When I read your post I thought of the Kinsey report. I know that usually brings up the thought of LGBTQ ideas, but Prof. Kinsey was working on a study of women and their sexuality as well. Women aren't programmed the same way as men are. A lot of the time it's about how we think and feel about our partners (not so much about the physical look). It makes us much more complicated individuals sexually, and with that being said, you only being able to masturbate to an idea (which are your stories & imagined ideas) is completely natural and normal.
You may find over time that these themes of bdsm don't have as much an effect on you as they used to. You may have just worn out the fantasy. There are many others to play and enjoy.
There is a large community into this sort of thing as well, so don't be embarrassed if you ever want to take it to another level with a partner or finding one who is into that sort of thing.
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I felt comfortable enough with my ex, after we had been together a couple of years, to share with him what I liked and he acted like I was disgusting and sick. Maybe that's why I felt it was weird.
Everyone has their own likes and dislikes - this site is just an example of that. So your ex wasn't into it, that's just one guy. I would suggest that you try to introduce it earlier into your next relationship. Start with smthing small like spanking so that he knows that you're into that kind of thing and then work your way into other things. That way he won't be as surprised (and perhaps offended since he'll have more experience) and you can get an innitial reaction to what he does think of it.
You don't have a problem, that's just what gets you off. My girlfriend, even though she was terrified of walking down a dark alley, or going anywhere when it was dark out of fear of being mugged or raped, had fantasies of being raped. She never was or anything like that, but it's what got her off. I don't know if her fear is why she started having them, or maybe the reason why she's so afraid to go out in the dark is because of her fantasies. So, don't worry, you are not alone and there is nothing wrong with you.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It's not about your fantasies. The fact that you're concerned about it is a good thing. It's when you hurt someone or are hurt is when it becomes a problem.
Frankly I believe the only difference between being sweep off your feet and being raped is if you want it or not.
You're normal.
I don't think hurting someone is a possibility and I am smart enough to keep myself out of trouble. But I wish I go just as turned on by thinking of normal sex or watching porn, etc.
It is called a "rape fantasy".
You're not the only one, beleive me.
Even in this website, I2ve read a lot of girls with similar fantasies. Bondage, domination, etc.
Most of the answers you'll get for this question will be complete garbage. We have no idea where our turn-ons come from. None.
Fortunately, it doesn't much matter where they come from, as long as we can live with them peacefully. You found something you enjoy. Enjoy it, and find people to enjoy it with you.
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your not alone, its a very very big club. I'm not so much into the bondage or helpless stuff though. I like being free
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