When men drink, I'm confused do they get hard or can't get hard?

I've had numerous guys say they get horny when they are drunk. I've even had a boyfriend send me horny messages when he's been drunk at a party. People say they have drunken sex. Yet, I've heard men can't get hard if they are have been drinking or are drunk. Men, clarify this for me please.
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  • Drinking cuts off oxygen to the brain. If we thought with our d***s while sober, then we pretty much ARE our d***s when drunk, lol.

    That being said, what would a drunk d*** do? It would stand up to prove how manly it is and then maybe a few minutes later tumble over and fall down. It might do this repeatedly trying to prove a point.

    It will be desensitized maybe. It can endure more pain/pleasure ("Hit me again! Hit me again! Come on let's wrassle!"). But then again it might lose it instantly in a moment and throw-up (I think you can guess what it would throw-up).

    Whiskey d***. As predictable as the whiskey man.

  • Getting drunk lowers your inhibitions, so that might be what those specific guys meant by getting horny when they drink. Alcohol definitely does not increase your libido. Excessive alcohol will decrease your testosterone, leading to a lower desire for sex. Each guy will have a different threshold and a different level of testosterone, libido, etc. to begin with. Most guys that are sexually healthy can have a few drinks and still be good to go for sex. But when you start to get excessive, say 7+ drinks, you might not be able to get hard, or even want to have sex at all.

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  • Drunk has several stages. I think they are very capable of f*cking up to the pass out stage of drunkiness. I've been victim of that problem a few times. Would be with the guy drinking at a party and we would decide to f*ck, find a room and he would immediately pass out and no boner or sex for me.

  • it happens to women too in a way. a slight buzz makes you hornier probably because you are less inhibited. but alcohol is really a depressant so too much screws you up. I call it the upside down V effect..at first a little buzz gets you going but too much just slows you down in every way

  • I've experienced both ways. Sometimes he'll be drunk and take longer to finish, but eventually does. Or he has no trouble staying hard but can't get off. Or at the drunkest, may not be able to keep it up for very long at all.

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  • If I've been drinking just a little bit, I can get hard, but it usually doesn't stay around that long. I definitely have a really, really hard time cumming. Usually it's a lost cause. If I get drunk, there's no way I'm getting hard. Feeling sick to my stomach is quite a turn off. It might be different for different guys. Also, the older a guy gets, the more difficult it will be of course.

  • Too much (like fuzzy memory of what happened) and I'm worthless in the sex department, but a little less than that and I am able to stay hard for a very long time...unfortunately I can only come about half the time when this happens.

  • If my speech is slurring and I'm stumbling around while walking nothing will get me hard. If I have a few drinks I have no problem getting it up and I don't know about most people but when I drink id rather cuddle then have sex any way.

  • It depends on how much you drink, tipsy to mildly drunk usually lets guys get erections that will actually last longer than normal due to loss of sensitivity caused by the disorientation cause by the alcohol. But when guys are sh*tfaced it usually gets so bad that they can't get an erection. So yes drunk sex can lead to awesome super long lasting sex, or no sex at all. It depends on how much they drank.

  • it varies by each guy. Personally, when I drink my thoughts slow down and I can string words together a little better, and I can get really hard as long as it's within the first hour or so, but after that there is no hope for it. I'm soft for the rest of the night.

    • oh, if a girl is patient and sucks on it for a while, I can get hard even after the hour cut-off.

  • They get horny, but a lot of guys cannot maintain an erection due to their drunkiness (which is nothing you can blame them for).

  • Brewer's droop exists for a reason. Too much and you can't get hard because it limits the blood flow to the penis which is how it becomes erect. Just a little can make a guy more comfortable and get him more open to the scenario.

  • Can be both depending on how much booze. Few drinks - can get you horny and loosen up your inhibitions. Too much booze and you might have a problem getting it going...

  • Depends on how much I drink. If I drink a ton and get wasted then getting hard is very unlikely. However, if I drink a small to moderate amount, it actually helps because I am looser, more relaxed, but still aware.

  • Everyone is different I guess.

    For me I can get very horny if drinking or (ahem) smoking. However if I've had quite a lot I can struggle with maintaining the hardness of the erection.

  • Drinking makes me more likely to feel horny and more likely to talk to girls and it makes me able to keep a boner a lot longer also until after a certain point. After that point of drinking too much my penis gets numb feeling and it doesn't matter what I'm thinking or what a girl does, it just can't get hard anymore.

  • When I get drunk I become rather flirty and horny, but it doesn't mean I want sex.

    Have also had a few too much to drink at clubs and was certainly horny and hard enough to be with a girl for a one night stand..