Why I can't insert my penis into her vagina and when insert its very painful?

I have been married for 1 year and hasn't experience my first sexual. Whenever i want to insert my penis into her vagina she felf very painful and extremely very painful. She also usually not wet when i insert but i will apply lubricant. Can some expert give advice hw to overcome this problem as we want enjoy sex and have baby soon. Thank you
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I tried foreplay but she not turn on. How can i make her turn on? One more things is how do i overcome premature ejaculation? I can hold for 2 to 3 mins and come out. Any advice.
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  • More likely than not she's not into it. As you said she' s not wet. You can use lube, but you are fooling yourself, she's not into it and sex won't satisfying for her or in your case even painful.

    One word: foreplay !!! Don't even attempt to put it in until she is wet on her own, throw out the lube, it's not needed. You need to turn her on on your own.
    I hate to suggest you watch p*rn because it's not realistic but there is some tastefully done stuff, like x-art. Maybe look into it.
    BUT do NOT use p*rn as a guide, women in real life do not want to be treated like women in p*rn , it's just to get her aroused

    Also if she is a virgin it's normal to feel mild discomfort but it shouldn't be very painful.

    where are you from btw?

    • I tried foreplay but she not turn on. How can i make her turn on? One more things is how do i overcome premature ejaculation? I can hold for 2 to 3 mins and come out. Any advice.

  • You need to get her wet.. Use fingers, lube up your finger stick it in her and play around (if you need to go to extreme measures) If she ain't wet she won't be able to you in her

    • I tried btbshe feel very pain

  • You need to read up about foreplay. Can't just go trying to jam things in without it. Google it for specifics. You will both appreciate it :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • try more oral sex and more forplay. and maybe she is still a virgin like u. so she isn't used to something inside of her. so take it easy with her. but try to make her wet naturally. ask her if she is still a virgin. if yes then it will hurt her a lot the first time u will insert it.

    • How to make her wet? nshe is virgin

  • It hurts cause she's not properly lubricated. Start with some foreplay, kiss her neck, lick nibble her nipples, rub her vagina, lick her clit, insert a finger or two into her vagina, if she's soaked and by then she should be then penetrate her.

    • Dam im horny now...

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  • It could be vaginismus. She should see her doctor.

  • Sounds like psychological trauma, she should visit a therapist.

  • She's not wet and your trying to put your thing In her?
    Sounds like she doesn't want sex with you and that's why it hurts.

  • If she is not into srx, her body will have trouble with accepting your penis.

    • She want sex

    • I disagreee cause she's not turned on.

  • More foreplay is needed.

  • If she's never had sex before, it's going to be painful. That's normal and generally unavoidable. After the first few times, things should go better.

    If she's not turned on when you try to have sex, it's not going to feel good for her - try some foreplay before having sex to make sure that she's prepared. Lubricant isn't enough.

    If those two options aren't viable, she may need to see a doctor and have everything checked out.