Why don't girls understand that once a slut, always a slut?

[Anonymous]

My female friend and ex-fwb is frustrated with men. In her younger years she slept around with many men. Now, she wants to find a man to marry and have children with. The problem is that most me don't want her for that. Most men want her for sex. Why doesn't she understand that in the eyes of men she will always be seens as an easy woman?

[kheserthorpe]

Hmm. I've known a few guys who wouldn't mind.

Realistically, most guys who did NOT have tons of wild sex either didn't because they are morally opposed, or more often, were unable to. The first group will disapprove, the second group would be resentful that she got to bang dozens of guys and they didn't get to bang dozens of girls.

Guys who are players, a lot of them since they have skill getting women, go for a 'good girl' to marry. They tend to not think most girls are capable of not cheating unless they are good girls - probably because they've gotten so many promiscuous girls to cheat with them.

That leaves guys who had a lot of sex but aren't really players, they're just laid back about sex. I know a few. But they aren't necessarily seeking out girls like this, they're just open to them.

One guy I know - and women really go for this guy, tall, bright guy, interesting, well travelled, focused career, lots of interests - wouldn't care. He had masses of sex when he was younger and travelling, and genuinely doesn't hold it against a woman. I remember he encountered a woman on a dating site who said up front that she used to do p*rn and if it that was a problem. I remember him talking to me about it, you could tell he really didn't care, he just wondered if it would be awkward if his friends had seen her. But himself? He didn't care.

[glamphotog]

Let's just pretend like your logic makes sense... (and it really doesn't make any sense).

So because she slept around, she will never be able to find a guy that will want to marry her and have a family with her?

Now, because you slept with her many times (and not hard to assume you also slept around with other girls in the past), is it logical to think that there is not a women out there that wants to marry you and start a family with you?

Do you understand where I'm going with this?

[Scorpi]

She will not always be seen as an easy woman if she broadens her social circle and starts to interact with people who don't know her past or hold it against her, such as yourself. You don't sound like a very good friend, if someone said that to me I would ditch their arse, whether they were being truthful or not. Your job as a friend is to help her and give her advice, not drag her down and tell her its hopeless and that she's going to be alone forever cause she had some fun in her younger day. Shame on you.

[Stacyzee]

People change over time. I've always said you do not judge one by their past you judge them by who they become from it. At one point that was who she was, but now she has grown up and has different needs.

[Anonymous]

I Do understand this.