What gives someone a highly sexual presence? compared to not?

some people give off sexual vibes whilst others don't as much...it's not down to looks as well. what is it?
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  • I think its confidence and intensity. I've been told I'm that way at times when I wasn't even trying to be. I think it does just come as second nature to some of us. I think style has a lot to do with it. I had a friend explain to me, and I've seen this in other people too. Sometimes when people have a stylish, yet nonchalant way of looking, of carrying themselves, that helps too. They don't look too "good" or too high strung. They look simply, for lack of a better word, chill. This relaxed persona I guess coupled with the intensity and natural confidence combo, usually win out on the "sexual vibe" end of things.

    I think there are different styles that have this effect, but not all styles. Sometimes it's the more deliberate intensity that isn't so relaxed. I guess the difference between the two can be seen in eye contact. One type will have very direct eye contact in a relaxed state and you'll feel whatever sexual vibes you feel, real or imagined, because you are picking up that confidence and intensity. On the more deliberate approach, they are actually trying to give you those subtly dirty looks and if you're not completely clueless you pick it up.

    I do think looks have a lot to do with it though, but not everything. I have a curvy shape and a certain look, and I'm sure they help me out in times when I just throw on something not very form fitting or revealing or I don't wear makeup - they boost what's already there in how my carry myself to being something that is not only picked up through vibes but an aesthetically appealing package. not saying different looks can't be sexy, but I don't think all of them are. then again, this is all subjective because not everyone likes curvy or my l0ook but may still pick up those vibes.

    thats the best way I can explain it and I think its the same for guys pretty much. I don't think you should ever try to be this way as a regular thing, though. occsionally, go for it. I think if you try to be something you're not, a completely different person all the time, unless you're a damn good actor, people can pick up on that. plus, the people you already know might laugh at you. lol

    Hope I made at least a modicum of sense here. Later.

    • Hi, good post. I see where you are coming from. A mix of mental/physical presence and the gaze. Personally I have been told I am good looking- not to sure about that myself - but that's what I have been told and I have inherited the broad shoulders/tall physique which apparantly is a plus, but the main thing that holds me back is that I have a lot of self-doubt which along with my child-like eyes and slightly scruffy appearance make me feel like I come across as kinda boyish and naive. hmmmm.

    • so yeah I don't think I "have it" nor can imagine ever having that certain aura. maybe if I felt more confident, but still my general way of dealing with people (i.e. friendly non-confrontational) would take a way any edginess that has that sexual appeal.

    • yeah, its definitely not for everyone. and there's nothing wrong with just being the cute, "nice guy" type, there are lots of people who like that too. I generally dont, personally, but one of my best relationships was with a guy like that and he definitely handled things in bed, vibe or no vibe. he could be sexual when it actually mattered for us. he was the golden boy type, the good guy, very attractive, etc. we had opposite energy types but they blended well together for some odd reason.

  • the key is to ooze self-confidence, nothing sexier than someone comfortable in their own skin. you can't fake it, it has to have come from self acceptance and not from deep-rooted conceit and cosmetic surgery - you can smell a fake.

    • Yep, I couldn't agree more. It explains why when I leave the gym sweaty and gross I'm hit on the most, even more than when I'm dressed up. I always think its because I'm happy with myself and confident in that environment

  • some people just have that way about them...alot of people say I walk , talk, move sexy but I don't try to ...sooo I think sometimes it's second nature

Most Helpful Guys

  • I think when you have a powerful state happening inside you, then you un-consciously move, talk, walk, in a way that is attractive to women. It's kinda like when you see someone that is genuinely happy, you know, yes, that person is happy, but when you meet someone that is faking it you feel something is off, so when your state is so strong women can pick up on what kind of person you are.

    Maybe you even release phermones, who knows

    • agreed!

  • A lot of it has to do with body language and pheromones

    • I read the other day that we can hardly smell pheromones, that it's just a marketing trick to get people to buy those silly perfumes. Anyway, body language indeed, being yourself (not chasing after girls etc. a more natural approach I mean, not trying too hard), sensual stuff like eating deliberately and taking pleasure in it and exuding that pleasure, but not too 'ooh' and 'aah'ish, just :) this is nice.

    • I don't know because I've been attracted to men that wernt confident (and honestly not that cute) but there was something that I found beyond sexy... if not pheromones I have no idea what

    • I'm sure scents/colognes/perfumes definitely play it up a lot, but as far as I know pheromones do play a fairly large role in sexual attraction. That's why some woman find their significant others' sweat appealing to the senses.

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  • It's all about having an intense inner TRUE confidence. Trust me :)

  • The word "confidence" has appeared in every single post by a woman so far. Please get that hint.

  • Confidence more than anything. If a person is confident in how they look, others get that same vibe. Also, it's in the eyes, smoldering eyes. . .