What makes a blowjob or handjob bad?

I asked this as an update in an earlier question but more specifically, my guy and I were talking about past partners and he mentioned a girl who gave him the worse bj of his life to the point that he still makes a face when he talks about it. I asked him what she did because I didn't want to accidentally do the same thing but he could only really describe it as 'it was just really weird.' I assume she didn't bite him or else he would have clearly said that but is anyone here be able to shed some light on what would be 'weird' in a bj? Oh and out of interest, is a guy able to tell if a girl has never given a bj or handjob before vs. her just being nervous because it's the first time the two of you have sex ?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Not getting one.

    Seriously, I may be the exception rather than the rule, or maybe I'm just not a connoisseur, but I think it's rare to have a bad sexual encounter. I mean, obviously no biting, and don't suck too hard or it'll because bruising like a hickey (and hurt). That could be it. Gently suck like with a popsicle or a straw, not like a vacuum. Most of the sensation comes from the licking and stroking really. Otherwise, every guys gonna have their preferences and little spots that feel great, but those you can only learn over time because it's different for each person.

    Handjobs are okay. Bjs are preferred though. I mean, I give myself a handjob almost everyday, I want something different, you know?

    First time/nerves... I can't really comment on that. Either tell him before hand, just be honest that you want to, it's just the first time or whatever. Or if you can't talk about it like that, just be confident and just go for it. No fear. A little bit of nervousness is usually a good thing though, it means that there's something special about what's happening.

    • Thank you for all the advice :) If I don't tell him it's my first time, do you think he can tell though? I mean, as long as I'm careful not to scrape my teeth against him or anything extreme.

    • I honestly don't think I've been anyone's first, if I was I couldn't tell, but I don't think I was. I don't know if you can tell or not. If you are confident though you can either fake your way through it, or at least show him that you're really into it. If he knew it was you first he might (MIGHT) feel weird about it for a number of different reasons. He might ask at some point during or after, so just be confident and sexy and tell the truth, you might impress him.

  • 1. If you focus on what might go wrong, it will; e.g. don't look right over there

    while we drive past it will influence the driver to bear to the right. Let's

    concentrate on what's the good thing(s) to do.

    2. First timers together ... yin = explosive sex but yang = not enough

    information to know what's pleasureable to the other ... yet. This can also be an

    excuse for critics and a titilating invitation to try, try again.

    HJs ... some like these best in a mirror with gal behind guy ... but this one rates a

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    BJs ... so many ways to use your hands, tongue, throat (if experienced) and many

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Most Helpful Girls

  • I imagine pulling him toward you by the shaft and starting to nibble on it like its a hot dog be kinda hot to some dudes out there. XD

  • he could have been saying that to psyche you out so you can be determined to give him the best bjs ever...

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  • for handjobs, its all about how gentle or seductive your being with it. My first handjob was cool, but... also bad. it was like she was trying to pull off the skin. it was her first time too I guess.

    and for blowjobs, its all on the girls attitude. its hard to finish when she's not a very sexual person in the first place. Like what the other guy said, it shouldn't be like a chore. biologically speaking, if she isn't into it, than she's not aroused. if not aroused, then no saliva. no saliva mean dry. then all you feel is dry lips around it, and a toungu that you can't even feel.

  • Bad if:

    1. She's not into it and she makes it seem like a chore or like she's being forced to. I want to at least think you enjoy it.

    2. She doesn't listen to advice I give her about what I like. I know my d*** better than you ever will, we grew up together.

    3. She bites.

    4. She gets too excited with the boys. Family jewels are sensitive, please be careful.

    5. And most of the other ones fall under those categories.

  • If its handjobs then friction sucks because then it hurts, as for bj's when a girl relys on only the head of the d*** instead of going up and down the length.