It's clear from the fact that you're asking this question that you think that the vast majority of guys can get a girl as a girlfriend or at least for sex fairly easily. YOU'RE WRONG. In my experience, close to HALF of all guys really, really struggles with women even in ideal environments like college, where you live in a bubble and where you are literally surrounded by hundreds or thousands of single girls in your age group. Guys who have trouble getting girls in that environment (and there are a ton of them) are only going to do far worse when NOT in a college environment, when finding single women their age is FAR more difficult because they're mixed in the general population.
I would guess that most guys who visit prostitutes are older; late 20s and up at least. A few are hard-working guys who have very little time for a social life, and it's hard to meet a girl in the real world and build up the trust to have sex with her if you only can see her, say, one day every couple of weeks, because you're busy. A prostitute can give you company on YOUR schedule, without all the time to build up the relationship.
Then you have a group of guys who are married/have a long-term girlfriend, but who aren't satisfied sexually by that person. Maybe the wife/GF only wants sex once a month (or less). Maybe she will only do missionary with the lights out. Maybe he wants a BJ and she thinks that's disgusting. Whatever it is, those guys HAVE a girl, but aren't getting what they need from her, and usually only after asking, talking, pleading, etc. for a while, he ends up turning to a pro.
There's also a small percentage of guys who are just pu$$yhounds. They are always after a new girl, and it's all about getting laid and increasing their number of conquests.
The biggest majority of prostitute clients, though, are guys with ZERO GAME. These guys simply can't get girls. Many are just very shy, or socially awkward (or both), and others just lack confidence in themselves and always try too hard and creep girls out. Maybe they've never had a girlfriend, or haven't had one in years and years. They eventually get so lonely that they seek out a pro to give them an hour's worth of sex and companionship.
The truth is that nearly all of these guys would PREFER to have a girlfriend(/wife) who met their needs rather than going to a prostitute, but if that was easy for them to do, prostitution would have died out long ago. The fact that it still thrives tells you that, for a lot of guys, it isn't easy, and often feels impossible. Sure, many could focus on improving their self-confidence and get there on their own, but many would rather pay for it than do all the hard work and deal with all the rejection that happens when you are first learning to date.0 20 0 0I rarely read long answers, but I always read yours because they are always so insightful with so much wisdom. I tip my hat to you good sir.
Just a wonderful answer Oracle... seriously almost brought me to tears. Women have absolutely NO appreciation for how difficult it is for us as men.
Amen.
I would never pay for a prostitute. What I have is no more or less valuable than what the woman has, so why should I pay?
That being said, it's not as easy for guys to hook up or get a girlfriend as it is for girls. And that's why girls don't go to prostitutes.1 2 0 6No, also women cheat in body (call boy/an affair) not just us.
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Why do men go to prostitutes?
Likely the accessibility and control as in getting her to do whatever he wants.
Why pay for it when you coud hook up or get a girlfriend?
Probably because they couldn't hookup or get a girlfriend with a gal they want. Most guys in my opinion can hookup or get a girlfriend just often not with a gal that meets their criteria for youth and beauty so they go to prostitutes who do.
I don't get it, why pay someone to fake it, when you can have the real thing at home?
Possibly to most guys going to a prostitute is no different than a hook up or a girlfriend as:
- most regard gals as prostitutes shown by how they talk of how they have to pay for sex be it their money or time
- most don't care whether the prostitute or the hookup or girlfriend is faking it
- the sex they have with a prostitute and other gals is the same since to guy sex is just a way to bust a nut it's not intimacy, emotional, or bonding0 0 0 9This is completely wrong. Maybe there are a few out there, who sees a prostitute as a 3-holed sex object. But that is not the case for all. I don't regard my girlfriend as a prostitute-replacement, no never. Simply because I'm not after sex only but love with sex (for sure, no asexual here). Why we pay is also not because of we want control (maybe a few, but not all again, including myself) about a woman, maybe then we should ask our self why we became dominant (no chains/whips!) to our wife/girlfriend. But that is another but deeper-diving question. So why pay? Simply because you can. :-) For myself, I would see (I'm not saying that I visit them) a prostitute not as a prostitute but more as a sex-girlfriend who I surely would give pleasure (e. g. licking) back at any time given. To repeat it again: I'm not saying that I DO go to them. And we guys do care (maybe some cannot distinguish it) about faked orgasms or moans. I can hear it always out, if my wife was faking it or didn't make it with heart. And I spoke to her. And busting a nut is feministic BS, we DO care about intimacy and we DO care about emotional connections. So stop writing such utterly BS about us guys.
Since prostitutes get paid for their service,they will do everything that the men want where it is something that their wive refuse to do.
0 1 0 4that's such a stupid reason to go to one imo (and I'm a dude saying this). I wouldn't be able to come home and look my girlfriend/wife in the eyes. If you love someone, why hurt them like that?
When did I say its a good reason? Of course its a stupid reason but apparently every guys is different.Some have 'brain' while some don't.
Prostitutes have services they provide. E. g. if a guy wants anal sex which she doesn't provide, she can reject him. And a refusal of a wife/girlfriend is not a clear "no", it might mean "perhaps" or "I'm not sure (with him)".
Because they are really lonely and can't seem to get a real girlfriend.
0 4 0 0That's my case. It's embarrassing to admit but yes. Literally 100% of my sex comes from prostitutes.
@billmunch Maybe visit some (almost) free dating sites like OKC. I found my (now) girlfriend or later wife there.
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4 29Welcome to the free market, that in which a person offers a service in exchange for monetary gain.
Why? No strings commitment, emotional or physical satisfaction, a piece of eye candy to exhibit on their arms, to attract the attention of other women; or most commonly, verbally contracted and guaranteed sex without judgement, emotional ties, excess effort, appealing to the needs, emotions and whims of others or concern for anything other than agreed exchange rate. The cold dollar.
I personally wouldn't use the services of an escort, but speaking to others who have, from a practical standpoint it makes a lot of sense.0 1 0 1Let's see if this works:
Young Lady, will you go on a date with me? (HELL NO!)
Will you have sex with me? (HARASSMENT!)
Will you marry me? (I DON'T WANT A MAN IN MY LIFE!)
Do you like me? (YOU'RE NOT MY TYPE!)
Why not? (NAME IT!)
After about a few thousand of those, men tend to get very upset with women and look for alternatives. The typical choices are the following in no given order:
1. Hire sex workers
2. Play more video games
3. Become gay/tranny
4. Trust Jesus
5. Masturbate forever
6. Just drop dead, what woman would want you anyway?
I am in college surrounded by roughly 10,000 young hotties. Believe me that NONE of them are interested in me, even if I were their age. So, you can't say men can just get a woman any time we want. Just plain torture. Technically, I can't even look at the older faculty/staff/professors out of fear for harassment. NO fun.
Hope this helps0 9 0 0Another terrific answer! LADIES, read this and read it CLEAR!
People who go to prostitutes most often don't have anything at home.
1 3 0 1Most likely because they can't get hookups or girlfriends by any other means.
I read a really interesting book called "Brothel: Mustang Ranch and it's women" about pretty much exactly that. It's a pretty good case study of what you just described.1 1 0 1They call that the girlfriend experience. I think they pay for it, because they want all the positive and good feelings from that kind of experience with out the commitment from their part.
Getting into a relationship is that hard, but keeping it interesting and good does take a lot of commitment and work, some guys just don't want the hassle, because they are more committed to their work, but still want to feel loved and wanted sometimes.0 2 0 0
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