What is it about anal sex that is so intriguing to people?

I have never given it a try and my boyfriend has asked a couple of times if I was interested in trying, but I have declined so far. I am trying to figure what the attraction is for apparently so many people doing it even though I do think many times it is a bunch of bs coming from guys and women. To me it seems gross! So tell me what is so attractive or good about anal sex?
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  • Most of the girls I've been with have not only enjoyed it, but ASKED for it. A few had never done it before, and brought it up with "have you ever tried...?" or "what do you think about...?" and we talked about it from there, and a couple had tried it before with guys who didn't know what they were doing and didn't like it, but once they realized I knew what I was going in general, they brought it up.

    The answer is that you have a TON of nerve endings there, and anal can bring a woman a ton of pleasure. I agree it's not something you're likely to do every time you have sex, but it's usually something we do every 3-5 times we have sex.

    A few things that are VERY important: you have to have a good, caring partner, and you have to have TRUST between you. You have to KNOW that if you say "stop" he will stop moving immediately, and if you say "pull out" he will pull out immediately. If you have that trust that he is sensitive to your feelings and will let you take the lead, then you will be able to relax and focus on the sensation rather than being worried about pain or him hurting you, which will cause you to tense up and assure you some pain.

    Then:

    - Get some good water-based sex lube.

    - Make sure you go to the bathroom a couple of hours before, then shower and clean yourself well.

    - Have him slowly work a lubricated finger into you. I said SLOWLY. Get used to having something in there, moving around and such. When YOU are ready, have him use a second finger. Go as slow as you need to in order to be comfortable. If you get to the point where he can move his fingers around a bit without any discomfort, and hopefully with a bit of pleasure, then he can try his penis.

    - He needs to agree, and be absolutely clear, that if you tell him to stop, he will STOP moving immediately, and if you tell him to pull out, he will pull out immediately. YOU control the show here.

    - After he's lubed up, have him SLOWLY work his way into you. It actually helps if you push out a bit, because that opens you up easier. The goal is to get him inside you and then STOP and give you a chance to adjust to something that size being in you.

    - If you are still feeling okay, he can start slowly, gently thrusting. If you feel there is too much friction, have him add a little more lube, and you may need to do this a couple of times.

    - If you are still okay, he can pick up the pace a bit. You direct him.

    For most girls, the first time, even done right, is such a new sensation that it's hard for the girl to know what to think. If you followed my steps and went slowly, there shouldn't be much if any pain, but the sensation will still be new and different, and you might need some time to get used to it. Usually, buy the second or third time, the girl starts to really enjoy it (she grows used to the sensation, and isn't as stressed about it, and so can start to enjoy it), and then, she will usually ask for it from time to time when she's in the mood.

  • To be specific - Anal sex allows men to feel dominant and to not focus so much on the emotional connection but pure physical joy of sex. It is approval to be invaded by a woman who gives him permission to be animalistic with her. This generally pleases men so much they get all emotional afterward because of it. To be more graphic also it is beautiful to watch a woman's hips and feeling her come towards him as he is going towards her. Its poetic in a sexual manner of speaking for a man. Also it is an act few women actually do with several partners in their lifetime so when a man gets to do so he feels special because he got to do something no other man did or few ever did with her. Its a no go zone for many women but what is denied is often very a^ppealing where sexual fanytasy is concerned for both sexes. The man gets to be a 'bad boy' and that makes him enjoy being a 'good man' afterward and during the non sex moments of a relationship. It is also an act that men do not speak to other men about because they know a woman who allows them that pleasure is most likely someone they do not wish to lose. And to be graphically more specific watching the hips of a woman and a.s moving rapidly and knowing you are causing it is VERY visually enticing not to mention the most specific aspect of the whole act itself which is that an a.s is much tighter than a vagina in general and that feels good for the man's penis...kind of the difference between a bj and a bj with a tight grip.

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  • Well I sure want no part of it. I read articles done by medical associations, medical professionals and every one of them provide overwhelming evidence that prolonged anal penatration will lead to in simple terms (fart and crap your pants all at once)! Now that is sure something I would want to look forward to.

    If your having a fun time in the sack how can you ever touch his penis after it comes out of your butt. Even if he had a condom bits of waste within the anal walls are going to be extracted and eeeeeeeee not for me.

    I have always professed to each his own as long as it hurts nobody else so with that if its your thing do it. Don't try it with me!

    • Exactly! Well said!

  • Pain is not inevitable. - I'm tired of those who denigrate it by portraying it as something negative. It is what it is and what you make of it.

    Anal sex can be very exciting and enjoyable. - I'm not saying go off and have anal sex everyday. Just once or twice a month or every few months.

    I really enjoyed it. I only had anal with one guy, a few times and it was great.

    If it's not for you, then so be it. Your sex life.

    • I am with you on that..I am tired of people who denigrate pee...anal anything just is not interesting to me but if my mate really wanted it she would at least be able to get me to rim her...people who say "never" tend to eat their words...O.O

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  • This is a very good question actually.

    I have NO CLUE why ANYONE would want to do something like that.

    Maybe it feels better than sex (for the guy, I cannot imagine that a girl would like anal sex), but even then I would NEVER want to do that. I am single, but when I do have a girlfriend, I will never even think about asking her to try anal sex. I don't care whether it feels better or not, I want my girlfriend to enjoys sex too. I do NOT want her to be in pain.

    Even if my girlfriend would want to do it, I would refuse. It is just wrong and really disgusting.

    • It's sex... It's not wrong. It's disgusting, if the girl ended up taking a sh*t on your penis. LOL

    • And that has happened!

    • @poeticninja bukkake is sex too but it's morally wrong

  • Anal is the final "forbidden act" that many of us enjoy. If someone is willing to go anal, then pretty much all the defensive barriers are shattered with a couple. Not assuming any sex-flings or prostitutional acts. It's the most intriguing, erotic, and nasty thing to do which captures our sexual imagination. If done cleanly and properly, it is as fun as typical vaginal penetration.

  • What is it about doing something that you were told not to do that is so much fun to a human?

    It is tighter and not at 'wet' as a vagina, it is a dominating act, it is rougher, it is TABOO! It takes a little more trust and it makes the man feel superior. IT also hits a whole different nerve bundle then you can from the more traditional sex act.

    Yes the orgasm is different but that can me acheived with a smaller toy or small butt plug used while also having vaginal sex.

    Sexiasianboi26 had a few thoughts on where it came from and missed the obvious one: MEN LIKE TO STICK THEIR COCKS WHERE THEY DO NOT BELONG!

  • As an inveterate sodomite, I can tell you that for me it's about dominance, tightness, and my serious ass fetish. I'm also a spanko. It's about the most dominant thing a man can do and the most sexually submissive thing a woman can do. It's really, really hard to argue about who's in charge when you're being taken up the ass. To a woman, every woman I've ever had anal sex with ended up asking for it and liking/loving it. Like I said, I'm a sexual dominant and a little sadistic in bed and the gals have compatible kinks. If you're even considering it, try it.

    As for all the talk of medical complications, I have had a lot of anal sex with a number or women and no one has ever reported a problem beyond being a little sore. If you're worried about potentially having fecal material involved, give yourself an enema at least four hours before and you'll be clean as can be.

    If you decide to try it, the most important thing is for you to control the penetration the first time. One position that lends itself to this is spooned. Use lube but you don't need a ton.

  • Anal sex is a form of punishment fantasy.

    It was invented by working men who came home so stressed that they take it out on their wives through anal.

    Another theory is that it has been around since the beginning of time. Rapist, killers, raiders were taught to stick in the butthole to avoid diseases, and it some religions it was a curse to rape a virgin.

  • I do not like anal, I've never tried it and I never will, it grosses me out.

    Plus it looks really painful for the female, or male if it was a gay couple or the male if the woman is using a strap-on O_o

  • I am from Ukrainian by heritage and I know that is an old practice in Eastern Europe and central Asia since time immemorial. So yes it is not new to me but I also like it the sphincter is so tight that is amazing reminds me of a **** ring. First time I tried with my wife she was amazed and told me Why didn't I do her butt before LOL!

  • I give up...there is no attraction for me...o.O

    • Same here

    • I worry that I might do some lasting damage, that would be on my conscience forever!

    • There are enough people doing it now that we will know in a few years.,..

  • I believe that it's the domination factor and the "taboo" factor

  • It's something different, feels different.

  • I do not like anal sex. I think the vagina, is the right place for penis.

  • because its taboo.

  • I think it's the "dominance" thing