What do girls think about male masturbation?

I am married and my wife is pregnant. She already had a low sex drive to begin with (it was a lot better when we were a couple in high school, and I graduated 13 years ago). And now that she is pregnant for the second time, she has almost virtually exiled my sexual needs. I have been good and not tried getting any from anywhere else, but need release. When I have a chance (it's rare, cause I have a young kid and have no intent of being indecent) I do get myself off. Question is, am I being selfish wanting to jack off any time I'm horny (which is often) and not expecting her to want to get me off? And if you were her, would it bother you if your man wanted to jerk off to porn?
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  • Sorry I didn't mean to submit that one question 4 time's my computer jammed errk.

    anyway I can tell you right off the get go that she is feeling insecure about her body, and the changes she is going through physically , so of course she probably feels not pretty maybe even disgusting , I imagine she doesn't look like the same women you fell in love with, and she can see that I know she doesn't feel sexually desirable, you had to have expected her sex drive to go down, now if she wasn't much of a sexual person so begin with it , its not you just some females are like that I mean personally I know a couple girl's who could live with out sex, it doesn't phase them they arent craving it like some lady's do, its just who she is.

    if sex is important to you in a relationship maybe you should have considered that before marriage.

    I don't consider it selfish at all that you want to masturbate , I mean its unfair to you that you don't get any sexual attention as it is, or enough, so no I say keep doing it if that will make you stay faithful! What ever works, the whole porn thing I have always found porn gross in the first place, here is a little tip for you if you do watch porn make sure its not the trashy unrealistic creepy porn were there is asian chick's, and women look like there boob's have been enlarged 4 times the normal size , your wife might get offended if she knows your watching the cheap porn.

    Also maybe you should tell her in a sweet way

    "Hey hun, I understand you are pregnant, and we have a beautiful kid together , though I am a sexual man, would you be disgusted if I got off every once in awhile,? I just want to make sure its okay with you, I don't want to upset you in anyway, I love you baby"

  • Okay, so she isn't having sex with you, but she's getting pissed off that you take care of your release for yourself? Here's how I see it. A woman has every right to refuse to have sex with a guy if she's not in the mood, just like a guy has the right to turn down a woman too. But if my husband is horny and I'm not in the mood, to deny him the right to take care of his need for himself is just plain cruel. I mean, people have got needs, you know?

    So no, it wouldn't bother me if I was refusing him. Now, if he was just going for the porn and not even letting me know when he needed some attention, then I might get a little upset.

  • Actually, I think its quite hot when a guy touches himself. So what if she is pregnant, she should still want to please you, she is your wife. If for some medical reason she couldn't have sex, she could at least give you head and or jerk you off. Go right ahead and watch porn and rub one out. Your a guy and its perfectly normal. and no. you are not selfish.If I was your wife, I'd watch porn with you. and you wouldn't be having this issue. Good luck hun.

  • I would hate it if my boyfriend was looking at porn. I would make me feel like I was ugly. Have you talked to her about this? Just tell her you need some sex because you're getting restless. Tell her what is going on because I think communication is key.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Hey Guy, if you wife has a low sex drive it could be she has a very low testosterone level and need help. Testosterone is the hormone that give us all (male and female) sex drive.

    About your question. I think all of us like to watch the opposite sex masturbate. I know I sure love watching a woman masturbate. There is something sexy about knowing she is giving herself pleasure.

  • Its perfectly normal to masturbate even when in a long relationship. Studies from magazines have shown that over 75% of married men masturbate regularly.

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  • I can't imagine a woman awful enough to have a problem with this. If the situation was reversed, would she not masturbate?

  • WELL YESS. Of course my man doesn't get that much from me anymore since I was pregnant. Just give her time. If my man went off to porn it would make me feel like I can't trust him anymore.

    • Why would it bother you? And why would it make you feel like you couldn't trust him anymore?

  • I would talk to her about it because even if her sex drive is low she could still get you off. she probably would want to. I personally don't like my boyfriend watching porn but she may be ok with it. this is something you have to talk to her about