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When I give my boyfriend a blowjob he stops me right before he's about to cum. Why?

When I first gave him a blowjob I was able to make him cum...I swallowed a little in my mouth (I didn't know that he was going to until he told me) and then I finished him off using my hands onto his stomach/chest area (he was lying down). The second time I gave him bj he stopped me right before he was about to come and then he stopped me and did something under the blanket and went off to clean himself off. He came back and told me that out of all the girls he's received head from I was the best. Now whenever I give him head he won't ever let me REALLY finish him off and so I never see him cum. I can hear him breathing all hard and body's kinda jerking up and down and then he'll pull me away and either go to the bathroom or just lay cuddling together. I thought that if I stopped giving him bj in the middle of it, he would get "blue balls" no? Guys, if your girlfriend were to give you head would you stop her from really "Finishing you off?" I wonder if it's something that I'm doing while performing bj, which then makes him not want to get a bj anymore. Please, help!
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Just tell him to relax and do like this:

    First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.

    It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.

    Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.

    Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.

    A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.

    When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.

    Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.

    Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.

    Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link

  • Maybe he's just self-conscious about coming in front of you, like for some reason when you went down on him he thought that you'd been grossed out by having to swallow? so he does it himself so you don't have to deal with the mess. Blue balls is a myth and won't happen if he soen't climax, which as you said, he's doing himself so don't worry about it. Maybe just say one time "I really like making you come, will you let me?" or just say sexily "what do you like?" - that seems to work for me if I'm not sure whether I'm giving him what he likes.. hope that helps. :)

  • Just talk to him about it. If you can have sex then you can talk about it. For whatever reason he'd prefer you not to swallow. Maybe you pushed all his buttons last time but when a guy is cumming he is more sensitive so if you were still sucjing or applying to much pressure after he might have been uncomfortable. Again, he should have talked about it with you.Just talk t him about it and let him know you'd like to finish him off.

Most Helpful Guys

  • No. I don't think you are doing anything wrong. You are probably doing things very right. There are several reasons why is he doing this.

    First is that he consider it gross, which is unusual for a man. We tent to like coming on you or in you.

    Second, he heas bad experience in his past (either real giving head experience, or just girls talking how it is gross for them) and he is afraid that you don't enjoy it and be angry at him. Yes, there are girls who make men feel like that. That means he only does not want to hurt you. Or make you feel bad.

    Or maybe there are other reasons. Only he can tell you the right one. Talk to him. Tell him it is OK to talk about it and that you love when he let you finish him. And talk how he feels and why does he do that. Assure him that it is OK by you.

  • What a gentleman, talking about all the other girls! Very uncool. He may have some kind of unguessable psychological issues.

    It is possible to give a less satisfying finish even if you are well intended. My best finish is Japanese AV style (almost all of them finish this way). Stay at the cap (glans) sucking (not too hard, please) and licking while you stroke very fast with a soft grip. At the moment ejaculation begins, stop all movement at the glans and stroke slowly while contractions are fast and then do short quick strokes at each trailing off contraction and stop between them.

    He may be taking over because you apply either too much or too little stimulation at the finish. Take a look at some Japanese AV (keywords: Asian Blowjob) for pointers. Plenty of this on XHamster.

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  • When you end up just cuddling...does he stay hard for a long time?

    Maybe he only notices that he's not able to come (because he drank some alcohol or he's stressed out about work/uni etc)?

  • your boyfriend probably thinks you don't or won't like his cum... talk to him about it say your interested and that it bothers you that he can't be intimate with you completely...

  • He's worried about your reaction if he were to come in your mouth again, chances are the first time it happened you might have flexed or gave him a signal that you didn't like it in the mouth. If you really want to ease his feelings, during the BJ, tell him you WANT him to come in front of you and/or inside your mouth and that you get EXTREMELY turn on by it, trust me it works :)

  • I want you to not only see my come I want you to swallow it and keep it your mouth until my d*** returns to soft. Fellatio to be from soft to soft is a luxury.

    If I had a penis head injury/scrape so that it is super sensitive and can just barely stand the leadup to orgasm, I might be afraid the extra sensitivity of orgasm might be pain - not pleasure, so take over control myself.

    However, this guy is embarrassed about the finale - he is used to beating off in private & don't get caught. You got the full show at first because he lost control (you are so good). As he gets used to this and you demand softly your desires, you'll get the full show again.

  • Uhh I guess he doesn't feel like... being finished off by you.

  • If you don't like it, don't let him escape :D Grab him and keep going!

  • He's definitely not the average guy. You need to have an open discussion with him about it.

  • Tell him you want to swallow his cum. he should let it happen then. My X didn't want to swollow so I had to pull her off before exploding.

  • It sounds like he's finishing himself off. Maybe he has this idea that it's wrong to come in a girls mouth. As Malekoniky says, maybe he dated a previous girl who told him that no girls like to taste cum.

    Either way, it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. But you should try talking to him about this, and not some internet site. He's the only one that could really reassure you.

  • I think he's just not sure if you want to swallow because a lot of girls doesn't like it, so he's just being nice I think, but ask him about it, that's the only way u'll be sure...

  • He's just crazy, why in the name of the f*** would he finish the job himself? Ask him about it.

  • ok... do this... tell him to come on you... guys find that hot.. if you don't want to swallow that is... because since you never had its hard to because you're not really sure how to.. but practice makes perfect! but def see if before he's about to come to pull out and come on your chest or something.

    • p.s. guys do taste different.. so you might like it.

    • Well not all guys find it hot though. This dude certainly sounds like the exception. I mean I enjoy it personally, but that's me. I'll even bet some ladies will find that gross, it's just a matter of personal preference.

  • Umm that what this guy did but he just pulled out because he thought I didn't like it in my mouth (which I didnt) and he came under the covers or on his stomach. But like he doesn't come at all like he WOULD get blue balls nd I've seen that I highly doubt anyone would want to on purpose and if he is abou to come and you can tell he is then its not because you not good you are I don't know that's kindof weird. Ur bad if he keeps having to pull away if its too dry or you graze him

  • Maybe because he doesn't want you to get the come all over him again.

  • the guy sounds like a douche. I'm sorry but some of the other answerer's are right I mean you didn't want to spit or swallow, so what big deal. that's your thing not his and he doesn't control that. then he's not even letting you finish with u, he finishes under the blanket and then goes to clean off, if you want to finish him off he should be able to have you finish him off and he sounds scared for some reason. then to make matters worse, he's bringing up other girls. real class act your boyfriend is. (sarcasm). if I was him. not only would I let you finish me but if you didn't want to spit or swallow I wouldn't care what you do AND I would just say "youre the best or I love you" something along those lines. I would NEVER EVER bring up another girl during foreplay. that's unacceptable

    u need to reevaluate your relationship with this guy, try not offering him a bj next time, see what he does with that. probably go get it from one of his "other girls he's been with"

    • you finish with him*

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