Pleas don't get offended by this, it is just my opinion.
Girls have to show up while guys have to perform. The first time a guy has sex everything is new and super exciting. This means that they will probably finish very fast. Sex is often over in seconds or a minute. No guy wants that to happen, it is embarrassing.
Also guys don't decide whether or not they are going to have sex on a given day women do. Women hold the power when it comes to sex which means that if a guy wants it again he needs to be good at it.
Pressure is the problem. Some of it is real, some of it is in our heads.
Guys like women also have to worry about things like pregnancy, at least if they are responsible.
We're constantly told our whole lives to put the pushy on a pedestal, as if our whole lives should revolve around it. So it gets your nerves the first time
Getting a girl pregnant can make you nervous too.
Lasting long enough/being good enough/being big enough all contribute
Just be nice to the fellas and keep your mouth shut.
What do you mean keep your mouth shut.
Don't talk about his lack of experience with your girl friends. Don't make him uncomfortable. Basically you should give him the same treatment you'd expect from a guy after having sex with him.
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Guys are mostly worried that they won't know what to do. Guys are expected to "preform" in bed, and appearing to be incompetent in front of your girl can be embarrassing.
Just about everything, I don't think there is anything that we don't get nervous about
If the girl will like my body, if my penis will stay hard and if it will be big enough to make her happy, if I'll last long enough to make it feel good for her.
because all of the pressure is on the guy to perform well
All those things that you are worried about, plus the girl liking it, penis size, being able to get it up, performance beyond that, and being talked about behind our backs. Kinda more stuff than girls when you think about it...
True.
you severely underestimate the pain and the psychological implications if it being caused and to an extent controlled by someone you're intimate with. its a;so not very common or a woman to turn psycho in bed and rape you.
Nervous that they'll hurt the girl, that they won't perform well, and yes just as nervous of getting the girl pregnant and having that responsibility.
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