Why can't I have wet dreams?

I don't get it. I'll be 25 in a couple of months and I still haven't had a wet dream my whole life. It sucks because I'm a really ugly virgin guy who has never had a girlfriend and neither kissed a girl. People who jerk off a lot tend to not have wet dreams much but I don't do it. Knowing that, I try to avoid beating my meat as much as I could so I could finally have a wet dream but I just can't. I've gone through months and months so many times without jacking off yet not even once in my life have I had a wet dream. I don't know what to do because girls aren't into me in real life.
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  • My secret is ti think about sex or kissing before falling to sleep.

    Dreams are like an echo of your conscious thought.

    So if you're lucky, your subconscious mind will produce a wet dream. Trouble is you only realize it is one usually at the end. And of course, nothing beats the real thing.

  • you don't want a wet dream. seriously.. waking up at 3 AM before you have to go to work to change your boxers cause you blasted them is not worth it. you don't even get to feel that much pleasure out of it while it's happening =[

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  • If you'd do at lest half the effort to get a girl in real life as you do to get a wet dream, you'd be a stud by now. Unless you have a great memory of what you dreamt of, I doubt you'd remember much anyway.

    • Not really. I've been rejected by over 30 or 40 girls at least using different approaches each time. And yeah, the same approaches worked for guys who were better looking or with more money. My dream memories are alright so I really wanna experience it.

    • Well you're still young, so perhaps working on some changes would help. And if you really want one, try sleeping on your belly. Most wet dreams occur because the penis rubs against the sheets.

    • On my belly ehh. I guess I'll do that tonight. I've never done it though. Kinda hard to breathe.

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  • I dunno. I knew another guy who never had them. Anyway, nothing wrong with imagination and masturbation

    • I've been doing that for over 10 years now. Not as much as the average guy but I'm still tired of it. If you were a 25 year old girl who never had any sexual experience with a guy nor even kissed then would you be happy with "imagination and masturbation" even though you've probably been doing it for over 10 years?

    • I don't think you can force your dreams, though. Adding extra stress to yourself for not being able to do so is unfair to yourself. Look up "lucid dreaming" though, and there are some theories on how to control your dreams ... but don't build it up to extreme hopes, because it may not work. No use getting depressed about something you can't control. Have you considered writing erotic stories for an outlet?

    • Yeah I wanna get into lucid dreaming. But no, I'm not into eroticism and all. I don't have great erotic imaginations and know nothing about sex to do so anyways.

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  • why do you need to have one? this is a bit ridiculous

    • Why is it ridiculous?

    • because you can't control you dreams, there is absolutely nothing you can do about this "problem" it's like asking why can't I grow a third leg, that is not how it works. the real way to fix this is to try and muster up some courage and ask a girl out

    • I've lost count in the number of girls that I've asked out.

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  • Dont jerk off for 2-4 weeks (however long you can last), i only really get wets dreams during no nut November.

    Dw u ain't missing out it sucks really, you will have a normal dream with a mildly sexual event at some point then you'll feel like you pissed urself and wake up.

  • It's not something that happens to all guys. I never had one, nor do I want one. It seems like a silly thing to want to be honest.

    • Maybe but are you still a virgin and labeled ugly by girls?

    • What does that have to do with wet dreams?