The answers to just about all of those will vary depending on who you ask. I'll do my best to answer them based on my experiences with a few different girlfriends.
"Like will I have to give him oral sex to keep him satisfied?"
Depends what his experiences are and what he likes already and what he enjoys doing with you. I love having oral sex performed on me (and also performing it on women) and yeah I guess I would say I expect it at this point. Some guys don't like it though.
"how soon into a relationship do guys want sex?"
in my first serious relationship we started having sex about 3 weeks after we met. Oral sex came first. Second relationship was with a virgin and I waited 4 months for her to be ready for sex. She was also new to oral sex and I waited about 6 weeks before she was ready to do that. She wanted to do those things but was afraid I'd lose respect for her if she did because her mom screwed her up. And after she did both of them, she loved it and almost always initiated it after that. Some guys expect it by the second or third date, or will even try for it on the first one. You should wait until it is what you want. I find the longer I wait to get into sex, the deeper the relationship ends up going.
"What sort of things do I have to do to keep a guy happy?"
Listen to him. Treat him the way you want to be treated. Guys are very clear about what they want. Just listen. If you do something and you notice it makes him happy, do it more. If it upsets him in some way, do it less.
"is oral sex and anal sex normal or is that just something kinky?"
Oral sex used to be considered exotic until the second half of the 20th century - and for a while it was known as the "French" way of having sex. Now it's commonplace for people of all ages who are sexually active. Anal is a bit different as some guys need anal sex to feel really satisfied while others like me will do it occasionally but don't really care for it. Actually, two of my three girlfriends used to ask me for anal sex, not the other way around. Things can turn out very differently than you expect them to be before you start.1 0 0 0"Will I have to undress fully for him?" If you want to take your time at this, just wait to be fully nude until you feel close and intimate and safe with him. It might seem scary now but once you are with the guy he may put you at ease. You just can't know. I prefer a girl to be 100% naked when we have sex, but also to be naked when we are just sleeping in bed together so I can feel her body when I hold her.
"What if I only like one or 2 positions? And what if I only feel comfortable doing it in the bed under the blanket? Is that OK or too boring?" Some people switch it up all the time and some do missionary every time. Depends on what you like and what he likes and how comfortable you are with each other. Boring is subjective.
"And How am I suposed to have my pubic hair? Does it matter?" Many girls shave it completely off. That's not totally necessary in my opinion but it's good if a girl is very neatly trimmed and all the hair right around the vagina is shaved to make oral a bit easier.
You are way overthinking this. Think of sex as an adventure of discovery for the two of you. Take your time, and don't move any faster than you are comfortable with, because it is going to be very important for you to be comfortable if you hope to *enjoy* sex. Sure, you'll be a little nervous, but if you put all that pressure on yourself, you'll be a mess and sex will be anxious and miserable for you.
You and your guy will figure all of those things out, and if you've chosen a good guy who actually cares about you (rather than just some guy you think is hot, but who is a selfish jerk who is just looking to get laid), then you'll naturally be comfortable with him and won't be anxious about all of these questions.
Do the things you want to do, but keep an open mind about trying new things. Try something new every couple of weeks or every month or whatever; no one expects you to be a p*rn star the first week you have sex. And, again, if you're with a good guy, you'll find that you WANT to try new things with him, rather than feel pressured to do so.
You'll be fine. Sex is great, and important, but don't set these huge expectations. Let it be fun and enjoyable, and enjoy it in the moment. In other words, enjoy the drive, and don't worry about the finish line.0 0 0 0
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undress fully, yes, you should always feel comfortable with that, but don't force it, if you are not comfortable then do more to bond and get to know him and gain trust.
oral, it's nice for foreplay (right before sex). if you are comfortable with him coming in your mouth then he would really like you it if you'd do that for him, but it's not necessarily
and anal would be considered a little kinky/ less common, many guys are not comfortable with this, defiantly it would be smart to talk about sex before you do it and agree on what you'd like to do. under the blanket may be difficult and may get hot I doubt you would stay under there for long;) as far as positions me and my boyfriend usually get in a routine and very rarely we will change it up, sometimes its fun, just play around, there's no rules to sex, do what you want. and if you have no preference for your own pub hair ask him what he likes.0 1 0 0Just do what you want, & everything will happen naturally.
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0 3You are thinking too much about all this. It should be a process of discovery for you to journey together with your boyfriend.
Pubic hair: either shave or trim it at least. Other than that, everything else just play along.
More important than these are: Are you both mentally compatible, is the emotional bond developing, is there good communication, do you both trest each other with respect?0 1 0 0I know. I'm just scared & nervous... I want a boyfriend but I'm not sure I will be able to be a good girlfriend because I'm still quite immature with anything sexual, I get embarrassed & grossed out. I know the other things are more important, I don't really care about sex but I know guys do & I will have to be sexual if I want a boyfriend.
Dont worry. You will enjoy it with the right person.
Slow down...NEVER forget...males are ALL different...and we wish for WAY different stuff...take me for instance...I insist on giving oral but could care less if I ever receive it...I don't want to do anything anal but love the hell out of pee...I am going to post a link which I hope you might find useful.but just read the facts...the author is an idiot...especially on #2 which he knows NOTHING about... link
0 0 0 0I expect her to at least want to be with me, and trust me. Specifics are just details, sure I have my own things that I like, as she will too. I will expect her to eventually have sex with me, but I'm willing to wait (though not till marriage) if she's not ready yet.
Things I expect
Oral Sex? No, Yes if you expect me to reciprocate.
How soon into the relationship to have sex? I could go a several months before it's expected.
Oral and Anal? No
Undress Fully? No
Multiple positions? No
More places than just under the blanket? No
Pubic Hair? Whatever you're comfortable with.
Does it matter? A little, but not that much.
Things I'd prefer
Oral Sex? Yes
How soon into the relationship to have sex? Within the first month
Oral and Anal? Yes
Undress Fully? Yes
Multiple positions? Yes
More places than just under the blanket? Yes
Pubic Hair? Shaved.
Does it matter? If you want me to go down you then it matters a little more.
Is that too boring? There are lots of ways to keep it interesting, but it can get boring without effort. Basically none of those are instant problems, but don't let things get boring, and also don't try to do things to fast either. Just go with what you're comfortable with and maybe try some new things later once you are more comfortable with him.0 0 0 0
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