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Why Both Genders Need to be Educated on Sexual Consent

Why Both Genders Need to be Educated on Sexual Consent

Personally I feel that what can be counted as rape/sexual assault should be added in sex ed. Funny how we care so much about sex that we even go down to talk about what's the best dildos or lubes. But no one wants to talk about what CAN be consider rape or sexual assault at lease. More and more I realize people need to get educated on consent because now its getting ridiculous.

Some people have weird thinking or don't realize how messed up their logic is.

If you look online now about what can be rape or sexual assault, you see there possible trolls or real people thinking backward logic about rape/sexual assault. I remember one time I saw a question on Yahoo answers where a girl found out her boyfriend was having sex with her while sleeping. He didn't get consent from her and there were people who answers were mostly about "well he your boyfriend he can do it" or "you're stupid, you're in a relationship so it's ok". That type of logic is seriously crazy and needs to be addressed. Or people would think that what is considered rape or sexual assault is NOT rape or sexual assault to them, because no one ever TOLD them it's not. This type of thinking can damage other people forever, if people walk around thinking what they think they can do its fine under the eyes of the law and society.

Not being educated doesn't help set boundaries with others.

I think its very important because boundaries are so important to a lot of people. Personally I don't want a guy groping me after the first date. Teaching what is rape or sexual assault can help people understand boundaries and how to respect them. Recently I saw a question on here which really pissed me was about a girl: She blew her boyfriend in his sleep (she did got consent but you can easily argue if he can't remember it, or if you could ask him anything he probably agree to it at the moment then it wouldn't count as consent)...so she blew him and when she told boyfriend what she did, he got angry at her and it called sexual assault. She was confused.

Why Both Genders Need to be Educated on Sexual Consent

One thing I find stupid in her decision is that maybe doing sexual acts with someone while they are sleep is the WORST IDEA EVER. Not only do you not know if the person would even remember it or even remember giving consent. I wasn't really pissed at her, I was more pissed at the answers on the question where people thinking he was over dramatic. Or he just being a asshole.

We need to teach people that boundaries are a thing and what you think is fine might not be fine to the other person. Also, how to respect people feelings first of all; the boyfriend here clearly felt violated and he had every right to feel violated because just because he gave consent during his sleep doesn't really mean he agree to it. You probably could ask him anything and he would had said yes at the moment. So clearly he had the right to feel that she took advantage of him and violated him; there was no reason to call him an asshole for feeling that way. Getting educated on rape/sexual assault can help set boundaries to follow with anyone so this shit like in this question doesn't happen often.

Help real victims realize if they were actually raped/sexual assaulted

I think this is the biggest pro because there plenty of people who don't want to go to the police or not sure if it was rape or sexual assault has occurred. Teaching people this helps them realize if they were or not and how to take precautions next to cope/deal with it. These are the reasons why consent should be taught to each gender in sex ed.

Why Both Genders Need to be Educated on Sexual Consent
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  • Jesus H Christ!
    Young people these days really do love playing the role of "VICTIM".
    Since when did this become the cool thing to do? What makes people feel so great about being able to cry "victim"?

    Can't people be reasonable any more?

    If you're on a date with a guy and you're kissing and he starts putting his hands where you don't want them, just gently push them away. He'll most likely get the hint. You're not a victim of sexual assault, he's not a sexual abuser.
    If he continues to do things you don't want, tell him to stop and that you're not ready to go there. Make it clear, but don't freak out about it. He didn't get the hint when you moved his hands away, now's your second warning (verbal and physical).
    If he STILL continues to do things that make you feel uncomfortable, feel free to get upset with him and tell him to knock it off. Leave the situation, and maybe you don't go out with this guy again. Sexual assault? Ehh, I wouldn't go that far. If he tries to force himself on you and is obviously ignoring your wishes, then sure. If you want to call it sexual assault, fine. Or just call him an asshole that you won't be going out with again.

    If you've been going out with your boyfriend for a while and you've been having sex for some time, and he tries to stick it in you while you're sleeping or drunk, I don't think that's really "rape". You could probably argue in the court of law that it was rape, but really that's a bit of a stretch. Have a conversation with him and let him know you don't want him doing that again, but he's your boyfriend, you've been having sex for a while, he's sleeping in your bed with you... I think calling him a rapist because he wakes up horny and decides to help himself is an insult to anyone who's actually been raped.

    And any guy who wakes up to a blowjob from his girlfriend and cries "sexual assault" deserves to be smacked across the head with a shoe. Preferably a heavy work boot with steel toes.

    What kind of world are we becoming if both parties need to sign off on a multi-page contract before groping or having sexual contact? Can't we all just use common sense?

    • Are you crazy you can't go around and stick your dick in your girlfriend because they dating you and you think you have the right to do it. This is why people like you need to educated because your brain dead.

    • Your the type of person who think because someone dating you they you owe you a right to their body. NO one has to agree to you touching them or doing sexual acts on them without consent and accept. With that logic then fathers can excuse raping their child or strangers with random people on the street. You dumbass.

    • need to get* educated

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I have to agree with you here. Some people just don't seem to understand boundaries, on both sides. I often think this has to do with how kids are raised. Boys being taught that women saying "no" just means they are being hard to get, girls being taught that guys always want sex 24/7 and will never not want it. There should at least be some universal understanding that "implied consent" is not a thing and if someone says no, it means no.

    • Exactly I don't know where some people are getting their ideas from, if you didn't read I said to a other commenter that my friend thought it was perfectly ok to let your boyfriend do anything they want to you. Because your boyfriend I had to set her straight. I don't think its from the media maybe their parents or they listen to too many idiots.

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  • I think it's sad that we even have to teach something like that. I mean it's common sense, or so I thought. Nobody is entitled to anyone else's body.

    • I know right but apparently people think if your dating the person they have the right to violate you and then call you ridiculous if you get mad about it.

    • NatashaJ Old style Patriarchy.

    • @jacquesvol agreed

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tS9gpgnBwfo&ab_channel=SargonofAkkad


    Your heart is in the right place, but trying to teach people not to rape will do nothing. That's like trying to teach murderers not to murder people.

    • I don't think you understand what I been saying I mean teach people what is consent or not like in one of my examples getting a yes from someone sleeping might not count as real consent, so on. Teaching people who are clueless what is acceptable or not can help a lot of situations.

    • Just look at Lovelinefan comments clearly people need to be taught that you can't do whatever you please to someone who sleeping. Or not in the right mind to agree to the sexual act.

    • I even have a friend thought it was okay for a guy who is your boyfriend to do whatever he wants. I'm not trying to stop rape I'm trying to teach people to prevent themselves getting in the position of being call a rapist or whatever if they accidentally did it.

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  • But remember only men rape and only women can be the victims. And let's forget about those kangaroo courts that are up and running in western colleges

    • If you going to just mock mytake then no need to comment on it, if you didn't bother to read it.

    • I did read it and my take away from it was exactly what I wrote.

    • Clearly, you didn't or you would know I use men as victims go take your bullshit somewhere else because you trying to start a argument with me because I'm a woman is not going to work.

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  • You can't teach people not to rape. But you can have your government actually give a damn about mental health and create a much better mental health system and educate people on mental health during sex ed. Rapists are mentally ill.

    • To teach them what is rape or sexual assault can help they avoid jail if anyone accuse them of such acts. Clearly there are people are clueless look at lovelinefan comments people like him needs to get educated. Also teaching what rape or sexual assault is can have victim tell if they were raped or sexual assaulted and how to seek help.

    • The thibg is though people get taught that. However logic gets put on the back burner to peoples feelings. we are in the area of emotions and no logic. We teach how to have protective sex yet people still think they can't gey an std or the pull out meyhod works. Or the definition of a man and woman has changed to fit peoples feelings vs logic.

    • True but its not like i am trying to change the world you should still educate on this type of stuff I think consent is more important whether then which lube is the best.

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  • I'm sorry but you lost all credence when the first thing I saw was "Rape Culture". We don't live in a rape culture.

    • First of all the staff add in the picture and second of all I never said rape culture. Don't put words into my mouth.

    • If rape culture is in my take they added it in so don't say I lost credit for something stupid like that.

    • Well, the staff created an unfair representation of what may very well be a thoughtful point then. I'll read it in that case and will get back to you.

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