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Most people cross over this topic again and again, without having any real knowledge of what the hymen is. It is believed to be that the hymen is a small membrane that covers the opening of the female gentalia. Once a virgin has sex for the first time, this membrane is expected to break, and blood is expected to be lost.
People say that if you don't have a hymen, you don't have virginity either, but I'd like to debunk this myth. In short, virginity can be defined in a number of ways, but it has absolutely nothing to do with a hymen.
First, a hymen is not a membrane that covers the vagina. If this were to be true, it wouldn't be possible for girls to menstruate. The hymen is the fringe found around the outside of the vagina. In fact, some girls aren't even born with it, and it can be torn from something as easy as walking or riding a bicycle.
When most girls have sex for the first time, any bleeding would be due to bleeding of the tissue within the vagina, and the hymen (fringe located outside the opening of the vagina) only tears in some cases. Less than half the women who have sex for the first time actually experience bleeding.
So, in short, a hymen has nothing to do with virginity. Most people of the world have no idea what a hymen actually is, and its time females became aware of their body parts. If you didn't experience bleeding the first time, then don't worry. This varies from female to female.
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11 13Wouldn't a girl fingering herself, or using tampons break the hymen at some point?
No, it would not. There is no such thing as breaking or popping the hymen. Any girl who has a hymen (the fringe located around the vaginal opening--which some girls aren't born with) will have it intact for life. If a girl or man was being unusually rough with the vaginal tissue, she could tear the fringe (hymen) There is no such thing as breaking or popping a hymen, period. The fringe (hymen) can be torn, but it can never be annihilated or broken off from simple activity (that would be seriously abnormal and almost physically impossible). Again--a woman born with a hymen (vaginal fringe) will have it intact for life, and it can only be torn, not popped or broken as if it were some membrane (which it isn't, and never was)
Good question. Good answer.
Loss of virginity is penis in vagina period. Hymen has nothing to do with it
Not necessarily. The hymen does have nothing to do with it, but the definition of 'losing your virginity' really comes down to each separate person. I mean, a lesbian with 'gold star status' really can't be defined as a virgin in my opinion if she's slept with other women even though she's never been with a guy. And a gay guy probably isn't going to lose his virginity by putting it in a woman but another man. I do agree with you, but there are more ways of losing your virginity than simply penis in vagina.