m 57...
the roots for me were actual... sexual betrayal by a girlfriend some 33 years ago. we were both 24. i was a slacker and her eyes were turned toward the future... no problem, happens all the time. As it turns out she was seeing (sleeping with) a guy without my knowledge, all the time dropping very small hints. Upshot, i say to her on the phone, "you've been to bed with him, haven't you?", to which she said, "Yes". Floor out from under my feet, stomach in knots, all that. But in the process of dealing with the breakup over the next few weeks, i found myself vividly imaging what she must be doing in bed with HIM. This no fetish, no paraphilia, and to call it cuckoldry at best harkens back to Shakespeare. It is purely psycho-sexual, and i have found myself returning to research the topic periodically for three decades. I'll leave off here, and if the Opinion Owner wants more info i will be more than happy to share.
or for that matter i will answer any questions from anyone.
i believe its called cuckold or something like that. It's a fetish.
Usually people who develop fetishes have something satisfying or pleasuring from either experiences from sexual wise or something that interests them, they just tie sexual encounters into it . BOOM a fetish is born.
For this certain fetish, I think its something along the lines of dominance/masculinity issues. I had a guy pulled me a couple of months ago and asked me if I was "well endowed" and if I was, would I consider sleeping with his wife. I thought I was being punked or something but after I said no and went home, someone told me that was an actual fetish. Its like being shown how to do things properly, not for me but maybe because I'm young and selfish.
that doesn't make sense. What is the psychology behind it? what are the factors in that situation that triggers their libido, that turns them on?
well it goes back to their childhood to adolesnce stage, what makes them turned on by it is a father issues, turned on by doing taboo things such as sex and public, or any other type of rebllious behavior. Usually those who have those kinds of symptoms are usually going to have a long list of other things they would find turned on by. Its just another one on the long list, what actually triggers is seeing their woman being put to work by a man who is more dominat or masculine themselves.
To Asker... i've posted several times along this thread, but i will address your question directly. In a most primal definition, studies have indicated that in many species, when a male faces loss of his mate to another, presumably to a male farther up the caretaker food chain, the jilted male will actually produce more semen and an intensified sex drive. Something about it being a defense mechanism, the body trying to become more virile maybe. In my case what produced the first inclinations is that by social convention he was more qualified to take care of her, inseminate her or whatever. From there it became a matter of visualization, picturing all they must be doing in bed. Remember, i had experienced her sexually. I could see her responses transferred to the other guy. In that fantasy i was both there and not.
The thought of my boyfriend with another girl makes me wanna murder all females, lol. But I get turned on by the thought of him watching me getting effed by one, maybe two other guys. Why? I don't know.
would you actually do it ?
if you need a hand getting rid of the bodies, give me a call. I keep rope and duct tape in my pockets.
I don't think its likely that it will ever actually happen in real life:( Since my boyrfirend is all like "your only mine" and blahblah lol. The thought of me with another guy makes him wanna murder all males too, I'm pretty sure about that lol. So I guess we're fair. whatever, its a fantacy lol
My first boyfriend was into this...
but for him, I think it was the power he had over me..
that he could make me do this...
did you do it?
ditto... did you do it?
yes. many times
It's a fetish, it's like trying to find the psychology behind getting aroused by feet.
m 57... at my age i tend to get analytical (i. e. boring), but yes, while the whole foot thing does constitute a fetish, which is basically a fixation on a body part or particular items related to them, i'm pretty sure the wife-swapping thing comes under some other heading, since it not strictly an emphasis on specific items. What heading is i'll have to research. Somewhere i've heard the term paraphilia, but don't quote me on that.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I would be VERY very jealous. No thanks.
And she doesn't want to see me with another woman. Or man.
She gets to experience someone different and it is consensual since the guy watches. There might be some ground rules laid out if the other guy is a stranger. Like no kissing, etc. Usually you hear that it's his buddy or something though.
It might have something to do with voyeurism too.
but psychologically speaking what's the turns on?
I think it is parallel to voyeurism because it is watching a sexual act though they might not be strangers. Psychologically speaking I feel that the same thing applies.
For me it was never strictly about voyeurism... maybe tangentially, but not at its core. Visually, it is the idea of seeing all the normal responses of mutual sexual activity, but without being allowed 'in'
I’m not sure but when me and my wife first tried it I was extremely turned on by it I couldn’t believe it turned me on but it made me harder and hornier than ever to see her getting fucked and filled with another mans cum and she got off seeing how it turned me on then when it was my turn I couldn’t help but thinking about her being full of another guys cum I didn’t last long and had the best orgasm ever I filled her pussy up with my cum she was oozing with both our loads
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