What do you feel when you get a boner- not just your thing, but ALL of you- your whole body?

Are you hyper or uncomfortable rest;less anxious embarrassed , how does being aroused enough to get a boner feel to you? I know you can get them from nothing. I'm referring to the kind you get from something, when you're really aroused.
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  • This is really a great question and it just goes to show the differences in the male/female sexuality. A lot of females have very vivid raunchy fantasies while males themselves are generally lacking in the creativity. Most males tend to feel frustration/tension when they have sexual energy so they will attempt to release it as quick as possible. They treat sexual energy as it is a distraction, rather then savoring it and flowing with it. If you ask a guy after sex what did he liked about it, he'll probably just say oh my d*** went in and out. What made it great? Oh she was hot. etc etc. While females can tell a multitude of details, as if it is a narrative/story in their heads.

    A common theory for this is pleasure avoidance. When he was a teen he masturbated quickly to avoid getting caught by his mom. So therefore he learns that whenever he is horny, he just has to release it to feel better.

    • Thank you for the detailed perspective. I think you can say he needs to release without considering him pleasure avoidant. While many people may feel shame for masturbating , I don't think its pathological to want to release a build up. If I had to throw up or sneeze, I don't think id savor that either. When you need release, its overpowering. I think about nothing when I masturbate. Its physical feeling&making sure I cum. I didn't feel good about it growing up- I still don't make noise.

    • btw I wasn't expecting a fantasy report. I actually wanted to know more about the frustration/ tension & how it affects your life during times where sex/ jerking off, is not an option.. What do you do? Do you act different with people around you? Do you try to avoid being turned on?

    • "I think about nothing when I masturbate. Its physical feeling&making sure I cum." There are different levels of arousal. For example, the average male has a orgasm that last for 7 seconds. However, for men who are highly aroused emotionally they can have a orgasm that can go on for far longer (tantric sex). I personally regularly experience a 25-35 sec orgasm.

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  • If a woman turns me on enough to get a boner while I'm with her I feel anxious, very anxious like I want something really bad. If I'm turned on for a long time I might even start to shake a little bit from the adrenalin/anxiety and I will start to bite my lips or lick them like I'm hungry because I want her so bad.

    • Do you act different around her, or you can cover it up? Do yo avoid a situation where you are aroused but know you can't 'eat' ? lol

    • I act different but I'm not sure how to describe it really. I get really quiet and just focus on her. I make sure to smile even though I don't feel like it because a girl told me it creeped her out if the guy doesn't smile or have a visible good reaction (besides the boner lol). I don't think it's that easy to cover up but generally if I'm comfortable I won't try to hide it but if I don't know her well it might be embarrassing. I will only avoid a situation like that if I feel shy.

    • And whether I feel shy or not really depends on how the woman is acting and how well I know her.

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  • well I know this is about the guys getting turned on but it only seems fair to give them an idea of how it works for us too..my skin gets really sensitive so that my cloths rubbing on any part of me either tickles or irritates me so bad I want to just take it off. my heart beats a little faster. my breathing gets a little more shallow. I often have a little smile, then I'll have a mini fantasy. If for some reason I can't fix the "problem" myself or with the person that turned me on I just move on and deal with the rest of my day.

    • oh thanks alot:) how long does it take you to 'move on' ?

    • generally it takes about 10 minutes or so to "move on" sometimes less sometimes more it really depends on how turned on I am.

    • k thanks:)

  • My boyfriend jokes around saying I'm having boners. He's not my first boyfriend to tell me that he can totally tell if I'm turned on. ( I have rerally high hormone levels, puberty hit me like a piano falling on my head XD) I have to say the only thing I notice to be different when he's having a boner is the way he looks at me. While I'm sure he can make a whole list of the things he sees that indicate that I'm turned on XD Guess things are just the other way around for us...

    • do his eyes look glazed over or how does he look?

    • He looks at me like a predator ready to defile his prey XD Seriously it's a mean, hungry, animalistic look that says ''I'm going to hump the crap out of you! '' You can just see the spark in his eyes, they are somehow darker, he just turns into an animal XD

    • I asked because that's exactly the image I had in my head of what iv'e 'seen' . Thanks lol you worded it perfectly - I thought I was being dramatic or something but yea that's it lol (You think its on purpose or just instinctual?)

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  • Elevated heart rate, breathing, pulse. Not unlike when the adrenaline is running (probably from the same cause). Things seem brighter to him due to pupil dilation (pupil size grows more proportionately than penis length in arousal).

    If you are in a situation where you can get someone to do something with the boner you'll notice that the further along he gets the closer the testicles draw up closer to his body and the more they swell.

    just before finishing there is a flood of warmth inside his head over the right hand side. If she times the stimulation starts and stops right he can get this hit without ejaculation, and go on to get one or more repeats before finishing.

    • head meaning penis or top one ? & thanks a lot that was really informative , detailed, with no hassle :)

    • Inside the cranium.

    • really? wow cool.. I don't think I feel anything in my head- mostly in the rest of my body... intersting, thank you,

  • personally I'm a little too comfortable with myself and will wake up and cook breakfast in the nude with morning wood... also I live in an appartment and there is a window in my kitchen that people walk by lol.

    • youre probably very well known :)

    • haha, probably. I know of at least 3 girls that have seen me cooking or drinking butt naked.

  • for me my body don't feel to much diffrent but I do notice that I think less rationaly and more about how to masturbate or get sexual services from my girl or friends with benefits or sumthing... I don't feel embarrassed or anything like that its just an insane urge to get some relief down their somehow and fast as possible

  • I don't really feel different.

    • :-) thank you .

  • I think it depends on what I'm doing/where I am. If I'm in public I feel embaressed, if I'm alone I may jerk off, and if I'm going to the bathroom its a pain in the ass (it makes it a lot harder even harder if your sitting down.

    • wow, thanks for the information :)

    • Sorry did I say to much

    • no I was being serious. if I was being facetious I wouldn't have put a smily. no worries lol,

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  • horny as hell, unless its in school then I'm like WTF why now GO AWAY!

    • lol thanks,

  • I can't tell you about other guys, but during extreme arousal, my muscles get kind of tense (especially in the back). The mind also becomes extremely focused (on sex, duh). Sometimes I get shivers. I tend to zone out quite a bit too. It's nothing special really.

    • Well it sounds pretty distracting. If that happened to me when I'm studying or on stage or at work it'd be pretty irritating. Back muscles- I had no idea. Does that hurt eventually or get uncomfortable? Zoning out- tats not good at school or work -right? Do you avoid situations that you think may cause this- or leave if its happening, or just role with it?

    • It's very distracting. The tense muscles generally fade fast enough so that I don't notice. I try to hide it when it happens. It's the worst when you're dancing with someone, because they can tell so easily. Sometimes you can get impatient when it happens too, but not always. Usually, people don't notice though.

  • like a car engine revving up, ready to go. I guess hyper in a way but not overly hyper. if anything sensitivity on the rest of the body goes down because your blood and focus is concentrated elsewhere lol.

    • oh that's interesting- about the ret of your body being desensitized.. thanks:)

  • bit restless

    • So do you run around or walk are do anything or just stay still & accept it?

    • walk around and chill... ignore the erection

    • yea k, thanks :)

  • also I would say my body gets more sensitive to touch when iam aroused and have an erection

  • well I don't really feel anything, unless iam really aroused I can feel my heart beating faster, I start breathing a little faster I imagine sexual things I would like to do with a woman. if it doesn't go away ill have a wank then ill be good until next time. I remember in high school I would get erections out of no where and I wasn't turned on by anything or even thinking about sex. sometimes even painful because I would be full cocked in a strange position and that hurts, id have to make an effort to re adjust hoping nobody sees. I remember I couldn't go up to present to the rest of the class because I had an erection just one time it happened but it was embarassing. I remember having erections that lasted way too much time , when this happens it actually starts hurting even throbbing, not that I do viagra or anything

    • Thank you for the detail :)

  • i just wanna have sex when I get one, unless its morning wood, then I just want it to go away so I can go back to sleep.

    but I don't really feel anything in the rest of my body.

    • I meant including emotionally. mood , thinking, that kind of stuff. when I said whole body I meant body systems... :)

    • nothing. I just think about sex with my girl. my mood doesn't change.

    • hm OK, well if you didn't have a gf?

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  • Aggressive. Testosterone is mad powerful. Blue balls are the worse tho, kills a guy to get them

    • you get them? I'm just asking because not all guys do. What happens when you get a rush of testosterone tho- does it change how you act or what you do?

    • Whut, seriously? As far as I'm aware getting horny does significantly affect testosterone levels either way. I don't think becoming aggressive when you're horny is a normal reaction oO

    • Aggressive? As in going for it? So when your horny you just sit back and hope you get something? That's interesting I question for masculinity. And as for testosterone men are always exerting it through out the day and sometimes more than others especially intimacy and cardiovascular activities

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  • It gets me thinking. Up to you to guess about what, with your dirty mind. :D (6)

    • Really? that's the dominant effect? You think about 'stuff'?

  • I usaully get sharp pains in my chest, a tightness in my left calf and a minor headache... oh yeah I also get this cold feeling in my right wrist... now what do you think?

    • Are you being facetious? If not I think you should see a Doctor,

  • I try to hide but doesn't always work. Some girls turn away, other stared and some like to touch, and play. This happens because there a bunch of cute girls, The way it mostly happens is I'm at the beach and a girl comes along in a bikini with a body that is skinny or normal, even better if the breasts what to come out of the bra and you can see the pussy. I get it so hard, that some times semen come out, just a few drips

  • Hard, ready to f*** something.

    • what does it feel like to feel ready to f*** something- I'm a virgin so I have no clue:)

    • Same but it's like, you just want to play with a girl, then be in her. I don't know how else to say it. :P

    • The 'same 'as what?

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  • My mind goes crazy for sex. Little touches to my d*** feel great. Uncomfortable dependin on where/who I'm with

    • uncomfortable in what sense yo mea like you want to have sex, or like you are worried someone will see.. & what sorts of touches?

    • Uncomfortable as in I hope "my boss" doesn't notice I have a raging boner. And little touches as in accidentaly brushing it with your hand or anything. With I'm really really horny like that, masturbating is much quicker and much better

    • ohh I see. OK thank you ;)

  • all you feel is your feel is a hard d*** lol

    • All YOU feel is your d*** is hard. A lot of people feel other things & I personally do not have one, so no I feel nothing when you get one :)

    • yea there no feelling but a rock in your pants now when your using it that's a different story!

    • When you are using it.. you are talking about yourself not everyone else in the world:)

  • Feels pretty damn good. I think that what it's supposed to do.

    • How does it feel good- in what way?

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