What are your thoughts about a 40 year old having sex with a 20 year old?

[Anonymous]

Do you think it is gross? Do you even care? Do you see yourself ever dating someone with an age gap that large?

[Levin]

To each their own. I don't think we should moralise sex too heavily when each person is over the age of consent. One does have to wonder about the motivation of each party though. Given the maturity difference one would have be cynical about the 40 year old, trying to relive his youth, give his ego a boost, or with her for the body? His mentality should be in a completely different place than a young girl, so I'd expect there to be some form of manipulation going on. There's something odd going on from the girl's perspective too. It doesn't sound like she would be psychologically well adjusted either. But, to each their own. It's no one else's business.

[Asker]

Thnx for your perspective. The lady that likes me is an ambitious young girl with a bright future. My motivation is that I am looking for someone with less emotional baggage and yes it is nice to have a beautiful female that is in great shape. For some reason as I get older I have been approached by many younger women.

[Levin]

Let's not kid ourselves here. You get some titillation off her age! I don't blame you though, I'm sure I'd do the same thing if I was in your position/age. I'm sure it doesn't necessarily mean you won't treat her well though. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

"Pitiful" Is the word that comes to mind, for both the 20 year old and the 40 year old...

Ten years is 'huge", at 20 years old...

Getting a life...comes to mind...and I don't know any 20 year old that want a 40 year old unless it might be a musician and a groupie.

[katiesmuff]

It is certainly something you don't see every day, but when it does I see no problem with it. There is not ONE valid reason to oppose a couple with this or greater age difference for not having sex if that is what they want to do. The other thing is that it's none of our business anyway.

I have had sex with men 30 years my senior and was just as good as with guys my age and maybe even a bit better than with some.

I'm not dating them nor am I dating guys my age, they are just all fwb's which is the way I want to keep things.

[pepper01]

i say for go it. who cares what anyone thinks. I'm 20 and I like a guy who's 40 so I know what your going through. if you really love and care about her and have a mental, mental,sexual attraction/connection than that's all that matters. my aunt has a 16 year ago different with her husband and they get have no issues. life is too short to not take chances. if its in your heart follow it :)

pepper out

[desidoll]

Nothing wrong with that...why is it gross? Yup the age gap is quite big but if both of you love each other I don't see any problem with it.

[debsman]

Maybe some of these young people think men get moldy with age.

[desidoll]

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[Asker]

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[Asker]

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[Amillia1981]

I don't think it's that big of a deal with that particular age gap. A 20-year-old is an adult and can make his or her decision. If it was any younger then 20 then it would be kind of gross. I actually was very attracted to older guys when I was in my early 20s so it's not a big deal. I think it's quiet normal for young girl's to be attracted to older men and 40 is not old to me.

[Aries11w]

I think the guy is gross doing it

[PHLove]

I think it's gross, I'm 23 and I wouldn't sleep with someone in their 40s. To me girls that date guys are significantly older than them don't realize they're being taken advantage of and/or have daddy issues...the guys are just creeps who can't get girls closer to their own age.

[Asker]

really? then why is my last girlfriend I had in her 40's and one b4 that in her 40's and another one in her late 30's?

[PHLove]

there's a pretty big difference in maturity level between 20s and 30s...you're old enough to know that. Maybe if you need a girl in her 20s it's because all the good ones your age are taken and now you have to resort to girls who are desperate for attention and validation

[Misty_04]

Yeah I don't care really. If you can pull twenty year olds good for you haha

[WovenEclipse]

I personally wouldn't do it unless I REALLY REALLY liked the guy, but if both people really love each other, then I don't think there's much wrong with it :)

[CuriousEddie]

It's fine... they are both of age, so it isn't any of my business.

[Deft_maiden]

I see women/men with younger partner all the time. If you can pull if off then good for u!

[Brandan_Cromartie]

If it's casual, fine. If anything else I am strongly against it due to the neurological differences in the persons involved.

[VALEN_tine_ANGEL]

well, they are in adult ages and as long as they are happy doing that and are not cheating on anyone else... why should I give a damn about it ?

[Chrissy1986]

i know a few couples with that large of an age gap, and as long as they are happy its no ones business as far as I am concerned

[SirSmith]

Not gross at all ... No. If you lived your life on stereotypes, you wouldn't be your genuine self - you have to live as your capable :)

[SirSmith]

No ... Not at all grossLOL! ;)

and Yes; I do care...

Yes; I could see dating someone even less than half my ageLol!

Why do you ask? ;)

Have a good time and God bless you both :)

[Ezmotts]

She's over 18, so it's all good.

[BlueLemonade]

I think that big of an age gap is gross but that's just me I guess.

[Anonymous]

i might do like a one time thing with someone older but that's it

[Anonymous]

no, no, no...that is gross. I would never date someone that much older than me, let alone sleep with them...it's just wrong...they need to get a girl their own age.

[Anonymous]

I don't really care at the end of the day they're both adults, they can do what they want.

Plus I don't think 40 is that old anyway, I know some men near their 40's who look really good.

[Anonymous]

I have been dating someone older my entire life.

When I was 18 I was with a 36 year old.

17 with a 32 year old.

16 with a 27 year old

19 with a guy in his 40's to 50's.

I am 25 with a 34 year old.

To me age is nothing but a number.

[Opinion Owner]

Id like to add the other day I just met a guy in his 50s who asked for my number. I do not know y I attract older men lol

[Anonymous]

i personally don't agree with it, but its a personal decision. handle your business, but don't expect me to act like I think its a great idea. we all have our own opinions. :)

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong in you wanting sex with her . She is creepy and disgusting .

Being a man , it's understandable to find younger girls sexy and want sex , but she should find her own age guy.

[Asker]

how is she creepy?

[Opinion Owner]

To me , she is creepy to have sex with a person as old as her father.

[pepper01]

wow so its creepy and disgusting to like someone becuase you have a connection and with that connection comes sex?

[Anonymous]

yes it's gross & wrong. The man is like a pedo if he wants to have sex with someone young enough to be his child.

[Asker]

Ok I respect your opinion. Should that be illegal and if so then what age should be legal?

[Levin]

A guy is a pedo if he wants to have sex with children. Wanting to have sex with attractive women with tight bodies in their 20s is understandable at any age.

[Opinion Owner]

well I'm in my early 20's and I think it's disgusting & creepy. I would never have sex with a guy more then 5 years older then me. Why should I when I can have a hot, fit, young guy... I don't see why any girl would WANT to have sex with someone old enough to be her dad unless she can't get anyone else, or wants money from him.

[Asker]

I am very fit and always have been. She is not looking for a sugar daddy and has a great career ahead of her. I also do well for myself and she usually is insisting I do not spoil her with anything and likes to pay her own way. Can you explain what laws if any there should be for this? if it is truly creepy then it should be illegal yes?

[Opinion Owner]

so what if your fit for you age... your probably not as fit & hot as a guy in his 20's. I have no idea why she would choose such an old guy... she must have some weird issues going on... maybe she doesn't have a dad or something.

[Asker]

I actually am more fit than most 20 year old guys. I could be lying but that is just a fact. She is not the only young womanm that is attracted to me. Most women think I look 29 to 33. She has a father. I normally would not date a younger woman in that age group but I have ahd so many younger women chasing me I figured why not? The older women I have dated have been burned so badly by men and are very bitter. I would like to see how it would work out with a woman that does not "hate" men yet.

[Opinion Owner]

lol guys in their 20's don't have wrinkles, grey hair, balding ect... I'm sure you aren't as hot as a young man. Well just so you know... many young women hate men just as much as a women your own age.

[Asker]

i am not even close to bald and have very few grey hairs. And if I have so many women in their 20's hitting on me I can't be that ugly

[Opinion Owner]

the young women interested in you probably aren't very attractive young women... and I'm sure her parents aren't happy about it.

[MrEM4N]

Lol this chick is nuckin futs. She's just bitter that men get better with age unlike women who start to lose their luster over time. Sean Connery was voted the sexiest men alive when he was was 69 and sexiest man of the century when he was 79.

[katiesmuff]

You should continue to answer questions Anonymously, because you certainly are sounding like someone who is not very bright. I know plenty of guys in there 20's who are bald (it is inherited dummy), guys 60+ who look very 40ish without wrinkles, gray hair etc. Wake up and don't act like some female retard.

[Opinion Owner]

who cares what he looks like... what have a 20 year old and a 40 year old got in common? probably nothing... there is a huge generational gap. why is he even hanging around 20 year olds? he's such a creep.

[pepper01]

@MrEM4N why would she be bitter? maybe she actually likes the guy for him. actually men AND women get worse with age not better. as we age nothing good comes from it physically, mentally,sexually,etc but just because of the people shouldn't stereotype her or him. she's not a golddigger nor is she looking for a "dad" or sugar daddy. people can just click and fall for each other without even expecting it so don't judge. @anon. 20 is an adult not a child and at a different place in life

[missxbrightside]

ok anon - you're arguing with a 40 year old and you're probably under 25. just get over it. you can't change the fact that he's hooking up with a 20 year old and we all get your opinion so stfu. QA - you're arguing with someone who is clearly not worth your time. all that matters is that you're having a good time with it. you have no reason to have to defend yourself against this person. problem solved?

[missxbrightside]

pepper - I think he's talking about the answerer, not the 20 y.o. haha