What percentage of heterosexuals are demisexual?

[DiamondRuby]

So I'm just realizing there's actually a word for someone who isn't sexually attracted to someone before an emotional connection is made, though they may find someone aesthetically pleasing. To me, this was just a given, which is why I was often confused by people's struggle to wait to have sex, and I couldn't ever understand why society was so sexual. To me, sex and love are on separate planes. Not the same thing. Love is needed for sex. Sex isn't needed for love. I'm just rambling now, but basically, I'm discovering why I always felt so "outside" of a sex-centered society. I have a sex drive, and I can be sexually attracted to someone (but again, only after an emotional connection). What percentage of heterosexuals are demisexual?

[Anonymous]

I do not know about the percentage, I did not read. but I am demisexual. I cannot think of sex before I am emotionally attracted to someone and I feel insulted if someone proposes any sort of sexual activities. I get very confusingly harsh. I do not think about sex most of times, and when I do it is with imagination and memories that I have.

But I do not agree that sex isn't needed for love. in the contrary love becomes completed with sex. beginning of love does not need sex, sex also does not bring love. But love without sex will not find its final meaning. sex is a stage in love, when your love wears the clothes of reality, when it comes to this world from imaginations. with becoming physically attached. It is a booster of love and affection.

when I loved for the first time I Immediately went sexual. though I was in myself before it, but I had so many emotional and emotionally sexual dreams before we got along. and I was a tease in that.

But I mean if you have this feeling too, after finding someone that you can strongly love you can become more sexual than anyone.

In my eyes the difference between us and others is that we have a deeper view and thought on ourselves and sexuality and relationships. or a natural feeling that help us find that view. maybe it is related to sex drive as well but personally I have a high sex drive. I don't feel like releasing it with everything.

I also have autism. do you have any sort of disorders such as aspergers or autism?

maybe it is related to that as well. because some of the autistic people have the possibility to be asexual. And the feeling that we feel, not being sexual many times, is close to asexuals. though that is fairly different.

[DiamondRuby]

I don't have any disorders that I know of, but I can probably relate it to past experiences. My "prudish" behavior, as it gets called by my peers, could have been created. Or maybe I was born demisexual. It's hard to say because I remember always being this way, but my experiences I mentioned did occur early in my childhood. Regardless, I'm probably a bit contradictory in the sense that I'm VERY heteromantic. I don't fall in love easily, but when I do, it's hard. That's when I may begin thinking of someone sexually, though it's not over abundant. I'll take cuddling to a Disney movie over sex any day. That could be because I'm a virgin (and proud of that, but eh, who knows. I'm 17. I still have a lot. of discovery ahead of me. That's not to say I don't ever want sex. I definitely do. After marriage. And I'm not even religious, so I guess I'm confusing haha

[Opinion Owner]

I am exactly the same. I do not fall in love, but when I do get to like someone it is hard. as I fell hard in the first time. and I do not believe in waiting until marriage and being proud of virginity but I would be a virgin now if I didn't find the one. and yes you do. I hope you find your partner and romantic relationship and experience love and making love as soon as you want. let us just consider this feeling as something that makes us do not act foolishly and do not be as foolish as many others. go on by your feelings and you'll be okay.

[cipher42]

As far as I am aware, only one of my friends is demisexual, though she's gender queer and bisexual, so still not heterosexual. However, sexuality is a spectrum, so there are many people who may lean in that direction to some degree or another (particularly women), though really demisexual is only if it's complete or almost totally complete. I am not aware of any studies, but from what I have personally experienced, demisexuals are a fairly small group, but they're definitely out there.

[DiamondRuby]

No wonder I've always felt like a minority lol I can't believe it's a thing! Excuse me while my mind is blown. I'm obviously pretty ignorant yet haha

[deliriousmistakess]

Are you also demisexual?

[kittykatg]

I learned about the term back when I took human sexuality my sophomore year of college. I sometimes think I fall into that category sometimes not.

[DiamondRuby]

I just didn't realize it wasn't normal haha that's why one night stands, masturbating to photos of celebrities, etc etc always confused me. Apparently "demisexuality" is the minority haha

[kittykatg]

Yeah see that's why I am never sure if I really fit or not because I have a really high sex drive and can acknowledge if someone is attractive and could have a one night stand if I wanted to. I'm only attracted to people I have an emotional connection with though.

[DiamondRuby]

You sound like a regular heteronto me, but that's for you to decide. See, I fit the criteria to a t almost. I do have a sex drive, and I know when a guy is hot. I'm only distracted by it if I happen to like him at the same time. A hot guy can pass, I'll notice, I'll move on with my day. He's fun to look at for a couple seconds, but then it just gets weird. So sexual attraction. This changes if I have real feelings for the guy. I'd never be able to have a one night stand. I'm waiting until marriage, not for religion, but for me. I guess I may have found why that's just a given for me haha

[DiamondRuby]

*no sexual attraction

[kittykatg]

I guess I'm in the middle somewhere then.

[funkipunk]

No, I wouldn't consider myself demisexual. I want to build some sort of a relationship with a girl before going and having sex with her, but I certainly have that sexual attraction to her right from the get go.

[DiamondRuby]

Sound like a typical guy lol I could see it being more common in women

[Shut_Up_And_Marry_Me]

Ya you probably haven't seen any hot guys before. Both are possible separately or together.

[DiamondRuby]

Oh yes I have. Trust me. That has nothing to do with it.