Why are women who enjoy casual sex frowned upon?

[Anonymous]

Because some people think they don't respect themselves?

[Anonymous]

Pregnancy and imperfect brains. First off teenage pregnancy is frowned upon in more developed countries because it's far more difficult for a young child to take care of a child. So sexually behavior when your young is far more risky than when your older. So parents often steer young children away from sex. In those children's minds sex because something bad that they should stay away from like fire. This happens generation after generation. Many kids grow up and realize sex isn't bad it's just bad for kids but not all kids make this distinction and grow up still feeling like sex Is bad. The sex is bad group argues with the sex is good group but because both fear encouraging kids to have sex the sex is bad group wins a little bit generation after generation. That is until the two groups reach a consensus: "sex is good under certain circumstances" Defining those circumstances is where the problems set in. Because women are the ones that physically carry a child sex is risky for them so naturally society has a stronger reaction for women. They'll teach young girls to be far more cautious than young boys. So the sex is mostly bad thinkers will be a higher percentage in a group of girls than it would be in a group of boys. Let society grow a little more and start wrapping sex up in morality, government, and religion and it's easy to see why society has much more negative views towards sexually open women then men. Think about what those young girls would ask when they were told sex was bad for kids. Think of how thier uneducated parents would respond. The classic "because I said so" or "because it just is" or "because God said so" probably got used a lot because they really didn't get how pregnancy and STDs worked. It leaves a lot of room for people to make up their own reasons as they grew older many of which were probably bad but believable. Overtime you end up with a culture that now knows how pregnancy and STDs work but have still been raised using the ideas of thier parents. You end up with a lot of people who just aren't okay with sex or sex in certain situations but really can't explain why but they're going to try because for some reason people are afraid of just saying I don't know. But in all honesty this is all just a big guess I really don't know.

[i1T2daty]

That's a great question. There is no physical sensation as intense and ecstatic as orgasm. I think it sucks the guys re usually limited to one yet many women I know enjoy a string of 6+. I love having them and even more, I love giving them.

I see so many posts re: "slutty behavior" on here but men have no similar negative type of word. The casual sex that happens after drinking too much is something I think is "wrong"but only because of the emotional pain it can bring. Stay lucid enough to feel so you will come and not pass out and your a hero to me.

[Asker]

I agree with you that casual sex while drunk is not a good idea for many reasons. I had casual sex a few times but both of us were sober, there was a connection and it felt right.

[KRIEL55]

i think its because of these ridiculous double standards. the way women are supposed to be pure. i personally dont have casual sex but i dont care if someone does. but then it also depends on the situation. for example she has sex with guys who dont respect her. like a guy that disses her all the time, yet she gives it up to him. then im like wtf? have some self respect! but if there is mutual respect and she chooses wisely, i dont look down on it.

[Anonymous]

I don't frown and I've known lots of women that sleep around but none that were actually fulfilled by it. You're lying to yourself.

[Asker]

What you mean I'm lying to myself? True, most of the time I don't get fulfilled by it but there were times I definitely were, especially when there was a connection between us.

[Opinion Owner]

A connection that goes no where or it wouldn't be casual.

[itsallover]

Because women are expected to be pure and untouched until marriage to 'save themselves' and their precious bodies.

[NeverSurrender]

I don't think it is frowned upon by the MAJORITY. The reason I frown upon MEN and WOMEN engaging in casual sex is because most people are not responsible when it comes to sex and they never use any protection and this results in higher cases of people getting infected who then infect others. Also I don't believe men and women who engage in lots of casual sex make good partners in relationships. They may know how to have sex but that's all they bring to the relationship. Sex alone is not enough to sustain a relationship. If women want to have casual sex, I don't think they should be shamed for it, but as a guy that doesn't do casual sex, I don't want a relationship with a woman that does/has.

[Asker]

That's my point by these women being frowned upon, they're not seen as girlfriend material because they engage in casual sex.

[NeverSurrender]

It's the same for men too, there are women who will not want to be in relationships with guys that have had a lot of casual sex. Sure some women won't care that a man has had a lot of casual sex, but some will and the same applies to women, some men won't care and some men like me will care. So I wouldn't say the whole of society frowns upon it, but some sections do.

[NotMyUsername15]

Some guys do it, then I don't see why they can't.

[Asker]

Yes, but people view them as not girlfriend material

[NotMyUsername15]

If in the long run their mentality sucks, then they suck.

[Asker]

Gotcha, now it makes more sense!!! Thank you :)

[FakeName123]

Because for women having casual sex involves a lot more risks. The risk of hitting the wrong guy, the much higher risk of STDs, the risk of pregnancy, etcetcetc

[Asker]

I believe the risk of catching STDs are the same for men and women. I think it's more about what society implies about these women than any other reason.

[FakeName123]

What you believe doesn't matter. Women are way more likely to catch them. It's a scientific fact.

"I think it's more about what society implies about these women than any other reason."

Humans still are not at a point of having developed past any carnal urges. Society judges promiscuous women more for simple biological reasons we all have within us.

That being said, promiscuous people are a big red flag and have been linked again and again to...
... mental instability and higher rates of mental illness
... higher rates of STDs (It's a numbers game)
... be more likely to be a single parent (numbers game)
... have higher rates of abortion (numbers game)
... have less stable relationships and higher divorce rates
... have increased chances of having been in an abusive relationship
... be more likely to cheat
... be more likely to become addicted
... be more likely to come out of a broken household.

Some sources:

cdn.freedomainradio.com/...iage_Partners_Study.pdf
-> Page 19-25. Especially Page 24-25 is quite relevant.

[FakeName123]

www.everydayhealth.com/.../...eaten-longevity.aspx

medicalxpress.com/.../...partners-linked-drug.html

news-releases.uiowa.edu/.../061411paik_study.html

www.barbararisman.com/.../...earch_final_paper.pdf

www.ideals.illinois.edu/.../Saroj_Hardit.pdf
-> Promiscuity is linked to sexual aggression.
-> Page 59. "The number of sexual partners was positively related to parental violence."
-> Page 70. "As the number of sexual partners increased, so did the propensity to sexually aggression."

https://www.bradley.edu/dotAsset/165862.pdf
-> Page 4. "Perhaps the strongest personality correlate of risky sexual behaviour is impulsive sensation-seeking"
-> Page 8. Promiscuous people are more likely to be impulsive, have low agreeableness, low conscientiousness, sensation-seeking and a higher level of sexual infidelity.
-> Page 14. "People who describe themselves as more unfaithful tend to have personality traits linked to a lack of trust and empathy (i. e. low agreeableness)"

www.sociopathicstyle.com/psychopathic-traits/
-> Point 11. Promiscuity is a common symptom of psychopathy. Goes hand in hand with the other study mentioning impulsiveness as it shows it here on point 14.

[FakeName123]

ink.library.smu.edu.sg/.../viewcontent.cgi
-> Page 8. Higher amount of sexual partners is directly linked to higher degrees of psychopathy, narcissism, machiavellianism and an increase of any combination of those 3.

genepi.qimr.edu.au/.../CV262Bailey_UQ_Copy.pdf
-> Page 4, Table 1. (Note: Sociosexuality = Parameter for willingness to engage in sexual activity outside of comitted relationships)

To put it into my own words: I think promiscuity is a symptom of mental instability and is a way of self-destructive behaviour, just like i. e. Obesity (not physical-health induced obesity). It's a huge red flag objectively, biologically and evolutionary for anyone who wants a comitted and successful relationship.
Thus there is no logical argument to me that promiscuity is in any way to be seen as positive.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing!

[FakeName123]

Personally I think the difference of why promiscuity is more harshly judged towards females are as I said above due to higher STD risks, higher risk in terms of pregnancy, hitting on the wrong guy, etc.

but another key aspect is promiscuous women reducing the sexual market value of other women (see here: search.bwh.harvard.edu/.../BaumeisterSexEcon.pdf ) as well as it simply being easier for women to get laid than for men if both would lower their standards. So a man who sleeps with many women does something right in order to get them to sleep with him while on the other hand a woman who sleeps with many men possibly just lowers her standards.

[alfonsosloan45]

WELL, it is because women are the ones that play hard to get IN THE FIRST FUCKING PLACE.

[Solitude96]

Because the only people who can have casual sex are women and men with big dicks a man with a big dick is a stud a man with a small dick is a virgin

[Anonymous]

Because it's easy for women to get sex. No one respects people who do effortless things...

"look at me, I finally got off my ass and washed the table with a cloth after a month! Aren't you proud of me?" No I'm not, because that's fucking easy shit.

[Asker]

I think that's more of a guy thing. I never heard any girl boasting about having casual sex