Why do guys cum so fast?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I had sex about 10/12 times and it was never pleasant for me as I lost all my self confidence being with him. Every-time we had sex, he would last maximum 1 minute inside me. He would cum soo fast! He nick named himself “miniuteman” and would joke “just because you are soo tight and i am so attracted to you, I cum so fast”. It’s something I refuse to believe to date. Although he had a very sex drive and wanted sex 24/7 literally but just couldn’t last. Regardless of the amount of forplay we engaged in. My current boyfriend is also highly sexual and wants always but I do notice a difference. He lasts way longer. I am asking this just out of curiosity.

[ChurchOfIron]

The average for men is 7 minutes. Not 1 minute. I think the average for women is 15 minutes. So, nature didn't do you guys any favors. Well, to be fair, women also have a much, much, much greater capacity for pleasure and multiple orgasms and extremely more powerful orgasms. Male orgasms are kinda like, "Oh, this is fairly decent." For 5-8 seconds. Mine are pretty worthless, unless I haven't had sex in awhile.

It very well could be that he is profoundly attracted to you, so he starts off extremely aroused and can't hold back.

My average is 15 minutes, and I can easily last 30-45. Though, sometimes, it does just pop early.

But, that mostly revolves around lack of restraint, I think. Speed = cumming faster. Speed and going all the way in and all the way out. The faster they go, the faster they pop. If they just give into the desire and do what they naturally feel like doing, they will pop fast. That's just naturally how guys function. They want to just bang it out hard and fast and cum quickly.

The degree to which they can resist that lengthens how long they last, in my opinion.

They also have to not let go. Not give into their arousal. Because if you do, then it's easy to pop quickly. Again, it has to be resisted.

Next time you have a guy like that, let him know that it's not working for you. "Not funny minute man." You could also try some tantric sex or try to make him go slower.

[Buckzor]

Some guys just last longer than others, we can't really do much about it (we can obviously kind of train it to last longer - but not significantly, it's luck of the draw with us, the same with penis size, we're insecure as fuck about it all if we aren't impressive)

[Asker]

I personally believe, sizes shouldn’t matter in a real relationship. So I hate when guys are insecure about themselves

[Buckzor]

We're set up to be insecure because of growing up as teenagers & societal values. As a teen life is a competition, testosterone is raging & everyone wants to be the alpha with the big dick, who gets laid first or gets laid heaps. It's just how I grew up at least & was the main source of banter/bullying at school.

[Asker]

Sorry to hear that

[Buckzor]

It's the way it is. Same was women are labeled as sluts for having sex, or any other stereotype, it sucks, but you have to get over it somehow.

[Asker]

I was always labeled as a bitch due to my bluntness. At times it took a toll on me mentally 🤕

[Buckzor]

Sorry to hear that

[Asker]

Ehh its all good now! Iv got a thick skin now 🤪

[Buckzor]

There’s usually always a plus for every negative 😂

[Anonymous]

Not everyone can last for a long time. Because everyone is different.

[madhatters4]

you shouldn't lose confidence because a guy finishes quick. he clearly just had some sort of issue that led to premature ejaculation. that's on him and is nothing for you to let impact your curiousity

[Riverotter]

It varies greatly, lots of variables, I find there are several tricks that help make it last much longer

[wankiam]

takes me ages and when i do cum i can often go again... many girls have told me in the past they can't take anymore so i sugest you have just been meeting the wrong guys

[jacquesvol]

Too excited. Give him a HJ first. The 2nd time he won't come as fast.

[Browneye57]

Cuz they spend too much time jerking off to porn.
Try dating up a little in age - they guys are better looking, have more money, know better how to treat you, and are WAY better in the sack. ;)
And make sure they don't have a porn addiction - cuz you'll never get what you want out of them - they're ruined for a real man-woman romantic relationship. They become completely absorbed with all things fake sex. Real sex doesn't sell porn vids. And they're the ones that all think their dick is too small, cuz normal dicks don't sell porn vids neither.

[winterfox10]

Some guys are just really sensitive. Back in the ancient days, cumming fast was a benefit, because you wouldn't necessarily want to spend a really long time in such a vulnerable state... the guys who finished would pass on their genes... I'm sure that that has something to do with it.

[meme821]

There is also a thing known as self-control that works in the bedroom too

[itsme123456789]

I imagine you do feel good, but first guy was bothered about getting himself off not you

[Iron_Man]

That's how it is that's why you girl's ask for tongue right?

[outside_Toronto]

Reads like he is just really inexperienced

[chris_987]

Because men are better at sex than women, don’t shame us for being intouch with our own bodies

[Shrek3]

Because he has a

[JustWorthlessMe]

Why make a general statement when your current boyfriend lasts "much longer"?

Oh just another fucking Anon trashing guys (this time) I hope you die soon

[Asker]

You sound like a bitter old hag! Maybe I hit the wrong spot. Don’t cry like a little bitch now! I don’t wish idiots like you die. You people are soo quick to judge. Without knowing the whole story, you can’t just tell someone to die. I don’t usually react like this as my parents raised me well.. so I hope I did not hurt your feelings. I just asked this question because my ex was a cheating motherfucker.. blamed everything on me. Now the person whom I am with is soo much different and an actual man. So I am just curious as to why my ex did that. Nothing else. You should know by now at your age, IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DONT OPEN YOUR MOUTH!

[JustWorthlessMe]

Why the butthurt? lol Notice you didn't answer the question troll.

[Asker]

Aww looks like grandpa here is gettn offended..

[masterkamasutra]

dont you think you wasting your time with poor dick, get a better one.

[the_manu]

It's just a matter of self-confidence your ex boyfriend lost his self-confidence so it will be difficult for him to last more, you should talk with your boyfriend and help him for his fast-cum, it'll be better for you both

[bwoodbury]

I was decent with stamina and performance prior to having kids and a vasectomy so I think in my case it's stress and life in general with my new found shorter performances