When I lose my virginity- how do I not suck at sex?

[Anonymous]

I'm a virgin and I want to be good at it when I lose it...but I don't know how yet. How should I handle this?

[yannick]

don't worry, a girl does not 'suck' at sex. a guy is so easy to please, do not worry. guys have more pressure of being 'good' at it because girls are harder to please when it comes to sex so they really have to know what they're doing to give an orgasm to their partner.

as for you, I say the time where you lose your virginity is ENTIRELY YOURS. It will be your boyfriend's job to make love to you. The only thing you can do is be sure to be ready and pick a good guy, and someone you love. After that, the more you will practice, the more active you will be and you will know exactly what your boyfriend likes. But the first few times, just be curious, see what he would like, try some stuff, but like I said it's more about you. A girl losing her virginity is a big step.

[Asker]

Thanks so much! phew! that really takes the pressure off

[yannick]

Glad I could help! ;)

[Binary_Illusion]

Your not going to know what your doing the first time you have sex. Period. Did you not fall off of your bike the first time you rode it?

The more you practice, the better you will get.

Just don't worry, and have fun with it. And try not to be tense. The more tense you are the worse the sex will be. Just don't worry, he will most likely be a virgin too, and not know what to do. Explore each other, and figure out how things work. Tell him what you like. You know what you like, so tell him. And ask him what he likes.

Other than that there isn't really anything you can do to be better at something you haven't done before.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice!!

[Anonymous]

HaHaHa(laughing thinking about my first time) I just let him take control...I was just there for the ride! I will be honest and say it hurt a little though, but at the same time it felt so good! Each time you have sex afterwards though, you become more aware of what you can do for yourself and for him. If you know how to do kegal exercises, do those rotating. Like do it when he is moving out and then later do it when he's going back in (mix it up), and even do it one right after another sometimes ;-) .

[melissarose8585]

Hormones will take control, I promise. But truthfully, there will be some awkwardness at first, which is normal for everything you do at first. Just go slowly, be open with each other, and it will be fine. If he knows you are a virgin, he isn't expecting a pro.

[ilovelegs]

You're worry way too much ahead of time. If you let yourself lose your virginity to just any guy that comes along that you think it hot and fun, well then that's something to be concerned about. But if you take your time and save your virginity for the guy you fall in love with, can trust, and can feel a deep commitment for, then it'll come natural. It's the opposite of what a lot of girls think. Being all experienced isn't a desired thing when you're losing your virginity because any guy that loves you will want for both of you to experience that together. Having sex comes pretty natural when the couple is in love with each other. It's been going on since the time creation. It's doing what come natural that brings the most satisfaction and pleasure... not faking and going through the movements from what you learned from reading or watching movies.