What qualifies a person to be a virgin?

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I've done oral but never actually have had intercourse.  I do believe I'm still a virgin.  Some people think oral counts as loosing your virginity, but I don't see how.  What do you think?

selfishstars · Accepted Answer

It depends on what your meaning when you say "virgin" is.

To some people, it is whether or not you've had vaginal intercourse. In this sense, you're a virgin. Some people get a little more specific and say that it is whether or not your hymen is broken, but some people lose their hymen through ways other than vaginal sex (either other kinds of sexual play like fingering or toys, or through things like horseback riding or playing sports), others still are born without a hymen or only a partial hymen.

To others, virginity is supposed to represent purity/innocence. It would be misrepresenting yourself if you said you were a virgn because you do have sexual experience. Personally, I wouldn't consider someone who has done, say, everything except vaginal intercourse a virgin. You're still sexually experienced. Or take a lesbian woman, for example. She may have had a number of sexual partners, done fingering, oral, used toys, etc., but never had sex with a man and does not plan to in the future. Is she a virgin? I don't think so.

Really, I think the best way to deal with virginity is to be honest about what experience you have had and what experience you haven't had. If a new boyfriend asks you if you're a virgin, say "I've never had sex before, but I have had oral sex", that way you aren't misleading him at all.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Who cares? You will one day not be a virgin in either respect, and no one you meet will be able to tell that just by looking at you. As long as you are true to your own set of morals, do as you wish.

dwiller943 · Accepted Answer

If his penis didn't go in and out of your vacooter repeatedly (and of course, consensually), you're still a virgin.

Rail2k · Accepted Answer

People need to realize that virgin is not a scientific term, it was created to mean a form of purity and innocence where a girl hasn't been sexually touched by a man. If you have oral sex with someone, do you really consider yourself pure and innocent?

This should be obvious. If you've had oral, anal, or vaginal sex you're obviously not a virgin by what the word is supposed to convey -- PURITY AND INNOCENCE.

Sephirothsekots · Accepted Answer

No oral does not mean you lost your virginity, to lose your virginity you have to have vaginal intercourse. That means you can do anal and you still would be a virgin. Until you have vaginal intercourse though, you are and will be a virgin. No worries :)

madcat44 · Answer

I only think vaginal intercourse counts but its different for everyone, and besides I don't think everyone elses opinions should matter...only your own :)

travis8888 · Answer

if your cherry hasn't popped (blood flowing from your vagina during intercouse) I'd classify you as a virgin

Xenophobia · Answer

Your an "Anything but" virgin. That means that you will do anything but ride the bologna pony.

droctopus · Answer

If you've never had intercourse you're a virgin, period.  I don't know what's with all this phony different definition stuff.  Some people say it is a technicality but technicalities rule sometimes and this is one of those times...

snackeyg · Answer

If a d*** hasn't been in your ass or vagina. I think of you as a virgin.

chiefnavarro · Answer

id say your not a virgin the penis still penetrated your body.

Anonymous · Answer

Here are definitions from Merriam-Webster dictionary:

Virgin: "a person who has not had sexual intercourse"

Intercourse: "physical sexual contact between individuals that involves the genitalia of at least one person "

Technicality wins. Why does it matter to you anyway?

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