Why do some people have no filter?

They say and do sexually vulgar things like it is nothing and its OK. Why do they do this?
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  • I speak very plainly about sex and masturbation because I don't find them to be vulgar at all. Actually, they're by definition incredibly vulgar, considering that vulgar originally meant "common", as in something that everyone has in common. Why should we not talk about it?

    Now, I don't say offensive things. I don't tell girls that I'd do certain things to them or insinuate that people behave in certain ways. I also don't reveal embarrassing info about other people behind their backs.

    I'll discuss sexual topics in general though... Complain about getting erections at odd times, discuss attitudes/techniques, encourage healthy sexuality, etc. I also happen to have a bunch of funny stories somewhat related to sex/masturbation that are generally regarded by people I know as just funny stories, not vulgar or crude.

    Perhaps you ought to specify what exactly you're talking about, or look at yourself and figure out if you're overreacting or not.

    • Co worker simulating stroking his **** at me, for example.

    • And he's done many other things

    • That's harassment. He could get fired for it, your employer could be liable for a hostile workplace and many other bad things. Bottom line, he is an idiot and engages in very stupid behavior. The next question is, if it bothers you, why haven't you done anything about it other than complaining online?

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  • You'll find that society as a whole does not agree on what constitutes a minimum level of tact and politeness; people are all over the scale on what they think is acceptable.

    The issue that you are running into is that you are on one end of the scale, and dealing with people on the opposite end is uncomfortable for you, whereas for people closer to the middle of the scale, even if it's a bit annoying, it's no big deal.

    For the most part, you can't change other people (you *can*, but it takes a LONG time, and a lot of patience and teaching), so all you can do is set an example for others in how you live your life.

Most Helpful Girls

  • They don't really think that those things are vulgar. They may have a filter, it's just designed to keep out different things than what you or I might think is polite. Sort of like how for some people, kissing someone before your wedding is considered vulgar, but for people raised in the mainstream culture, it isn't. I don't know how to stop those things from happening around me, but I do know some people I don't willfully hang around anymore because of a significant boundary difference.

  • define 'sexually vulgar'? some people think oral sex is vulgar. others draw the line waaaay up the other end of the scale. everyone has different boundaries. if the difference between someone else's boundaries and your own annoys you, just politely ignore it and move away. in life we get to set our own boundaries (within what's legal), and its not our place to make that decision for others much less pass judgement on them.

    • It's always illegal if they touch you in a sexual way. That's the law. But a guy micking jacking off towards me.

    • But that's clearly a joke?

    • I would regard that as more immature, not necessarily vulgar. Here's the correct protocol in these situations: If its someone you see regularly (eg work, school) then let them know in a neutral and polite way that it makes you uncomfortable; if its at work/school and it continues then raise the issue with HR or Student Support. If its someone you don't know then just walk away and stay away. If its a good friend you know really well then feel free to tell them what you really think.

  • My group of friends and I are admittedly rather blunt when it comes to sex.

    Why? I don't know. We aren't ashamed of our sexuality, it's nice to have a laugh, or a deep conversation about sex, and I just don't see it as "vulgar".

    • Yes. I am too. I guess I didn't explain myself so well up there ^

    • Yeah, everyone has a different idea on what's vulgar and overly sexual, etc anyway :)

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  • There's a long list of all kinds of problems that you could be referring to. There is also a high chance that you are not referring to any of them and you're just whining on the internet about things you find uncouth. I hate the odds. I quit this game!

  • Why do some people not use spell check?

    They speak and type incorrectly like it is nothing and its OK. Why do they do this?

  • because they are adults, as long as they don't say it around children you should get over it

  • They're just open.

  • why not?

  • It's how they are raised.