What is a high number of sexual partners for a girl?

So guys say they don't want a girl who sleeps around " a lot", but no one really says what " a lot" is. What is a high number of partners? Can a guy have more partners than his counterpart? Do you think if women refused to stop sleeping with men that had high numbers men would be more interested in a relationship?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • High numbers for a girl?

    Mind you, the older and more experienced a guy is, the less likely he is to be hung up on numbers. Guys on here tend to be relatively inexperienced and young, so to them, # is a big deal. There are SO many factors that go into this. If a woman is 35 years old, is it realistic to expect her to only have been with one person? No. Furthermore, I think the "expectation" on here that the female better be virgin or only have had one partner stems from the fact that a majority of male users on here are 18-24 and have never had sex, so to them that's what is expected.

    It's fine for inexperienced to want inexperienced, but the older you get the more likely you are to have a higher #

    Enjoy your sex life as you please and don't worry about being accepted. Generally, as long as you aren't known within your community as being promiscuous, you're fine. It's the girls who've been labeled who *should* be paranoid because guys may not approach them and appreciate them for the "right" reasons.

    And society has deemed it acceptable for a male to have more partners than their counterparts.

    • You know, I've never seen it that way. A lot of the guy on here are very inexperienced in some areas. Hm...

    • Is inexperienced the right word? Someone can very experienced in sex by the sheer number of times they've done and the things they've learned. Or is experience, merely, obtained by being a with a large number of people regardless of what you do with them?

    • A majority of guys on here haven't even been with one person, which is why I mention that. And no, I don't determine experience by #'s. The person who's been with their boyfriend for 10 years will be more experienced than the person who's slept with 10 people.

  • i think that's different for everyone. I prefer the guys who don't care about things like that. however, usually it relates to how many partners they have had themselves and sometimes insecurity issues as well.

  • i personally think it shouldn't be a limit if guys can do a lot so should girls. you know?

    • I agree, but I'm paranoid for that very reason. I'm not in double digits yet but I hear it's borderline deal breaker if a girl is.

    • i wouldn't even tell the guy how many I would just say a few... but keep an advantage keep it tight not loose lol. that's my secret

Most Helpful Guys

  • I have no idea what "a lot" is. I guess more than one, not counting me lol

    Ok, I have had gals who had more than me, less than me. So it doesn't become an issue with me. I don't see the need to worry, as long as it is and has been safe.

    Guys settle into a relationship because they want to...just not always good at picking the right one to settle with...or she the right one...

  • I'm still yet to sleep with a girl that's had fewer partners than me. Obviously it depends on her age, but I'd say an average of 3 partners a year would be fairly high.

    It's a pretty shaky debate to get into, most people lie about their "magic number" anyway (girls always say fewer than the reality, guys always exaggerate).

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  • Depending on age range it can vary. I think for a guy and girl if you are between the ages of 18 - 30 and have had more than 20 partners that is a high average. However, this doesn't mean that you don't practice safe sex. I do not pass judgement on anyone because I am not perfect. If I had a serious talk with a partner and found out that they have been with that many people I would want to know that they have been tested and have no STDs. I would do the same for them.

  • not really. you can't flip gender dynamics... men wanting a girl with low numbers is a natural part of our psychology. not so much for girls.

    i would say no more than 2-3 for a girl your age, otherwise I'd just be in it for the sex

    • Pump those breaks. As far as I remember, there is nothing psychological about a man wanting a low number, that's nothing gender related. No one want to sleep with someone that is notorious of sleeping around. 2-3 guys at my age? You don't even know how old I am. Most girls my age have had more than 3 boyfriends.

    • I agree with QA

    • you're right, they have. and the girls I've dated with lots of even past boyfriends have so much baggage that they're just not worth the time

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  • I'd say 10 is a high number. It is for me, at least. And that's all that counts in terms my sexual relationships. I suppose, if I had slept with 20 women, I couldn't say 10 is a high number, but I haven't.

  • I personally would NEVER deal with a girl who had more than 20... 10 is also a very high number but acceptable

    C'mon! 20 sexual partners? That's WAY too many for a girl or a guy. It's indicative of someone with real emotional and intimacy issues

  • well if a gal sleeps too much on purpose she is a slut.

    if a gal had hard luck in finding a proper relationship and had quite a number ofpartners . she is not.

    so it really depends

    • Even though I don't fit into this category, a woman who in enjoys sex within or outside a relationship is a slut?

    • No. I don't think so. like come on people are way fast now. they have fwbs . unless the girl is cheating on someone she isn't a slut. dont you enjoy sex? i never get it. what wrong with being horny and having sex:p.

    • how many partners did you have btw?

  • 50 is a lot.

  • Highest number I heard in person is "I stopped counting at 200"...

    • That's crazy.

    • Remember what people always say: don't judge

  • For me? My boyfriend better have 0 partners before me as I have had 0 before him.

  • I'm not interested in being with girls that casually have sex whether it is one or twenty. I want a girl that only has sex within a relationship. I don't have a specific number, but it should be a low number. I don't care if girls started imposing those same rules to the guys they date. I'm not a hypocrite. I do the same thing I require out of a woman. It's not that hard to do to be honest.

    • I'll also add that I'm not religious or insecure of the girl having more partners than me or the fact that some of those guys were better than me. That doesn't really cross my mind.