Why do guys want a virgin?

Seriously, what is this all about? I don't understand it at all. I know I've said it before but I believe that like a Rolls Royce, a woman should be delivered to the customer (please pardon the crude turn of phrase) fully run-in. What is a virgin ever going to teach you other than how to say 'Ow' in a variety of pitches? I have deliberately never slept with a virgin, not because of the reasons above but because women always remember their first and I think they deserve someone better than me. So, why is it so many guys find this a big issue? Girls, if you have an opinion, please feel free to air it.
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  • I would prefer a virgin, as I am one myself. While it would be awkward, It wouldn't be as embarrassing, as she would have around the same sexual experience as me. I like knowing that we would be learning together.

    It wouldn't be a deal breaker if a girl wasn't one though. I have nothing against non-virgins and would gladly date one.

  • I personally wouldn't care if she was, or was not a virgin if I loved her. Even though I'm a virgin at 27 (sigh), I know how unlikely it is that there's a woman I would fall in love with that is still a virgin at 27.

    • i don't know what caught my eye more virgin or 27. joke

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  • Why does virginity even matter? If someone remains a virgin for a certain amount of time, that's their choice. Choosing not to have sex with someone simply because they haven't lost it yet and are therefore *inexperienced* is kind of... shallow, in my mind.

    If you want someone you want them, virgin or not.

    • totally agree with you that virginity is a choice but my question was why guys place such importance on it with their partner.

    • Guys get self-conscious sometimes, I guess. It's a relief knowing that the girl has nothing to compare you to, right? If she's important to him though, I can't see a guy liking the idea of her being with any other guys before him. It's just personal sometimes, and depends on the guy and his preference, as well.

    • That's surely got be a problem with the guy's own lack of self esteem and security right? I'm never insecure about a guy she's slept with before, just jealous that I could have been doing this years ago but didn't know her. Do girls ever feel a pressure to be a virgin though or have concerns about being a guy's first?

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  • I wish more guys were as sensitive as you. Most guys don't care about girls feelings like tthat. I think a lot of guys want virgins just so they have something to brag about! At least, that's what I've seen in my experience.

  • i think guys like virgins because they are insecure and don't want to be compared to another guy...

    • I'm pretty sure you hit the bulls' eye with your statement.

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  • well in my time boys wanted virgins just to brag. but now in my prime I would raither have someone with a little experence. It not so much fun trying to teach someone new. but if I was young I wouldn't know what to look for in a virgin...

  • I don't want a virgin. A girls first time is usually not pleasant for her, and I don't find it appealing being a girls first.

  • Who said we did? I don't like people speaking for me without my say-so

    • Don't take it as a personal slight Taster but if I don't generalise, people think I'm talking about or to one specific person.

    • Oh I sound more bucky than I am...at least in this case...I never slept with a virgin (that I know of) and I never really wanted to and iIdon't feel deprived...but the last thing I want to do is contribute to virgin insecurity of either sex. In fact, I was dismayed a few weeks ago and made the point that we were all virgins once upon a time..and someone must have been willing to shack us...how about a little consideration and patience for all?

  • because I am too

  • Teach me?

  • Guys just want virgins because they're insecure, I don't blame the guys who are below average, and the chicks who want biggr than average don't help either but but for rest, f*** you guys

  • I want one because I'm a virgin too.

  • Well I'd prefer one because I am one myself and I think it'd be better to share the experience

    Also I'd rather not be compared to their several other lovers, I'll admit that

    • Fair play to you for admitting that but I question the wisdom of it. If she is at least a half decent woman and this is your first time she wouldn't be comparing you to anyone else. Expecting you to be an expert first time out on the track would be a little harsh wouldn't it? Whereas a virgin has never had anybody else so has nothing to offer you in terms of, it's better/ nicer if you do it like this.

    • well I mean it's intimidating enough doing the first everything with her, but if you love her, you have to wonder.. am I able to satisfy her as much or more than the others? is she thinking about the other guys? do I live up to expectations? etc etc.

    • That's not the first time, that's every time! Put it to the back of your mind.

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  • Everyone was a virgin once.

  • Religious/moral reasons, which is legit if he holds himself to the same standards. OR extreme fear of her having any expectations or comparisons. OR jealousy, because he was not sexually active and is angry that she was doing what he wanted to.

    • Wow, I had no idea there were this many reasons. Leaving religious issues aside, do you think there is pressure on guys to sleep with a virgin or alternatively pressure on a woman to be a virgin?

    • In the real world, not really. To guys hanging out online, it seems so.

    • Because, nobody knows who I am (obviously, that's not my real name), I'm always honest on here, unless I'm trying to make a joke or something. But, why would guys lie about something like this online? I know some of their d*** sizes make for rather unbelievable statistics, but why lie about this?

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