Why does my boyfriend ejaculate so fast?

I've met someone recently and we have slept together a couple of times and he ejaculates very quickly. he came one night in less than 20 seconds and another time he came the minute he entered me. what's wrong with him? I don't want to ask him as we have only just started sleeping together and I don't want to offend him. he said he can't seem to last over a minute with me. am I doing something wrong?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • When a man and a woman get together for the first time with each other, there's always an added excitement in both partners; but more so in the man and especially if the woman is a little older. This happens even if both of them are sexually experienced with other partners. He can be very charged up, and if you are particularly sexy, he would release very early.

    Let him get accustomed first to seeing your naked body without jumping on it. I would suggest you spend time with him naked, with the clear understanding that there shall be no penetration or mutual masturbation. It may be difficult for you too, considering you might be aroused and expectant, but it's going to be hopefully only for a short period and thereafter all will be well.

  • If your new boyfriend is ejaculating so fast he's most probably anxious and he really likes you. This is a common thing to happen at first in a relationship, but it shouldn't go on like that forever. If he keeps ejaculating fast after some more time I suggest that you guys talk about it, so he can fix it.
    Here are some tips from a sexologist you may want to take into account if his issue persists.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLEah6S0dvY
    • I used Extra Super V*agra which also contains Dapoxetine which is used as a treatment for premature ejaculation. I've got if from * DAP247TAP * 👍 (please search in Google, I don’t remember the link). It’s been a very nice experience. I last longer on it and my girlfriend was really in shock. It works by extending the time of sexual intercourse with no numbness. Now she can climax as many times as she wants. 😀 Good luck.

  • I had couple guys before and I really think it about his experiences and also how tight you are too. Yeah excitement can kill it too. I read somewhere that you can help him but by staying on top of him. You are the driver and you will control when he can come too.

  • No, you're not doing anything wrong! I agree with goflipaburger, he probably just really likes you, gets really "excited," and can't hold back :) He'll probably be able to last longer after you two have sex a few more times.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Many guys have this problem all the time. Sex feels so fantastic that they immediately go "full speed ahead" until they pop, which doesn't take long.

    You aren't doing anything wrong, except that you might be doing things TOO WELL, meaning that you turn him on so much that by the time he gets inside you, he is already at the finish line. Take that as a compliment.

    But... he can learn to last longer if he tries, and moreso, if he WANTS to try. It will take some practice and some understanding from you, but he can learn.

    I'm kind of the opposite: I tend to take a while, and can sometimes wear out my GFs. That's a whole other problem...

  • No it's not your fault, any girl that ever asks that it's probably not her fault

    Some people are quicker than others, it may be due to masturbation that he's trained his mind to get off so quickly due to p*rn and comfort,
    Edging where you stop just right before you come can help you last longer in bed but also train yourself in the process but takes a while to learn
    Kegels can also help premature ejaculation
    There probably are pills but best to ask your doctor first

    For the mean time you could cut out foreplay for him, wear desensitizing spray, lube or condoms, **** rings delay ejac,

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  • 1. You're either really that hot looking first of all.
    2. This guy is just a rookie and doesn't know how to hold it, having control over your junk is better.

    You should try and tame this guy, telling him to work on it. ha... but in all seriousness, I think you should tell him to work on it and that you aren't getting any pleasure what so ever from it.
    It's important to let your partner know what he or she is doing wrong that makes you not as pleased.

  • He's only a sufferer of premature ejaculation (It's common in the majority of 20-30 year olds) There are three choices, Either he can drink to make any nerves go away as that's sometimes what causes it, He can go and so a doctor to get medical advice though it's not nessecary, Or you can both just leave it because it's been proven that the male is able to control the ejaculation more suitably as he grows older.

    • he will get better and better

  • One (or a combination of) three things: he thinks you're hot and can't control himself with you, he's not very experienced, or he's just always that sensitive.

    • Nigga I've fucked 17 girl and I've never cum that fast so why am I cuming that fast now?

  • people are different... some guys come fast, some are like me and it takes a couple hours... you aren't doing anything wrong, it's just who he is

  • He's human. There's nothing wrong with him.

  • He probably has had the problem before and just ashamed to admit it, I don't think he can really make a judgement call on how good you are in bed if he can't last long enough to really experience it. He has premature ejaculation. Nothing you can do for it other than ease his mind. If you really like him and want to help him work through the problem there are many books and online articlesout there on fixing the problem. Kegels(contraction of the PC muscles) should become a daily routine for him. He also needs to learn to control his level of arousal. If you shoot me a PM, I can send you some literature on fixing the problem.

  • I think he just really likes you :)

  • No, you're not doing something wrong, HE is. He can last longer if he wants to but he's more concerned about his ejaculation over your pleasure. If he's going to pop that fast, he needs to first be sure you have had your orgasm before even THINKS about entering you. I'd say he's inexperienced if he's not putting your orgasm first above his own.

  • So many guys have that problem! Just get advice from an expert and be open about it. He can last much longer if he knew how.

  • naw he just saying that to make you feel better, He just sucks at sex, I think you need to find another guy to have sex with, cause under 20 seconds is really sad, and plus this guy is over 25 wow, he probley was a virgin when you met him

  • You're just that sexy to him. Keep going, and see how long he lasts the second time.

  • Just keep at it and he'll get better.

  • YOU SHOULD FEEL PROUD :P Can't you see you are/were/is his weakness cx

    • She wants sex to last long because she wants to be pleasured too

  • You're just THAT awesome.

    • Ya I agree with this guy your awesome and be proud but I'd say that after awhile it will take him longer but I'd recommend having him enter you sooner because If your blowing him before than it's just going to happen faster.

    • He'll be fine once the newness of sex wears off.

    • lol@update. stfu troll.