Why am I always getting played?

OK every man I been with always use me for sex and I don't know why that is...i never been with a man who wants to be in love he just want to hit and run...i don't understand why this is happening to me...am I to easy or cause I'm looking for love makes me easy for a man to play some one tell me
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  • Because you're actually actually looking/pursuing those types of guys! You're seeking LUST. You're pursuing guys that give off hyper-sexual vibes that make you very attracted to them, yet they act the way they do to get sex. You're pursuing selfish guys that don't WANT to fall in love and are just out to please themselves...

    You need to look elsewhere... keep an open mind. In dating, drama and games will only lead to a broken heart. The so called "good guys" are out there you just don't notice them because they aren't overly-sexual. They may be shy or more quite. Maybe if they ARE actually pursuing you, they appear awkward. Its because they actually care about you and they're scared.

    The cocky/confident guys that you are sooo attracted to now? They DON'T care... that's why they're so confident around you. They couldn't care less about you, whether they get rejected or not. A guy that is awkward and scared DOES care about you and doesn't want to be rejected because he's looking to fall in love.

    For some reason, girls think LOVE is unattractive, even tho that's what they claim to want. LUST and LOVE are two very different things. LOVE requires an open heart and to take a chance on someone... Love isn't as easy as lust. The common misconception is that good guys are "weak... lacking backbone... too shy... BORING (I hate this one)..." That's people being superficial and FAR too quick to judge. :/

    Truth is... Love is scary. It requires someone to take an emotional leap of faith. It's hard, its awkward, it's uncomfortable... it makes someone APPEAR weak... but really, what about the COURAGE it took for someone to put themselves out there, the courage to pursue someone in general that gives them that special feeling? Good guys aren't "weak, lacking backbone, etc.", they're some of the most mature and emotionally-strong people out there.

    This is what good guys understand... This is why good guys are always complaining on this website... Girls don't take a chance to get to know us. They assume we're boring or weird/awkward/CREEPY (hate that one too)... Instead they're selling themselves short, blowing off the good guy that hasn't had a chance to open up and show himself yet... (who just might be someone you REALLY like...) and pursuing the "sexy" bad boys who (oh yeah) just want SEX!

    Girls have to "settle" to realize they're not settling... Take a chance on your good guyfriend that likes you, that you think is kinda cute, but you wouldn't "normally date"... Give it a little time and effort, I'm willing to bet you'll find what you''re looking for. ;)

    • So, while reading this I was thinking, "this sounds SO familiar." Then sure enough, I scroll up and there's your name! lol. good advice though :) helped me out anyway...

    • Haha! thanks Carmondy :)

    • This is so awesome. And true. You just made me feel lot better I was down because of a stupid player and broken promises. Your so right about the whole attracted to lust thing. Its almost like I know I will be hurt in the end , yet I still do it to myself. Maybe I need to start putting my self first. Thanks for the awesome advice

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  • Well there are a number of possible reasons for this, perhaps you are in the wrong kind of dating scene (milwaukee anyone?), perhaps you put out too early, or maybe the reason is your personal image attracts that kind of man, but I wouldn't be able to say for sure without seeing a picture of you (although I would not expect you to send me one ;D)

Most Helpful Girls

  • wow. ok. you need to get a book called "he's just not into you" and "red flash: how to know when you're dating a loser"

    seriously. girls like you make me want to bang my head against the wall because of how easily you let these dbags play you. don't listen to what they say or tell you. compliments are nice, but ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. and quit sleeping with them, unless you've both agreed to be exclusive and are only seeing each other. and these guys use you for sex because you let them. you teach people how to teach you, by how you respond to what they do. if a guy doesn't call when he says he does, ditch him. if he's late or doesn't show up for a date, ditch him...unless there's a damn good excuse & he remembers to call to cancel. once again, quit LISTENING to what they're saying & WATCH/ANALYZE what they do. it's very easy to say flattering things about how unique & gorgeous you are, but it's one thing to PROVE IT to you through their actions.

  • There are a lot of factors that could cause this problem but understand that everybody eventually gets played so you're not alone! The first problem could be that you might be attracted to players and not the kind of guys that want an honest to goodness realtionship. Another problem could be that you might be sleeping with these guys to early. Looking for love doesn't make your easy, it makes you human but when your on the hunt for love you have to think not only with your heart but with your brain too. I hope that helps a little. Good luck!

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  • A good hint, if the guy is popular with other girls, he is a player, date nerd guys, those are the good guys. Nerd is ot equal to glasses, there are some nerd guys that don't wear glasses.

  • "Lookin for love"? The guys you are letting sleep with you are the guys you SHOULDN'T be associating with if you want a real relationship. You need to wake up, stop being shallow, and look for quality people. STOP F***IN' AROUND!

    Harsh, I know, but really...