What to do when your guy just keeps cumming too soon?

[Anonymous]

we haven't been seeing each other for long actually, we've only had sex twice for now. he's such a great guy and he treats me really well the only snag is that he keeps cumming too fast whenever we have sex. whenever we do, I usually start by giving him head and then he cums. after about 20 mins of just snuggling and cuddling he'll start kissing me again and then we have sex, but then he'll come again in the next 5 mins. we get up, have a ciggie and talk for half an hour then we'll start making out again which will lead to having sex and then he comes in under 10 minutes again. lol we were together for one night and had sex four times, one blowjob and he came for all of them, all in under 10 minutes. I jokingly asked him once, "is it me?" and he laughed and said "yea, you're just so hot I can't help it.." lol he said he just needs to get used to me (whatever that means). so guys, has this kind of thing ever happened to you? did you eventually last longer?

[HARDASACACTUS]

This has happened in the past to me but it has been a long time ago and it was when I was in new relationships or just starting dating. He may be able to last longer the more time you are together however if he is just doing the same things each time sexually I doubt it. Change things up. I would say the easiest way to allow you to have an orgasm before him is more foreplay by him for you. It may just be that he is sensitive and will always come quickly and that you take a longer time to get there. There are desensitizing oils he can use to help him last longer these are awkward to use in the heat of the moment. I have never tried them myself I let nature run its course. I do have to say one woman I was with intimidated me and it was to the point I never knew if I would cum, not cum, stay hard or what was going to happen. I always believe that talking to your partner is the best way to go. Let him know. Most guys will accept it as you trying to make sex better for both of you, after all is that not the goal. Though some guys never want to hear they are ever doing anything wrong. That seems to go away with age and maturity. Hope that helps.

[Jonny_]

Hasn't really happened to me, well definitely not more than once in a row... Some nights you can't help it, but once it's happened once it's very difficult to come again say 20 minutes later. It's because the sensitivity of the penis usually goes down after ejaculation, and for a period of time afterwards it'll stay that way, and should make it harder for a guy to come since he doesn't feel it as much. Ways to stop it? They have exercises unusually enough, some doctors tell guys to try to stop peeing midway through as it strengthens the same muscles used to stop ejaculation.

[katiesmuff]

Many guys won't admit it but yes it is common. Happens to us also just much harder to detect. You are still something new to him and he is very excited about the sex. Therefore he has all this built up anxiety and it causes him to come quickly. Once you guys have sex a few more times he will begin to last much longer. It's actually a compliment to you when this happens as it is a sign of how much he is excited about being with you.

[littlecity]

it can happen if he's nervous, and will probably get better as you have sex more, like he said. if it doesn't, he can do kegels or get a little rubber ring to put around his penis that will help.

And I think from the mention of kegels while you pee, I've been hearing my roommate do kegels while he pees. Ewwwww...

[ArizonaRX]

It's not you, it's him. I've been with some really really hot girls that were amazing in bed, and never once would I come 4 times in under 10 minutes each time. He either has no control or he really doesn't care if you are satisfied or not. Neither are very good for you.

He needs to work on his control. Kegel exercises and controlled breathing. And you need to get satisfied damn it!

[sarahsmile8839]

If you both enjoy it, just be happy. Hopefully he makes you cum too ;)

[Anonymous]

the average time from penetration to ejaculation from a man is between 3-12 minutes. think you're watching a little too much porn lol.