When does sex start to feel good?

[Anonymous]

I've only been with one guy and I've never orgasmed. Foreplay is nice and I get wet from fingering, playing with my boobs, oral, but I don't finish. I lost my virginigty to him so the first few weeks it hurt, esp when he was rough. Then after a while, it stopped hurting. But it never felt good. His penis is on the small side, a little over 3 inches fully erect. I've given him hand jobs so know its roughly a little longer than the width if my palm. And yes he's an adult, not a teen, he won't get any bigger. So my question, is sex ever going to feel good?

[TwistedLogic]

Give it time and it should improve, as both of you will start to understand one another's bodies, desires and likes/dislikes better. However, make sure you are open with each other about things that you tend to enjoy. For example, if a position is doing it for you, tell him not to change it.

I can't comment on his penis size because I am a heterosexual male and I don't know if it makes a difference or not. However, I can tell you for a fact that a man can make a woman orgasm with his clothes on. Therefore, don't be disappointed by certain physical attributes and try to find alternatives to resolve the issues you are facing instead.

I honestly think that each person should understand his/her body well enough, in order to climax with his/her partner(s). Explore your sexuality (through masturbation, watching p*rn, reading articles, etc...) and once you know what you need, you should have no problem in having an orgasm with your partner, as long as he is understanding and willing to cooperate. I have faced a lot of difficulties with some of the women I have slept with in the past. Now you can blame this on me being an adequate lover, but I strongly believe that it was because they did not know what they wanted and left me there helpless and trying to figure it out.

I Hope this helps and good luck for the both of you.

[Anonymous]

Three inches is modest but width is at least as important. If you hurt in the beginning, he evidently was wide enough. A girl's enjoyment of intercourse is more of an acquired "taste" than guys and you will have to teach yourself how to enjoy it. Many girls never finish from intercourse because (my theory) clitoral stimulation is essential for them and it is physically too far from the action to receive pleasure. In p0rn, I've seen some clips where the bud is an inch and more from her Vag opening and penetrative sex does not contact it. I have seen others (lucky girls) where it is right next to the action and is either rubbed or even pulled in on the fore stroke. My guess is that these girls finish far more easily. But I digress.

Observe what gets you off from masturbation and try to simulate it in intercourse. If this doesn't work (as is likely) have him learn to finish you by hand and oral. If he becomes good at this (as I am for a similar reason of compactness) let it become main stream and don't worry about coming from intercourse. Come by any available means.

[katiesmuff]

Could be many reasons. A good lover will have you orgasming during oral if he is determined to make it good for you. So many guys today think if we begin kissing and I move to play with the titties for 2 minutes then get my finger into her panties and up her warm little hole for a few mintutes, then get her naked and let her suck on my penis getting it up, I can then lick and finger her p*ssy for a minute or two, then stick it in her and in 3 to 5 minutes I cum. she should be done and happy. Am I close to what is happening?

[Asker]

Pretty much exactly what we do

[katiesmuff]

Get your guy to change things around and fix it!

[Anonymous]

sounds like you either need another guy or you need to experiment with your own body and find out what you like. It could be his penis size too. 3 inches is small

[alexsc]

Sounds like you just found the wrong guy. I would either find a new guy or work out the problem with your current. Craving a good sex life is natural and nothing to be ashamed about.

[ERB62]

When you start to loosen up