Why Sex Is Just Gross And Overrated

I contend that sex is gross and overrated. Here are my reasons.

Why Sex Is Just Gross And Overrated

In college, I just wanted to see whether I could find porn on the Internet, because I had heard that finding porn was as easy as a web search, so I tried it, turned off the filters, and DING, I saw porn. The images and impression stayed with me afterwards, because for once I understood why porn was controversial. There's no question that the material is objectionable. Its portrayal of women and sex acts were sadistic and misogynistic, barbaric and cruel. It's like a license to rape and to control. The epitome of sexual objectification. The people become reduced to body organs and parts, devoid of feelings. Porn is just one reason why I think sex is disgusting.

Why Sex Is Just Gross And Overrated

Another big thing about sex, especially in porn, that has always triggered the ick factor in me is that you're sharing bodily fluids and germs. The idea of putting your mouth on someone' penis, anus, or vulva does not appear to be hygienic. The penis excretes urine as much as it excretes semen. There may be urine residue on the penis that may be colonized by bacteria, or if the person has an urinary tract infection or some kind of pathogen, then the penis-to-mouth or vulva-to-mouth route is a great way to spread germs. Also, licking someone's anus is a great way to get someone's gut flora and toxins into your system. No organism can live in its own waste, so I wouldn't be surprised if you get sickened by Escherichia coli, which by the way, can thrive anywhere in your system, including your central nervous system! Sure, you may argue that you have your own immune system, but the immune system can only do so much, and with outbreaks of Escherichia coli in tainted food, don't expect your immune cells would save the day when you have sex.

Why Sex Is Just Gross And Overrated

Vaginal sex involves penetration of the vagina. I never succeeded in putting in a tampon or a finger into my vagina. I just use pads instead. As a side note, I also don't wear contacts for the same reason: contamination and maintenance. It's just easier to put on a pair of prescriptive glasses that can double as goggles. Wearing pads is simpler than tampons, because they are outside. So, bacteria that cause toxic shock syndrome can't get you. Anyway, back to the vaginal sex discussion, I know some people would say that you need to be lubricated or relaxed. That's easier said than done. You try finding the vaginal opening while lying on your bed with a foot holding the mirror, another foot balancing the flashlight on the bed, one hand trying to tease apart the labia, and the other trying to look for the vaginal opening. And oh yeah, your neck is curled, straining on your backbone. Tell me if you can relax like that! And once something is inside the vagina, you'll have to worry what germs that person or object may be carrying. Sure, the vaginal flora may offer some level of protection, but it's either not enough or disturbed by changing environment.

Why Sex Is Just Gross And Overrated

Sexual molestation can be a pain-in-the-butt, literally, physically and emotionally. I believe it reveals the ugliness of sex. Trust me. I have personal experience. I was about eight years old, third grade, and always participated in the school's after school program, because my parents had to work and didn't want me to be left at home alone. In the after school program, there were usually a few students. We would do homework, eat snacks and use the computer room to play games. One day, my friends weren't there. There was that boy who approached me and touched me below the waist over clothing. I felt instant discomfort and brushed him away. He did it again. Then, I became afraid. I wanted to escape but couldn't find the teacher. Another incident was when that same boy and I were in the computer room. The computer room used Macintosh computers, and I hated them because I had a hard time figuring out where was the power switch. I was a PC user. I always had to ask someone to help me turn on the computer. So, I asked the boy to help me, but he just said, "only if you would kiss me." I felt afraid, very afraid. I went out to find the teacher, but she was talking to someone else. I approached her, but she told me to return. I approached her again, but she told me again to go to the computer room. So, I just entered the room and pretended the kid didn't exist. When the teacher took us back to the main classroom, I just cried. I cried so hard that I couldn't stop. The teacher came and asked what's wrong. I wanted to say what the boy did to me, but I didn't want her to think that kids could be sexual toward each other. The mere fact that it involved a sexual behavior embarrassed me. So, I just pointed at the boy and then at my private part. The teacher was shocked. The boy denied. Sometime later, my mother and I attended a meeting with a school official. They asked me about the after school incident. Mom was there, and I didn't want her to know that a sexual transgression occurred, so I just lied that the boy pushed me. For some reason, I felt it was easier for me to explain a physical assault than a sexual assault. But anyway, the boy and I were put in different classes for the rest of my elementary school years, and I was relieved when my parents announced we were moving to a different school district for middle school. As time passed, I became more aware of sexual assault and harassment, and eventually I came to recognize the behavior as sexual assault in the form of groping.

So, here's my take on why I think sex is gross and overrated, unnecessary and even abusive. As GirlsAskGuys tends to be a very sexually charged website, I realize that many people will feel defensive about this take, disagree with everything I've said, and then refute the myTake. That's okay. At least I've shared a myTake about the ugly side of sex to counter all the good-feely vibe that this site sends about sex.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Everyone is different, and how you feel is perfectly fine. Some people don't care for sex, some people are repulsed by it, some people are terrified of it. But when you are madly in love, and when the person you love has amazing skills in the bedroom, sex is absolutely incredible. I hope someday you are able to put the issues you have behind you and find the kind of joy and contentment associated with that. Maybe you can spend a summer in Italy; by the time you leave, you will have changed your mind.

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  • "In college, I just wanted to see whether I could find porn on the Internet, because I had heard that finding porn was as easy as a web search, so I tried it, turned off the filters, and DING, I saw porn..."

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAkJjPcofck
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    • I died like three times.

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  • You should take this myTake down because it is full of unnecessary personal problems which can be solved if you search for help, and this is simply giving false information on things.

    I thought you might write that because you got raped or sexually harassed or abused when you were young, but this is just not any.

    You are a scared cat not wanting to try something probably the most pleasuring thing in the world gifted to human. Both for physical satisfaction and emotional satisfaction, in terms of being so close with someone and being able to create a new life, a little baby through this.

    Go see a shrink/sex therapist about your sexual problems please

  • porn is not sex.
    neither is molestation, rape, or any other type of assault (in my personal opinion).

    sex is a beautiful thing among 2+ consenting adults/teens. don't let a bad experience, or porn, turn you off it.

  • I just wanna say you'd be surprised how many people have been sexually abused before. I've had the same thing that happened to you happen to me in HS. Over and over and over and over again. Don't even get me started on sexual harassment. I still like sex.

    And porn is about fantasies and money. If people weren't into it they wouldn't display it. Porn isn't reality.

  • I agree that sex is gross and overrated it doesn't feel as amazing as people make it out to seem and even though it has the potential to be amazing it takes a lot of effort to find that partner for what is minutes of pleasure however intense it may be it is of course gross because of fluids germs and all that although you can make an effort to make it cleaner keeping good hygiene showering and brushing your teeth from both parties is a good way to not have a multitude of germs spread porn is just an unfair representation for anything it doesn't represent the majority its just there so that people can see two naked people having sex and release sexual urges its not what most people want or else you would see everyone trying to become a pornstar or fuck one at least I do think you should give sex more of a chance though with someone you love and trust so in a romantic way and not lest your past influence your views on sex as strictly negative

  • "I had heard that finding porn was as easy as a web search, so I tried it, turned off the filters, and DING, I saw porn. The images and impression stayed with me afterwards, because for once I understood why porn was controversial. There's no question that the material is objectionable. Its portrayal of women and sex acts were sadistic and misogynistic, barbaric and cruel. It's like a license to rape and to control."

    WTF did you search for?