What's so bad about condoms?

[Anonymous]

I heard guys don't like them. Why does it matter if it doesn't feel as good. Would you rather have a STD? or a baby?

[Amiler1214]

I have a question for you... why are you trashing everyone here that answers your question? Just because we live different lifestyles than you doesn't give you the right to criticize other people's choices.

I use condoms and take the pill. condoms have plenty of flaws -- they can be up to 99% effective, but with "typical use" their effectiveness drops as low as 85%! Also, they don't protect against crabs, herpes, or HPV (which all can infect areas of the genitals NOT covered by a condom). So stop telling everyone they'll get HPV when you obviously don't know what you're talking about! Also, it doesn't matter how careful you are, condoms break, they slip off they dry me out, they don't feel as good for ME or the guy (so no, it's not just about him). Birth control pills are something I can control, they make my periods light and regular and clear up my skin (and bonus made my boobs a little bigger lol). I'm young, I'm healthy, I eat well exercise and don't smoke. So no, a stroke or blood clot is not in my immediate future, so I'm not sure what other side effects you may be talking about.

and as for female condoms -- they're ugly (they hang outside the vagina and get in the way), they make an awful noise sometimes, has a pretty high failure rate, is more expensive than male condoms, and can be pretty difficult to insert for some women. so before you say how much you'd be willing to wear one, you might wanna try one out.

If you're worried about HPV, get the vaccine. if you're worried about STDs, don't have sex with anyone you don't know the history of and get tested. Not everyone in the world has an STD! thousands of people have unprotected sex every day -- how do you think babies are made?! it's good that you are concerned but I think you are being kind of ridiculous telling other people they're going to end up with STDs and babies just because they make different choices than you.

[toosexualcat]

If you're allergic to latex like I am, they hurt. The alternatives are super expensive. They dry you out WAY faster than not using them. OH I know, lube it up... blah blah blah... who wants to go, hold on hun, I need more lube because you're chafing me down there! No thanks!

Oh the guy's POV, they say it cuts down on sensitivity. They don't really feel much of anything with the thing on. I don't know if that's true or not because I don't have a d*** to know if it's true or not.

As for your std question, well honey, wtf are you doing having sex with people who aren't clean!? have them show you the paper proving he's clean and well, no std's right?!

A baby? Yeah well... that can happen WITH a condom too, so you aren't all safe there either. NOTHING except abstinence can guarantee no babies.

[Asker]

so guys expect their girlfriends to go on drugs that mess with their bodies? no thanks. At least condoms don't give bad side effects. So what if they get a STD test? doctors don't test for them all. Condoms are safer.

[KarKingJack]

I think this girls allergic reaction to latex is gonna be a pretty noteable side effect ;)

[Asker]

you can get non latex condoms

[toosexualcat]

You should still make sure you know who you're f***ing before you f*** them... make sure they're tested for ALL std's. Goodness...!

[Anonymous]

Ok.. iv read all these answers, and noticed that you keep saying over and over again, "I don't think its fair that the boy FORCES the girl to get on birth control". I would just like to inform you that my boyfriend does not MAKE me be on the pill, but I CHOSE to get on the pill AND use condoms to be double safe. sooo.. not every boyfriend forces their girl to be on the pill... jus sayin.

Oh yeah, and if the pill was so horrible like your making it out to be, why would they be selling millions of them every day? It is definitly safer than condoms.

[Cheekynicko]

My wife has not used Birth control pills for many years now - I don't expect her to fill her body with cemicals/hormones when I would have no intention of using a male equivalent. So we use condoms, except when we were starting a family of course. Why don't guys like them, they are uncomfortable and regardless of using light ones have a big impact on the sensitivity during sex. It seems odd that you think it should not matter to a guy if it doesn't feel that good... Why do people have sex if not for enjoyment and a feeling of intimacy - hopefully with someone they love/care about.

I'll continue to wear them as there is no alternative, don't expect any awards for doing so, but I do think you should at least appreciate that it does effect the whole experience of a sexual encounter for a guy.

[l-hedoniste]

I love condoms. I'm disease- and child-free, and I love, love, LOVE condoms!

[Asker]

glad to hear 1 guy likes them

[TheAnswerer]

Considering that possibly tens of thousands of condoms are being sold every day, you can't say no guy in the world likes them.

However, if I'm in a monogamous relationship where both of us are clean, then there's no need for a condom.

About pregnancy, well, if she doesn't want to be on the pills, then I can of course wear a condom, but if she's OK with pills, then it's fine.

[Asker]

I don't see why anyone would WANT to be on pills. They aren't good for the girls health and have bad side effects. The guy is selfish if he expects a girl to go on them just because he doesn't want to wear a condom. Who cares if its a monogamous relationship? doesn't make any difference.

[TheAnswerer]

If it's monogamous and we are both clean, then there's no way we can "catch a disease" becaue we are not sleeping around. About "wanting" to be on the pills, consider the fact that the pills are still being produced, meaning they are being bought. I doubt that any girl would go on the pill because she's pressured to. Oh, and, isn't it also selfish for you to expect the guy to buy condoms and do nothing yourself? If you want him to use condoms, he has the right to want you to go on pills.

[Asker]

At least condoms aren't a drug that will harm my health. I never said a guy had to buy them, he just has to wear them. You can still catch a disease in a monogamous relationship, like I said before there aren't tests for all the STDS.

[TheAnswerer]

OK, rephrasing last sentence: Oh, and, isn't it also selfish for you to expect the guy to WEAR condoms and do nothing yourself? If you want him to use condoms, he has the right to want you to go on pills. About the rare untestable disease argument, do you wear gloves in your daly life? You know you can catch millions of different rare diseases through touching subway rails, money, etc?

[TheAnswerer]

After a point, it is the thin line between being logically safe and being a hygiene freak, the exact location of the line differing from person to person.

[Asker]

the guy doesn't have to wear them, I would wear a female one. But they don't like that either! I'm just saying condoms can't harm my health like hormonal birth contol will. So its selfish of the guy to put a bit of extra pleasure in front of my health. condoms can't be that bad.

[TheAnswerer]

I agree that condoms are useful and definitely worth using in many situations. I just think that there should be a line after which it is sort of obsolete. =) When we make such decisions, we make risk/reward calculations. If the reward is greater (both in magnitude and in probability) than the risk, then we end up "risking it". Nietzsche, a famous philosopher, once said that we can only experience as much happiness as we feel pain, because both are results of taking risks. =)

[genevieve]

I don't know how it is for guys but I heard they are uncomfortable and they don't feel enough. For girls sex without a condom is slightly more pleasure too and I feel it's more intimate.

STDs? well don't sleep around and get your boyfriend tested before you have sex. They test for everything that could do you serious harm. Most of the things they don't test for you can still get even with wearing a condom.

A baby? The pill is safer than condoms, the only better method would be using both or staying abstinence. No birth contol method is 100% effective, exept of course not having sex.

There no serious side effects to the pill that wouldn't also apply to aspirin or ibuprofen or any other medication. There always is tiny little chance you get a heart attack or high blood pressure, but I never really heard from anyone who had trouble with this. So unless you abstain from meds at all, there's no reason not to take the pill.

[taster]

atta girl! =D

[Asker]

Condoms are just safer. I don't care if they get a tiny bit more pleasure without. I care about my health and I've got less chance getting a std using a condom then without even if he's been tested (for the few stds they test for) hormonal birth control is unnatural and it's better to be off it. I'm not going to take drugs everyday when there are better things around like CONDOMS!

[genevieve]

do that then, easy

[Asker]

I will! I just get annoyed of guys whinging about condoms because "it doesn't feel as good" little whimps.

[taster]

I don't whine...I don't use them

[Leeggg]

Are you one of those people that assume every single time someone has unprotected sex they receive an STD and a baby? I haven't used a condom with my girlfriend in almost 4 years and I still don't have a baby. Or an STD.

[Asker]

so you make your girlfriend go on the pill? I think that's unfair to her. Birth control messes with her body, it's not natural. You can also give her STD's that you don't know you have. If she gets cervical cancer, it's because you didn't use a condom.

[KarKingJack]

Lol, I couldn't be someone like that. Seriously like, 'if she gets cervical cancer', blow onnnnn

[Asker]

its true. men don't know if they have HPV or not, because there isn't a test. That's how women get cervial cancer, from having sex with men who have HPV.

[KarKingJack]

Its not so much the fact that its true (read: propaganda) but the fact that you live in fear of it

[Asker]

I just think it's selfish that men want to risk the health of their girlfriends just because a condom "doesn't feel as nice" birth control also puts her health at risk. Condoms wont.

[Leeggg]

I never said she's on the pill. She isn't. I just pull out.

[KarKingJack]

Why don't you try putting on female condoms?

[Asker]

Guys don't like them either. I will would wear them

[Asker]

I would wear them*

[KarKingJack]

Good.

[KarKingJack]

I'd rather have a baby than have sex =]

[taster]

I don't like them..I only used them during one brief stretch when my girlfriend was giving her body a rest from the pill. My females were always on the pill and I usually only sleep with steady gfs...

[Asker]

I think it's unfair that men expect their girlfriends to go on birth control. I would never take it, it's a drug. Condoms are better, they protect from stds too.

[taster]

LOL! Condoms suck... I didn't pressure them to take the pill..in fact, we never discussed it much...I am married now (almost 16 years) and she has her tubes tied...vasectomies are a good option..sound painful tho..makes me wince...oh by the way...B 4 you criticize me about her tubes...she tied those during her first marriage :P

[Asker]

condoms don't suck, they protect people from things! imagine how many people would have stds if there was no such thing. there's more to worry about with having sex then the pregancy thing. STDS are more scary to me.

[taster]

condoms might not suck for those that sleep around...they do, however, suck for me...

[Shaun]

Obviously, it doesn't matter to her what feels best for you.

[Asker]

so shaun you care more about what you feel then the health of your girl? wow that's selfish. Health is more important then pleasure.

[TheAnswerer]

If they are both clean, and they are both monogamous, then there's no health issue to be worried about.

[Asker]

yes there is. Hormonal birth control causes health issues, and there are STD's that men can't be tested for, like HPV which is how women get cervical cancer.

[TheAnswerer]

I said as long as they are CLEAN and monogamous.

[Asker]

Yes and I said there aren't tests for men for HPV which is a very common STD which gives women cancer. So how do you know your clean if there isn't even a test for that STD?

[taster]

Yeah...by your reasoning I would still be using condoms after marriage..which I AM married...not gonna fly...same sort of reasoning that I should not come into contact with my lover's body fluids like saliva, urine & vaginal secretions...f*** that..i might as well have sex with myself...

[Shaun]

20+ years, no rubbers, no scares of any kind.

I'll go without before I'll bag it. Yes, it sucks that bad. It barely qualifies as sex.

[Asker]

I bet you have HPV and don't know it ;)

[Shaun]

I bet you I'm totally clean.

[Asker]

thats hard tp believe. You can't get tested for HPV because your a man but you probably have it.

[Shaun]

Believe what you want. I'm not going to bag it. I'll go without. Sex with a condom sucks. You're just going to have to find a man who doesn't mind wearing them. As for the rest of it, worry about yourself.

[TheAnswerer]

@ Asker: He doesn't HAVE TO have caught an sTD just because he doesn't use condoms. =) @ Answerer: Dude, is it really worth risking it?

[Shaun]

I only have sex in committed monogamous relationships, yep, it's totally and completely worth it.

[kermitthehog]

I have problems with condoms especially when I'm drunk cause they make it hard for me to stay hard sometimes. But it still support safe sex.

[Anonymous]

they say it's because they lose the sensation

[Anonymous]

Yes, condoms are safer. We all acknowlege that. But sex feels a LOT better without them. Pretty much anyone who's had sex both ways acknowledges that too. So you have to decide how the risk reward balances for you given who you're doing. Having sex with some random every weekend? Maybe stick to condoms. In a monogamous relationship with someone who's clean? Maybe use something else for birth control.

[Asker]

I wouldn't risk it. Even in a monogamous relationship. There is no way to tell he's 100% clean. Plus I care about my health, and birth control is not healthy.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay. Then don't use birth control and use condoms. That was easy.

[Asker]

I will. It just annoys me when guys complain about them.

[KarKingJack]

LOL, excellent Anon

[Opinion Owner]

Well then just date guys who don't complain about them. We have every bit as much of a right to have an opinion as you do. Some guys will never want to have sex with one, some will never have sex without one, and most of us are in between. And FYI, girls come in all 3 types as well.

[taster]

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