Why do guys take off the condom during sex?

I've had this happen many times and it really upsets me.. every time I have sex I make the guy put on a condom.. however most guys I have been with have taken off the condom during sex with out telling me... most of the time we will change positions and the guy will take the condom off and before I realize it is off its too late... I never understand why they do it and it really puts me in a awful position... my question is why do guys do this! this is so wrong to do in my opinion.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • That should be a deal-breaker. If a guy would risk getting you pregnant without you wanting it, he's not worth your time. Yes, condoms can take some of the pleasure out of it, but I imagine having to deal with abortion or unplanned parenting wouldn't exactly be pleasurable for you either. To put you at risk like that shows they don't care about you at all. Seriously, don't waste your time on guys like that and make sure that in the future you communicate clearly about being safe to the guy you're with.

  • Most people don't talk about this, but having sex with a condom on is like taking 90% of the pleasure out of it (for a guy). It's like kissing through face-masks!

    Having said that, these guys should have the courage to tell you that. Not play around with something that could make you pregnant (at your age, I guess your fertility is very high) or pass on an STD. Or both.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Taking the condom off in the middle of sex without your consent is disrespectful, irresponsible, and stupid. There is no good reason for doing it. You need to take more precautions to prevent this from happening to you- get to know guys better before having sex with them, and talk about the importance of birth control and the consequences of not using it properly. Try to have sex only with guys who are smart, responsible, and likely to respect your feelings about this.

  • dat sucks but you really need to make yourself clear. they may not like it but when you change positions ask them is the condom still on?

    u cn also get on some more effective birth control. I recommend the mariana, its 99.9% effective and lasts for 5 years.

  • That is very wrong! He is showing no consideration for you and your well being. His only thought is getting himself off. As soon as I realized he had taken it off, sex would be over, and for him it would be over for good.

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  • I would advise you to stop having sex with them, I don't even know any guys that have ever done that. You need to find a good guy before you allow them to get inside of you. Either that or wind up pregnant and he will leave you, and more than likely not pay child support.

  • That is upsetting. Do not put up with it. If a guy does that next time, just stop having sex. It's your body too and you have every right to feel safe.

  • Time to find some smarter guys.

  • they are idiots

    and I hope not most of then do that

  • He wants to be a father.

  • a dude that is that irresponsible and stupid...isn;t someone you should have sex anymore.

    If he's that stupid, irresponsible and selfish during sex...

    ...

    ..

    ...do you REALLY want a stupid, irresponsible and selfish man to be the father of your child?

  • Because it feels better. Nit a very smart thing to do though.

  • I don't know. I always use condom during sex.

  • Saving condoms

  • they suck!

  • I've had this happen too. They'll pull off the condom and shove it back in. Then it's like "ummm you are gonna pull out right?"

  • are you even on the pill? if not, that's dumb of him

  • some guys can't stay hard with a condom on. so in order to stay hard, they take the condom off.

  • Thats a**holes for you. What I do is I put my hand down there and grab their d*** and "help them" get it in. While your hand is down there you can feel if the condom is there or not. This can work in any position so just always "help them" put it in

  • What a bunch of dumbasses, do they want to get a std or get someone pregnant.