What's the point of handjobs?

I absolutely hate giving handjobs, but sometimes it's the only feasible option for a given situation. it's not that I hate pleasuring my boyfriend, but I feel like there's no such thing as a successful handjob because the guy is always going to know better how to do it and what he likes. guys: is there even such a thing as a good handjob?! how can I get better at this?
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  • They are a great thing to recieve from your girl friend there is no such thing as a bad hand job, even if you think you are doing it wrong, he will enjoy it more than you know and by the sounds of it you are careing and will do fine.

    - ask what he likes or how he likes to be stroked.

    - watch him and learn what he does.

    - Lube is good to use.

    - the first two inches of the end are the most sensitive.

    - try siting behind him and reach around and stroke him, you can also touch or rub his upper body in this position too.and caress his inner thighs as well

    - most guys like their balls played with a bit to, so integrate that in at times.

    - if you are having fun he will be more receptive to it, let him know that you love the way he feels and that you really are enjoying it, guys really get hot when you give them positive feed back and compliment them.

    *** comunication is key

    p.s. if you have any questions about any of this feel free to send me a message

  • Unless someone is really insensitive, I don't think the quality of a sexual experience is primarily linked to the quality of the stimulation. Its about how attracted they are to the other participants, and how enthusiastic and engaged the others are. Why do so many guys like threesomes (not me, but lots do)? How can they feel any better? Obviously they don't, its an excitement issue. Getting a hj from someone enthusiastic is a lot more exciting then masturbating, even if I could 'do it' slightly better on my own.

    If you're really not sure that you're basically doing it right, ask for instruction. Beyond that, the 'key' is to be mentally engaged. If you are excited doing it, he'll be excited getting it.

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  • I think they enjoy it more just because YOU are the one doing it. When they are alone, they're thinking about you, so it must be nice for them to have you do it for a change.

    But I honestly can't just give a hand job; it's way to difficult to ever restrict it to that and alllllwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyys leads to a bj with my boyfriend. So I guess I prefer a combination lol.

    As for what he likes, you should always ask him while you're doing it. I don't like giving a hj with it being dry, I'd imagine that hurting him after a while. It's easier when it's wet, too :P

    • Some guys prefer dry.

    • He's free to make suggestions :P

  • They scare the absolute sh*t outta me. Afraid I'm gonna rip something. o_O

    • same here... I'm afraid to be too rough with it lol

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  • Boy would I LOVE to teach you! For me, handjobs can provide a much more intense orgasm. For example, I had a girlfriend who would tell me not to move or make a sound as she stroked me. She would then stroke me softly and slowly, sometimes with just the fingertips. When I was ready to cum, all I could think about was, "Don't move, don't move, don't move, and don't make a sound". Because she couldn't tell when I was about to cum, she wouldn't speed up or stroke me faster. The result was the most intense orgasm.

    One of my kinkiest fantasies is to have a woman ask me to show her how to give the ultimate handjob, on her boyfriend, or husband. I like the idea of her watching and taking mental notes. I hope this helps. nothingtosee@yahoo. com

  • Lol well you certainly have a guys mentality about that. I mean its a way to get off. Sometimes its fun for us and your right it is the only feasible way of messing around at certain points in time. I would stop being frustrated with it and just maybe jerk it faster to get it over with? Regardless we have fun getting them and I'm sure when you give him the HJ there's a little bit of pleasure your way to just appreciate the better times I guess?

  • If the situation does not permit a BJ and HJ is the only option, still it is better for us to receive it from a loving and sexy woman than to do it ourselves. Seeing her, hearing her and being touched by her and her presence next to us is exciting beyond explanation.

  • If a girl is touching my d*** in any way it is better then I could ever do it. There is something about a girls touch that is so much better

  • Handjobs--and sex generally--are more about company then technique. Anyone can have an orgasm on their own, at any time. The only reason to bring someone else in is that it's better with them, than without.

  • I only get off on non-penetrative, I'm in love with handjobs :) You, like many others, fall into the fallacious thinking that receiving a handjob is like jacking off. Its a totally different thing, and to enjoy it you have to take it as such.

  • That's a good question. Well I love them, and to be honest i'd rather have a girls hand on me, then my own. Its also another treat and form of intimacy as well. Any handjob if you add a nice massage oil or non stick lube, is extremely mind blowing! But I def prefer slow sensual ones.

    But if you absolutely hate giving then what's the point in wanting to know how to get better at it? A guy will probably tell. If I girl likes giving them and is in to it, it is so much more meaningful and intimate. Just curious!

  • I love hjs and don't like bjs...if that makes me strange *shrug* so be it...a nice, soft female hand is wonderful, and like goflipaburger said...how nice to have your lover doing it. And, as Shaun said,

    dry is better..at least to start with...if it ain't happenin' or is taking too long...then use some lube.. .

  • Honestly, I've ALWAYS been responsible for my own orgasms, either by increasing the tempo, friction, mental stimulation or a combination thereof. As far as I'm concerned, none of you do anything just right.

    • aw. that's depressing...and exactly how I feel most of the time with guys lol. for me though I try not to let it be all about the orgasms... if what he's doing feels good and our relationship is being positively impacted because we're more intimate with each other, then eventually the technique will fall into place. I can't think of a sexual activity that can't be taught or improved upon. sure it might not be as perfect as when we do it ourselves, but it can get better

  • This explains it perfectly

    https://youtu.be/NVII2e3UWyo
    • lmao

  • Heres my opinion. Guys give themselves handjobs on a daily basis, give him what only you can give, a bj. And you won't feel like you are doing it wrong or will hurt him.

  • We might be able to get it done more quickly ourselves, but it doesn't feel nearly as good.

  • Okay, you can cook your own food. Or you can ask someone else to do it for you. Oftentime, the latter can be more pleasurable! Nothing like someone else's hand showing their intent in wanting to stimulate you.

    Guys (like me) love handjobs. It's the only form of sex which (i) is easy to give (ii) the guy can simply lie back and enjoy. A guy feels super-released after he's blown his load.