What are sexual needs?

I read on here all the time that people in relationships need to have their sexual needs met or they will be unhappy? I don't think I have any sexual needs. What is an example?
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  • People can live without sex. But once they become sexually active (something most people EVENTUALLY want to do, whether at 15 or 55) they'll usually have certain interests or desires regarding their sex life. There's no point having sex if it isn't fun, so whatever it is that you personally think is fun- certain positions or acts, wanting to reach orgasm, etc- because a sexual "need". It doesn't mean they MUST have those things. But it doesn't feel good to be in a sexual relationship and not be satisfied, because you might feel like sex is pointless or like your partner doesn't care about pleasing you. It's nice to be able to enjoy sex fully, to make your partner feel special, and to have them make you feel special in return. If that isn't going to happen, there will be no use in having sex- and it's natural for people to have sexual desires.

    I hope that makes sense!

    • "certain positions or acts, wanting to reach orgasm, etc- because a sexual "need"." "because" should be "becomes", sorry.

    • I only have desires to have love and romance... Not sexual acts.

    • Well, there's not necessarily anything wrong with that, but it's definitely unusual. Have you considered the possibility that you are asexual? Did you experience any kind of trauma in the past that could have affected you? And are you on the pill or any other medication that could affect your sex drive?

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  • I definitely have sexual needs and I am much happier in my marriage when they are met. Sexual needs can be anything from how often you need to have sex to having a sexual fantasy that needs to be fulfilled. Has your partner told you that their needs aren't being met? You need to get them to tell you exactly what THEY mean when they say sexual needs.

    An example of a sexual need: I am a natural submissive. I need to be dominated sexually by my husband to be really happy with our sex life.

  • Totally agree with you,

    I'm 21 and a virgin and I have no desire for sex at this point in my life.

    I often get the desire for romance and closeness and that I get from my boyfriend. But that's all I need.

    I'm sure when you get older, perhaps when you meet someone you "love" you will develop a seire for sexual intimacy.

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  • For instance.

    I like touching my significant others back, chest, and face.

    I like doggy style, and I would prefer it to be done occasionally.

    If someone were to outright deny me some or all of those things, I would be as sexually "happy" as I would be if someone would allow, prefer, or like those things.

    • So you would break up with someone if they wouldn't let you touch those places or do doggy? Even if she was a great woman?

  • Everyone has sexual needs whether it is the frequency, position, act, etc.

    • I don't.

    • So you never get horny?

    • Not often. It's not a need to satisfy it though.

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  • It varies from person to person.

    For me, it's just intimacy in general.

    I need to be intimate at least twice a month or more frequently then that. Regardless of what it is.

  • When one person needs the other to be into their fetish or kinky, etc for them to be sexually happy/satisfied. As an example.

  • I want to feel how an orgasm feel like in her

  • I just want the intimacy and emotional bonding of a sweet during sex. And to know what vagina feels like.

    • sweet girl. And yes I'm still a virgin at 23 >.<

  • are you really 30-35?this question sounds suitable for a little kid.

    • I'm 21

  • You need sex...

    Or at least a lot of full-on body groping, making out, feeling up, oral, etc.

    Preferably leading to orgasm.

    But part of it is just that physical arousing contact. Sometimes I go a few months without it and it sure is not pleasant.

    • I don't need it. I'm still alive & I'm not sexually active.

    • There's a difference between enjoying sex, wanting sex, and having sex. You just need to figure out which is you...

    • You don't need it to survive, but most people find it essential in feeling fulfilled and satisfied and happy.