Why does he want to give me anal so bad?

[indian_empress_91]

my boyfriend says he imagines f***ing me in the a$$ when masturbating and that he always wanted to finger my ass or lick my anus... like why would a guy wanna do that? plus I am afraid it'll hurt =( and he doesn't ask me for it cause he lets everything be my choice on what we try when having sex... but I know he gets super turned on just by the mentioning of anal and a$$ stuff when we dirty talk or text... why are guys so into this? and girls does it really feel that good?

[Anonymous]

Anal isn't supposed to hurt, at least if you do it right.

Let him play with your butt (but be sure to do the same thing to him too! - Only fair...!)

Get some toys that you can play with on your own time so you learn how to stretch (you already do when you poop.) Also get some good lube. You'll find that when you play it will slowly stretch and you can insert more and more. You'll also learn how to relax when you want too.

Then try it with you in control, rather than him. That way it can't hurt!

You should also get a harness and dildo that is the same size as him so you can peg him. It's only fair!

[Areyouserious7]

Are you fucking retarded? You are literally telling her to make sure to do it on her terms but then in the same breath saying but only do it if you can fuck him in the ass too? Like you know he’s not going to want that, we’re not even talking about that. It’s hypocritical to even suggest that he needs to do that to trying having anal with her. All she needs to do is either say yes or no to trying it. She doesn’t need to put him through something he potentially isn’t sexually okay with. You’re so dumb!!!

[Kain6th]

If you're not comfortable doing it then keep refusing and tell him to respect your decision. If it were me I would only mention it maybe a couple times and then just let you decide if you want to try it.

But like Goflip says, try some baby steps first, you know get him to put a finger there or put a finger in there yourself in see how it feels.

Everyone likes different things, just keep an open mind.

[PoeticNinja]

Anal is awesome! Multiple orgasms!

Lots of lube! I don't think I'll ever get his c-ock in my ass.. My ex-boyfriend did this where he will make his c-ock 'slip' out of my p**** and thrust it straight into my ass really deep and hard (with lots of lube that is)..

Oh wow the sudden thrust of his c-cock inside me is amazing and I will always orgasm straight away from that!

Again, it's all about trust.

-- I hate asterisk, for it censors the words. :(

[PoeticNinja]

I don't think I'll ever get tired of his c-ock in my ass** - Damn, typos. Ha

[Anonymous]

All the other boys are bragging about it. Guys get status points for what they can talk you into "letting" them do. If a girl is enthusiastic about something, guys get a thrill. But then, they get a different thrill when they can coerce her into doing something she doesn't enjoy.

[indian_empress_91]

nah my boyfriend isn't like that... we are each others partner , best friend and lover... he is one of the very few good men out there and he never pressures me into anything... he just let me know that he has a wanting to do me in the a$$... and he said it's up to me.. if I don't wanna do it he doesn't mind ... but I am just curious ... Yea and you are right a lot of guys do what you said

[Opinion Owner]

Even good people want to feel their prowess measures up to other people's though. He might not tell them, but it would make him feel seductive and powerful to be able to get you to do something you don't like. I'm not a fan of anal myself, but also know that doing stuff you don't enjoy is sometimes part of sex.

[Kain6th]

Don't lump us all into the same group. I definitely don't like to force someone to do something against their will. I only get off knowing the other person is getting pleasure too.

[Opinion Owner]

"Force" is different than "coerce." Anal isn't meant to be pleasant to the female body. Men have a prostate gland that gets stimulated, which is why gay sex is more enjoyable than heterosexual anal sex. A lot of guys look at the small minority of women who enjoy anal and then want to believe that all women should like anal sex and the ones who don't are second rate. But, being that "most" of them don't have experience having something large in their ass, they underestimate how it feels..

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend really likes anal, too. I'm not sure about it or really ready for it yet, but I've fancied his fetish and tried a few things with him. if you go in with an open mind, you might just like it. just take baby steps.

[gonyr]

That's supposed to be a bonus of having a girlfriend. You can do anal. While I can never say I've wanted to lick it, f***in a girl in the ass is great. Its nice and tight and warm and just feels amazing.

If you do it, it will hurt you the first time. This isn't something you should do routinely but every once in a while go for it

[kheserthorpe]

Why is difficult. Who knows why anyone wants any sex act?

Possible reasons:

- its taboo

- its tighter

- its naughty

- its more intimate in some ways

- it makes him feel more dominant

- generally finds female ass hot, and hey look, there's a hole _right there_.

- curiosity

[indian_empress_91]

when I ask him he says he doesn't know he just loves a nice a$$ and I'm the first girl he ever wanted to do in the a$$... you ever did anal?

[kheserthorpe]

No. Want too bad. My wife used to say one day, then said never. She's now come back to 'before you die I'll let you'. I didn't want too that bad a long time ago, but now I do.

[indian_empress_91]

awwww... I hope she lets you do it very soon... I am afraid it's gonna hurt =\

[kheserthorpe]

She is convinced it will.

[BravoHawk]

Anal looks so fun in p*rn, but in real life its gross. Just let him do it and he should lose interest. Its about power over you.

[ArrograntWarrior]

I throwed up on my keyboard while reading your anal stuff

[allanwwe]

I do the same thing to my gf.

At first , she hated it..

i always finger her anal wenevr I find tym :)

latr she started loving it :)

i do it fr several minutes..

U ll love it , if a guys does it Slowly :)

it s full of Pleasure :)

[Anonymous]

Could you ever love or have sex with a guy who had been anally raped by other men before if he was disease free? = /

[indian_empress_91]

wait does he have diseases then yea I can love the person but not have sex with them If he is disease free and straight yes I can love him and make love to him

[Opinion Owner]

So if he was completely clean you would have sex with him? Even if he was forced to give head and recieve anal by other guys?...

[indian_empress_91]

wait is he a prostitute or something///// w why is he forced to have sex with men now?

[Opinion Owner]

...he was overpowered. And no he wasn't a prositute. Just in the wrong place at the wrong time...

[indian_empress_91]

so he got raped once...he doesn't sleep with men now? only if he doesn't sleep with men will I want to love and make love to him

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks...but you would think he was gay cause of that? : /

[indian_empress_91]

if he liked it yea ... but if not no I would never think that... I would feel for him, I'd be understanding and hear him out and hold him in my arms and tell him sorry that happened to him. I would never judge someone who has been raped..

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. Your really sweet.

[indian_empress_91]

it's not his fault...it was never is fault... I am sure he is an amazing person who can be loved and live his life and not let it define him.

[Opinion Owner]

"Hugs"

[indian_empress_91]

*hugs* by the way if that person is you...u can add me you know...if you need someone to talk to...thats if you want no presssure...*hugs*

[Opinion Owner]

alright. You seem nice. I will. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Hee watches too much p*rn and thinks destroying agirls ass is what he should o

[indian_empress_91]

he doesn't have internet or watch p*rn =\