Why do I feel gross having sex with my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

We are together for 2 years and sex was really great , especially first year we could do it everyday and I loved it.. I can't describe how much.. But last 2 months something happened ( I don't know what) and it's terrible.. I feel so gross to have sex with him :( after giving him oral I feel like puke and I am not attracted to him anymore . I never orgasm and always during sex I wonder when will it end and hope he will do it fast. Last night I cried after having sex because I hate it so much.. I try to act like I love it because I don't want to hurt him. My question is why it changed so much? I loved sex with him so much.. why then I feel like this now? And will it ever change for better ,be like before?

[HandsomeRaj]

Try running through these to help you recollect better. I think it may have been something to do with

1. either body odor or from a specific part of his body;

2. bad taste while in oral sex or kissing etc

3. did he break wind / belch while kissing / having sex

4. do something during sex / foreplay / cuddling that puts you off

5. say something that you deem touchy and negative at an inappropriate moment

6. change in hygiene (his)

7. do something in sex or otherwise that you suddenly realized puts you off

If not any of the above, please (in good faith) check with a professional who can analyze this and probe it effectively to aid you. If this continues I am unsure whose life this'll make more miserable; you or him

[Anonymous]

This is very strange...and sad. If you stopped having sex...would you still want to be with him? Only thing I can think of is..you're burnt out on sex.Or, you were never really attracted to him in the beginning, but you loved the sex...once the sex grew old...your interest level in him dropped too. I think you need to slow down on the sex, and figure out what you can do to enjoy him more including asking him to do things both in the relationship and sexually to get you turned on again. If you can't stand his looks, or personality anymore...then you just need to end it.

[Megalove]

Everyones right. It is the attraction. Similar thing happenned with my ex, but there were other factors involved besides just the sex that decreased the attraction. It's a hard thing to deal with, makes you feel shallow to say that you just aren't attracted to your man anymore, but...*shrug*. Just happens, sometimes.

[haleyyyyy]

i've felt like this before

i couldn't explain why my feelings suddenly changed but they did

i couldn't figure out why he no longer turned me on or got me excited and it got to a point where I didn't even want to kiss him any more

i ended things and I was very happy with that decision

[justme20]

you aren't attracted to him anymore. Just be let him go easy and move on to another guy. no point in feeling grossed out after sex and not being into him or have him be with someone who doesn't feel the same way

[abzence]

You pretty much answered your own question when you said that you are not attracted to him any more. It's not very enjoyable to have sex with someone you are not in any way attracted to.

If you will be attracted to him again, only you can answer that.

[kambo_trick3y]

Perhaps he turned into some kind geLatinous cross breed creature that looks like a mix between a hippo and a house fly?

[Konnour]

It's because there's no more attraction. And it's a good-enough reason to end everything - you got no obligations to fulfill.

[beer3]

Dump him and move on.

[Anonymous]

not attracted anymore...this makes me sad...does it happen in all long term relationships?

[Asker]

i don't think that it happens in all long term relationships. it happened because my boyfriend never was my type of guy , I was attracted to him but it wasn't very big attraction.. I think we should stick with people we are really attracted to.

[Anonymous]

Remember that when your future husband starts banging a younger more attractive woman.

[Anonymous]

I have never heard of that before. Do you still love him as a person?