3 JK
Trry to stretch it with your fingers before you insert anything get it ready before any insertion.

[Asker]

Thanks, but it's not so much the front that hurts but more further up? I think I need some female perspective

[Sweet-and-Sour]

The hymen doesn't break. It stretches. The reason why many women bleed their first time having interourse is because she isn't wet or relaxed enough and it's causing a ring of tissue near the opening of the vagina to tear and bleed. Search hymen on gag and you should be able to find a few mytakes that explains the process. (Sorry it's late and my team lost a close game tonight. Spirit broken)

[Darkfairie17]

Another thing I just thought of is what type of materials make up the vibrator? Perhaps you are allergic to one of the materials? Most that I have seen are made of silicone, but some might have latex, or other things. Also, if it's a colour it could be a dye that is bugging you.

[Darkfairie17]

Thanks!

[A_Lolita]

It's normal.. you're just tight.
To make it better.. keep using lube and playing with your self (go gentle)

[A_Lolita]

Although, it may still be painful for you when you have sex.. depending on how rough the guy is. Otherwise, it would just be a bit of discomfort at first.

[Anonymous]

why don't you wait for your boyfriend doing it? if you don't have one find a boyfriend

[Asker]

Can you help me at all with advise or tips? I really just want to be able to use my vibrator comfortably first, before I let a man put his dick in me while I still find it painful

[Mesonfielde]

The whole point of the question is to prevent it from hurting by the time she gets a boyfriend. Preparations and stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know sorry, but if you break your hymen your not a virgin anymore and it should not hurt. I masturbate only one time when I was 17, and never masturbate again, I just wait to do it with me boyfriend. I think you use it wrong or be too rude when doing it

[broadsword]

Yes your normal try not to worry so much. Your vagina is still adjusting to being penetrated. You've got small little fares that are stinging as you we and wash. Also take care to clean you vibrator after use. Just keep an eye on it to be sure you've not picked up an infection.

[Mesonfielde]

I think the issue is all the lube you've been using.

[Asker]

Really? How does that make it worse? I thought you should you as much as possible to make it easier?

[Mesonfielde]

The lube in itself isn't the problem (the stretching will most likely go away eventually), but the painful pee I'd think is because of the lube. You should wash it away sooner next time. I'm not entirely sure though, I've never had this problem in this particular setup (unsurprisingly!)

[Asker]

Do you have any women friends you wouldn't mind sharing this question with so I could get some answers? :/

[Mesonfielde]

... I don't know any that openly use vibrators like that, lol. I'll... try... Does any of you know anything? @DarkFairie17 @xXiTacoXx @Milyey @SammyGurl @MustacheKitteh You can be anon if you want, the question is what matters here. If you know anything about this phenomenon, anyways.

[Mesonfielde]

Apparently they limited the number of people you can mention in one comment @archiz @daremetwo @apple24 @moistycakes @RJgraveyTrain

[Mustachekitteh]

I've never owned a vibrator though I do know for women that if you use one. It does a pretty good job and really stimulates down there.

[Asker]

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! :)

[Asker]

@Mustachekitteh I'm not trying to get off, that would be great too though if I could kill 2 birds with one stone.. I'm trying to make it easier for myself if I ever have sex, the problem is that every time I try I'm in pain, pain that lasts a few hours even like today and I don't know why! :(

[Mustachekitteh]

@asker when you use a vibrator it tends to work better next to the clit while having something else inside your vagina.

[Mustachekitteh]

@asker I think your doing something wrong if your in pain.

[Asker]

@Mustachekitteh Maybe it's the angle? What direction should I insert it?

[Mesonfielde]

... my personal guess is whichever direction doesn't actually hurt.

[apple24]

Man I don't own a vibrator... There was a time I wanted to buy it but meh! I rather get make-up or some shorts!!! there's more pleasure in the world!

[Asker]

@apple24 Doesn't just have to be from using a vibrator, have you had sex? If so did it hurt? Did it hurt when/if you had sex again?

[Mustachekitteh]

@asker should just be going straight up into your vagina and not be hitting any of the side walls.

[Darkfairie17]

Are you sure you aren't having an allergic reaction to the lube? I would try another kind and see if you have a problem with it. Also the hymen breaking can take some time. I was just talking to my friend last night and she said it took a while for her's to break. Even though she has sex several times. Also, you should make sure you are stimulated enough before putting it in. If you aren't that could be part of the problem. Another thing I thought about was do you live alone? Is there a risk of someone walking in on you? If so, that could be causing the problem. When you are nervous that someone might walk in, you will be more constricted down there and not as relaxed.

[archiz]

ermm I have no idea since I never did this. Maybe it hurt this time while entering it in because you weren t aroused enough, or stressed, or stiffed, sore etc... then you kind off forced it in which may have scratched your vagina and do. That would explain the stung. It could be a bit inflamed, reason why it is super sensitive when you went to shower. Lokk easy solution, just go to your gynecologic.

[xXiTacoXx]

I don't fap, mate.

[joeb73]

its normal to an extent. i feel you were not totally warmed up and relaxed also your body is still getting use to the experience. just go slow and experiment until you find what works for you.

[singlebee]

Hahahaha that was so funny... :-D

[Asker]

I hope one day I will look back and laugh and also being have sex with real life men.. But right now I'm just concerned about my vagina :/

[singlebee]

Hmm maybe that's why you should have the penis do the job instead of a vibrator... The girth must be big right?

[Asker]

It's actually not, just a normal penis size I think? Maybe it would be better with a guy, but he wouldn't know when it was hurting me and all that

[singlebee]

Hmm well you are right but who can communicate... Then

[they_callme_g]

Well, I could lend you mine 👉👌 😂

[Ialexwonderful]

people with vaginas haha :)))

[Anonymous]

It would not be easier if you had a dick. Maybe you should speak to your GYN about what to do to make things easier on you. Also maybe she/he can see if there is some damage from the vibrator in your vagina.

[Anonymous]

First yea normal and guys love a tight pussy you should be glad your tight some girls are not tight even when a Virgin.

[Anonymous]

I think if you were having sex all the time this wouldn't be an issue.
Maybe just try rubbing it on your clit without inserting it? Would that still be effective?

[Asker]

I'm not sure you quite have the point, I'm not trying to get myself off I'm safe in that department, I'm just to get myself ready if you will to have sex without the pain

[Opinion Owner]

oh I got ya. You might have to insert it regularly. Like every couple of days. But I'm no expert

[Opinion Owner]

I'll swap my bits with you for a week. Always wondered what it was like for you girls lol

[Opinion Owner]

This must be frustrating with all us silly guys trying to help you lol

[Asker]

That sounds like a great plan, I'd love to have a penis instead! How do I sign up?

[Asker]

A little bit, I appreciate your answers but I do genuinely want some good advise by people who've actually had to deal with this themselves..

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry. I do feel your pain. I know you girls have to deal with a lot of physical stuff. Such a complicated thing those vaginas haha

[Opinion Owner]

yet I do find them amazing lol

[Asker]

Thank you for sympathising, I do hate being a girl.. sometimes. I'd miss the pretty dresses and make-up and curling my hair etc. ;)

[Opinion Owner]

This is very interesting
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a26527-the-truth-about-the-hymen-myth

[Asker]

Thank you so much for looking into this more for me!! Was good to read through! The trouble is they kept saying it shouldn't be painful, but I'm finding it painful! :( I don't know if there's something wrong or I'm just not doing it right or whatever, bit worried

[Opinion Owner]

No problem and I hope you get the answers you need 🙂

[Anonymous]

be careful maybe will hurt you

[Asker]

I would like to sort this out before I do badly hurt myself :/

[Opinion Owner]

get married