Why won't he see me?

I've been "talking" to this guy for 10 months now. We have been sexually intimate. We use to go out on like date like things and hang out other places besides his place, and he use to pick me up to do things. until I asked him if we were dating about a two months in it. he said "no, I'm not ready for a relationship or any commitment right now." When we first started having sex he said he wasn't trying to make it seem like he only wanted me to come over and have sex with me also. He cut me off for about 3 months talking to me here and there threw text but he said he had a lot going on and he cut every one off for the most part. Then we started right back where we left off after he said everything cooled off a bit. He doesn't see me as much and like the last month he's been doing things for me but he won't hang out with me. He only asked to hang out one time all of January and that's because a week or so before I said I missed him and wanted to see him but I couldn't because I was sick. he still calls me baby., babe when he does contact me. do you think he is trying to avoid developing emotions for me? or is it just one of those things like I just want you as a quick lay every once and a while because I know you'll come kind of thing?
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  • The way you word it, it sounds like he basically told you "You're just a booty call, but I didn't want you to THINK that you're just a booty call, so I took you out places. But I don't want to like, BE with you or anything."

    • yah that's what I was thinking but I wasn't sure. and I paid for the dates he just drove

    • he offered to pay the first one tho

  • "I'm not ready for a relationship or any commitment right now."

    Seems straightforward to me.

    • yea for almost a year tho? maybe he just doesn't want a relationship with me. the way I'm thinking now

    • Maybe not you, maybe not anyone, but he clearly doesn't want one. Best to adjust to that fact.

    • a year isn't that long a time, if you don't want one, you don't want one. not everyone holds relationships as high priority.

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