Why do so many guys thrust their hips against you when you kiss?

I've just started doing Match.com ... and it seems like guys you've only been on 3-4 dates with are really more likely to press their hard ons against you when you're kissing than in the "real world." I'm not against the move itself, but usually its in the context of mutual passion ... so it is awkward when I don't feel it. When I am kissing the guy, I am thinking "Wow, I wish I was as turned on as you are right now." How do you get a guy to scale back his excitement, while at the same time, trying to make yourself sexually attracted to him?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • LOL. Omg my boyfriend does the exact same thing. xDD I can understand why you're not as 'into' it as he is because it takes A LOT for a girl to get really turned on, for a guy a boner happens in an INSTANT. No kidding and because they are so turned on they probably will start humping you or your hand in the heat of the moment because it feels good yknow..down there? lmfao.If you're really uncomfortable with him dry humping you just..politely tell him to turn it down a notch and just relax. But if you want to become sexually attracted to him try doing some intimate stuff while kissing, like caressing his arms, putting your hands up his shirt and feeling his chest, run your fingers through his hair. I think doing that will kind of make things seem more passionate rather than 'lusty.' You wanna be sexually attracted right? Well just think of something really hot that turns you on while you're kissing him. But if you just can't find him sexually attractive then you're better off not giving him any false hope that you'll actually have sex one day. Hope this helps, good luck~! :P

    • Ha, ha. I mean I know why they do it, but why would a guy assume that you've known him 3 days and you wanna f*** him? If he had that power on women, he wouldn't be going out on dates, he'd be f***ing chicks.

    • He wants to f*** you though. And he knows you know that because he's grinding on you o.O

    • But do they not realize that you likely don't want to bang them ... at least not yet? Or does it just not matter to them?

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  • If you're not sexually attracted to them, don't kiss them. Simple.

    • If you're not sexually attracted to them, there shouldn't have been a second date.

    • You can't base sexual attraction on looks or sexual appeal only! But its so weird because they seem really raring to go and you are still at stage 1.

Most Helpful Guys

  • guys are easily aroused! you can't stop it. as for thrusting there hard on's against you...well those guys are idiots! if you like it and want to get turned on, ask them to give you a back massage...that should get you going. it works on the girls I date, nothing like a good back rub.

    • LOL ... you're right, a back rub is nice. I think women need a little more non sexual touching before the sexual touching happens, maybe? At least until she has been with the guy a few times...

    • back rubs are good! and you will feel great afterward if the guys does it right! :)

  • I think a lot of people figure 3-4 dates is the time to get physical.

    If you're not attracted to these guys, you shouldn't be going on 4 dates with them.

    • How do you know if you're attracted to someone who was a complete stranger 3 days ago?

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