Why am I still a virgin?

I am 18 and I have never had a boyfriend before, I have never had sex and I have even never kissed anyone. What do you think, why? I think I look pretty normal, I mean - long brown wavy hair, brown eyes, slim but curvy, C breasts :D I have similar interests than most guys, I try to be friendly and nice to other people... I have many male friends but no boyfriend... I am the last virgin from my friends and I am going to the university after holidays and it will be pretty awkward :D Maybe my problem is that I don't enjoy going to the clubs and drink every other day like most people my age do :) So what would you do in my place?
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  • "Why are you still a virgin?"...

    Hmm... That implies that you have to somehow "justify" your virginity status, which is simply false.

    When I first arrived at the University of Michigan, I had to go through some "training". Some seminars about alcohol, sexual abuse, etc.

    I remember this interesting bit of information though.

    Apparently, an anonymous survey suggests that 20% of the campus population are virgins. (We are talking about a campus full of tens of thousands of students. You do the math.)

    So, well, there is nothing wrong about you. If there was, then there would be something wrong with 1/5 of the students in my campus, which is a heck of a large number of students.

    I think you are over-thinking all this. There is nothing here that requires an explanation, or a justification, or even a "reason".

    The only possible "reason" that one can find for you to be a virgin is because you have not had sex yet. Done. Doesn't get any deeper than that.

    P.S. Nothing has to be more awkward than you make it to be. In fact, anything becomes "awkward" when people react to it as if it is an unnatural / abnormal thing.

    Here, watch the first 8 seconds of this Youtube video to see an artificial "awkward atmosphere": (

    https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=zo8PmtFUouA

    ).

    If it is that simple to make something seem awkward, it *must* be equally simple to not make it awkward, don't you think?

  • Don't stress about your viginity when I got to uni I was blown away by how many people were still virgins. It's not a big deal at all, but yes drinking and clubbing would be a quick way to loose it tho.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Well, I'm 20 and a virgin so I must be one hell of a lost cause if you think it'll be weird for an 18 year old to be a virgin in university.

    Honestly, its not the big deal everyone makes it out to be. All of the friends I've made at college are virgins except for a few, and we're don't mess with each other about it. Anyone who'll give you sh*t about something that dumb isn't someone you want to spend your time with. Try not to worry about losing your virginity. You're only so worried about it because you've had it drilled into you that its something you should get rid of to be considered normal and attractive. Make sure YOU are the one who really chooses. Don't decide to lose your virginity because you feel you have to.

  • wait until you sincerely care about the guy your dating and he sincerely cares about you. I was 25 years old when I lost my virginity. My boyfriend who I'm still with, didn't mind it. Originally I was scared he would be turned off by it because he'd have to teach me about sex and stuff ( I really didn't know much at all) and he is well experienced. But he was very patient with me and doesn't mind teaching me and not rushing things.

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  • Don't worry, I lost my virginity at 19!

  • Its not about being a complete mindless idiot who goes out to get hammered everyday for acceptance. My guess is that either most guys are intimidated by you. In college it shouldn't matter I hear guys will jump all over you.

  • You're not alone lol...I'm 18 and in the same boat.

  • What's wrong with that?

    Many girls put out A LOT once they go to university, so you'll probably catch up in no time anyway.

  • i don't get why do girls complain about not getting sex, obviously getting sex is easy for you girls since you don't have to initiate anything and we guys are not picky

  • Join clubs with people of similar interests to you and you could meet guys there