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I'm MTF transgender, and I thought I'd share what it's like being so.
I'm still pre-op; I only transitioned in November after having FFS (facial feminization surgery) in October (Here's my Mytake on that: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/h ealth-fitness/a50096-what-it-s-like-getting-facial-feminization-surgery ), and you can't have SRS until you've lived as your true gender for a year.
In almost every way I hate being trans. For me it's meant having to endure decades of uncertainty and doubt about who I am, decades of feeling emptiness because I was unable to be sure about who I am.
I showed no signs of femininity as a child; my favorite toy in fourth grade? G.I. Joe. It was only when I was a few years into puberty that I began to realize that things were wrong. When you're sexually attracted to girls and being so is a new thing, it's not immediately obvious to yourself that what you feel towards them is not just attraction, but also envy. Like sure, all of a sudden I was into boobs, but never having felt that way before, how was I to know that wishing that I had them wasn't a normal part of desiring them?
By eight grade I did know that there was something different about me, and that difference was that I should have been born female. Yet that changed nothing about how I lived my life. Why? Unlike some transgender people, I wasn't repulsed by being my genetic sex. I didn't hate being male; in many ways I enjoyed masculinity. I reveled in my nickname of "Boomer", which I'm sure some of my college rowing teammates still think of me as. Yet something was always wrong. Some part of me always felt apart even as I felt as masculine. The best way that I can describe how I felt about being a woman is "being on the outside looking in".
For many years after college I did nothing about how I felt and continued to live as a guy. I even had a girlfriend, and the feelings I felt towards her were totally masculine. I wanted to hold her, to protect her, to have her femininity complement my masculinity. I felt angry when there was nothing that I could do about the asthma attacks that she suffered because it made me feel powerless. But our relationship was not to be, and that was because deep down some part of me knew that I couldn't be a man.
Many transgender people worry about getting the shrink's letter that they need to start hormone therapy. I didn't. Why? Because I was so uncertain and doubtful about who I am that it finally reached the point where my then shrink said "I can't tell you what you should do, I can't give you any advice. But what I can tell you is that I think you're a candidate for hormones, and here's the letter you need to get them". Spurred on by that vote of confidence, I started HRT (hormone replacement therapy). Yet a few months after I started I was still so uncertain that I stopped them. Why exactly? Damned if I know- all I know is that it wasn't right at that point. I changed therapists and felt more certain about who I am, certain enough to restart HRT and a year and a half later, have FFS.
Restarting HRT when I was 100% certain was amazing. For the first time in my life, I could feel my body become as it was meant to be. Having FFS was magical- in one fell swoop it became possible for other to look upon me and see my true self. You can't imagine what it's like to no longer have to look in the mirror and see someone of the opposite sex.
What Girls & Guys Said
12 37I'm not a fan of transitioning but I respect people's individual autonomy. Gender dysphoria will likely be curable in the future but will take time for medicine to go that far. Until then, people just have to do whatever that makes them happy.
Fascinating myTake
high risk
interesting
Thanks for sharing
research says.03 of the population is transgender, less than 1/2 of 1%., 99.7% are not. I don't get this trans obsession in the media and in politics.
Don’t Change Who You Were Born To Be...
Men As Men, Women As Women...
Fuck The Opposite Sex, Raise Children, Be Normal...
Men must absolutely love you. Guys love “females” with dicks.
I have question, when you have sex with male do you have orgasm as normal born female or? I always wondered how it feels like to have vagina...
What I know about gender dysphoria is that it is a chemical unbalence in your brain, now I know it’s your body and you can choose to seek treatment in any way you deem fit like getting surgery and becoming a women, good for you all power to you, but I think they should have offered you an easier way to fix the issue like fixing the chemical imbalance in your brain with pills like they do with any other chemical imbalances that people get, just for the record I’m not against what you did at all, it is your body and as long as your happy that is all that matters I just thought there might be an easier way
Did you cutted your penis off yet?
I'm right of center and support LGBT and transgenders. I hope you don't hate me because of who I am. I don't hate you because of who you are.
It's kinda like being a mutant in the X-Men universe. Except instead of cool powers, they have a mental disorder that gets treated by bodily mutilation.
Nice take
do not care
Do you watch a lot of porn?
I will be brutally you honest dude, you most probably have a case of autogynephilia and fell victim to the notion of societies doctrines regarding to transgender.
If you get off to the of being a woman, sexually, then my friend, you just have a sexual fetish.
this world has become sad...
In a social vacuum most transgender people would feel quite alright with themselves, I think. But there's no such thing as a social vacuum if you're a human on planet Earth. I can only try to imagine how hard it must be for them.
A normal person will never understand how it feels.
Interesting take...