Why do I keep getting used for sex? Why doesn't any guy care about me?

[Anonymous]

This is the third time it's happened to me. All three of them spent their time texting me all the time, being sweet to me, and pretending they care so much about me. Then after we have sex it's like I don't exist and whenever I text them it's like I'm annoying them. The first guy sweet talked me for an entire year, we had sex, then the next day I find out through Facebook that he had a girlfriend all along. The second guy was my first boyfriend. The day after we had sex, he dumped me over text, saying that he's not over his ex and he waited until after we had sex to tell me. The third guy was so sweet to me and talked to me as much as possible. He also promised me that he wouldn't just use me for sex and never talk to me again. Well, promise broken. So why does this keep happening to me? And why am I so stupid to the point where this has happened to me three times? I don't act or dress like a slut at all, and I'm usually nice to people. Thanks for reading all of this.

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys (especially around your age, assuming these guys were around your age) are more interested in just pure sex than a relationship. And sorry to say this but most guys will put on such an act just to get you into bed. Some will even stick around for months or even a year until they get to have sex with you and then they will leave. I think you may be need to stop putting out until you are in a relationship with a guy to have a better chance of the guy sticking around (IMPORTANT: even if a guy says you're in a relationship he may still be playing games). I do feel for girls like you though, you never really can tell if a guy is being genuine towards you or just lying and using you. Maybe you should actually look at a guy's actions more than his words to judge whether or not he will be genuine to you.

[booyah]

if you really want to judge a guy say that you want to wait for marriage before you have sex, if he splits he is a douche but if he stays he is worth keeping, then you could say that you only said that because you were hurt in the past and wanted to make sure he cared about you. also no offense but you seem to have REALLY bad taste in men, no one should ever get treated like you have been.

[karma13]

Its because you are easy to sleep with. Stop giving sex so easily and make them work toward it and wait it out.

[toulouse]

theres no 'reason' fr anyone to treat anyone that way. anyways it doesn't look like anything happened quickly, I don't think you actually READ anything. that or you're learning disabled. first guy a YEAR. secnd guy. BOY FRIEND...

[onlyaguy]

You just need to understand that, in general, at your age sex is more important to guys than a relationship. Make your choices accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Save sex for marriage and you'll know for sure that you're not getting used. Stop putting out so easily.

[toulouse]

people have sex before marriage without being used. people have sex first date without being used. its not HER fault people are a**holes with no self resect.

[Opinion Owner]

Toulouse, I didn't say it was her fault that people are a**holes with no self respect but she subjects herself to being effected by someone being an a**hole with no self respect when she spreads her legs for a guy who doesn't take her very seriously.