Why are men horrible in bed?

most men and I say a vast majority (95%) have NO clue how to please a woman, what she likes and how to get off and knowing where anything is. most men think she is orgasming but fakes it only to not hurt his feelings. reports say 75% of women don't orgasm. most women can take years and years just to have one and some may never get one. why are men so horrible in bed?
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  • Reasons women don't orgasm:

    -It takes longer than 2-3 minutes to achieve an orgasm and most guys only last around less than 5 minutes

    -Most guys aren't willing to give oral sex. Most expect but certainly won't give, especially in the North American region

    -Too many girls are ignorant of their own bodies. They don't masturbate and take the time to get to know their own bodies and if they don't know their own bodies, then how can they expect their partners to

    But no guy is going to openly admit to why they're bad, especially not on here. Every dude on here claims to be the most giving partner and makes sure the girl orgasms 10 times before it's over, loves giving oral sex and their partner is just the freakiest thing alive. People on the internet exaggerate their sexual prowess.

    • i agree 100% best answer :)

    • But you also have to keep in mind women DO need to communicate as everyone else has mentioned. Yes the things I listed are some factors but it does take 2 to tango. While I think generally a woman is shamed for her sexuality(just search around on here enough and you'll find nothing but shame), there are many women who are simply too shy to express their needs and desires. I know we're taught to walk on eggshells cause you'll hurt a guys ego but you do need to show him what you like.

    • as a female who communicates to men and still nothng. women do need to communicate and men need to study our bodies more

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  • In my experience, what you say is somewhat true. The majority of the guys I have slept with were kind of clueless in the beginning. That being said, most of them genuinely did want to please me and eventually did with some direction from me. I think most guys do want to please their partners, but I think their male egos don't always allow them to seek direction like its a sign of weakness or something. I also think many girls fail to communicate to their partners what works and what doesn't. Faking orgasms and remaining silent leads to an unfulfilled sex life. Communication and openness is the only way.

    • i agree with you too! if you answered earlier than I wuould have given you best answer.but your my 2nd best lol

  • It takes two people to have a good sex life.

    Men aren't mind readers, so if he isn't doing what you like, then tell him. You can't just EXPECT them to know what each individual girl likes and dislikes. You need to communicate.

    It isn't fair to put all the blame on men, if you aren't prepared to tell them you have no right to get angry when they don't know.

    • ive been with my fair share amount of men. I've communicated and still nothing. I can orgasm fast but men are clueless even if you communicate trust me

    • Trust you? Why would I trust you when, from my own experience, I know that communication works?

    • well from MY experience it does nothing. 2 different people.

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  • Women are more complex, sexualy and non sexualy, which makes a man's job harder than a women's job. At the same time, society puts more pressure on our performance in the bedroom. We are bombarded with the notion that you are a loser if you can't last forever or can't give a women 100 orgasms. This simply causes guys to get nervous more easily. First of all I think your numbers are a bit scewed, but non the less they do have some merit. But this isn't hard to understand. Women are just more complex and harder to please/get off in the bedroom. Getting a guy off is easy, hence its hard for a women to be a complete failure in bed.

  • 1) your findings hold no actual scientific data. Also, if a woman has multiple guy partners and she's still not having an orgasm than it is more than likely the woman's issue, not the guys. This whole question is a failure and you juse sound like a trolling girl trying to piss off men.

    • not trolling just being honest. got my figures from dateline nbc

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  • some guys are selfish, some guys don't know how, and sometimes the girl doesn't even know how to get herself to orgasm.

  • This is so annoying! Last guy I had sex with lasted forty-five minutes but it did nothing for me. He would hit a good spot and completely go away from it and it pissed me off. He didn't take directions well and the scary thought was he has slept with more people than I have. The whole time I kept thinking I could do this so much better by myself.

    • If he hits a "good spot" then let him know it's good. He probably continued switching up positions cause he didn't realize what felt good for you and what didn't

    • I did tell him, that was the problem. As I said he didn't take directions well.

  • It's an age and experience thing. Making a woman come takes skill, and practice.

    And women are terrible at communicating what they like in bed.

    Making a man come is easy. Insert somewhere warm and moist. Repeat.

    • Meh, it could be a cold, dry hand and it'll still do the trick

    • Word, good point. There is no skill involved in making a guy come, but it takes tremendous skill and communication with your partner to make a woman come.

  • Thats quite a large figure, can I ask what the sample size was you tested? this sounds more like a rant then a question

    • well its kinda both to be honest. from expereince with guys it seems like they are clueless. as far as the 75% goes there was a report on dateline NBC about women sexuality a few days ago and that was the report

    • Samples are determined by collecting a small range of people and collecting data on them to determine an overall percentage... they are generally unreliable at best. Perhaps the guys you done it with were simply dopes?

    • so I guess the hundreds of tests done and research reports are wrong at their data? they all seem to be within the same range of 70-80%

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  • I could say the same about women a lot of the time haha... Although I've been told that I'm pretty good. I like to talk to a girl and get her to tell me the kinds of things she likes and I try my best to be good in bed. The problem is that a lot of people are very shy when it comes to talking about sex and trying new things.

  • Sounds like you have bad taste in men. How about choosing one that actually cares about what you feel.

  • The question asker expects to lay down and spread her legs then wait for orgasm. Same with best answer. Try sleeping with someone you actually have chemistry with.

    • Actually, I never said that and if you read through the comments and my answer you'd know I stressed the importance of knowing your body and masturbating so you can communicate your needs. But it's obvious that you read what you wanted to read

    • so I'm guessing guys expect to just push in and out in and out and a girls gonna have an orgasm?

  • Why are women bad in bed?

    • Because they're spoiled and expect the man to be grateful for her presence.

    • Joshbgosh is so right!

    • You see all the women downvoting me because they don't like my question? Men feel the same way.

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  • Well I wouldn't really know anything about that but like.. I know from male friends who say they can't get into it because the girl has no enthusiasm.. most girls just lay there like a "dead fish" I've heard friends claim. I wouldn't know one way or another though so just passing on information.

  • Do you communicate this to the guy? tell him what he can do to better please you? all women are different you know right?

  • because some women do not communicate what they like or want in bed... But some guys can say the same for women too. Communication is the key... If you do not talk about it then how can you expect him to please you the way you want lol. This question is silly lol

    • some women do communicate and still nothing. not a silly questions its a truthful question

    • I bet a lot of guys will say the same as me. Communicate. Show him. use visual aids... etc lol. Men can not read a woman's mind. If she keeps getting bad sex then it is on her for not talking to him about it or talking him up to boost him up... If the woman communicates and it is still bad then perhaps it is something else. Who knows. each person is different. One person's bad sex is another person's good sex...