Why would a guy not go down on you?

So I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now. The first couple times we had sex he stopped himself from cumming because he said he didn't want to unless I did. He has asked how does he make me cum, and I told him I can only orgasm from oral. He's not young so I know he's not inexperienced, but he said all of his previous girlfriends have always been able to come during sex. Which is weird to me because I always heard that most girls need clitoral stimulation. Anyway ever since I told him this he hasn't tried anything. He fingered me once (and with concentration I was able to orgasm), but I had to kind of guide him to not penetrate and rub more. So I haven't actually asked him to do oral, but after telling him that's really the only way I can finish he hasn't done it. So is there a reason a guy would just refuse to do oral, even if they seem to really want to get you to finish?
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Thanks for your advice everyone!
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I have a new question then-Would he get mad if say I did ask during making out/right before sex if he would go down on me? and would that turn you off to sex for the night?
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  • 1. Like not all women like going down on a man, all men too don't go down on women

    2. There are tons of women who have only experienced clitoral orgasms, while tons have experienced only vaginal orgasms and there are those lucky ones who experience both. Enjoying one more than the other when you experience both is another matter.

    3. This guy is a sensitive and concerned guy. But can't blame him if he doesn't like going down on a woman

    4. Is your hygiene and odor good? (pls pardon my saying this - didn't mean to insult or degrade)

    • Yes, my hygiene and odor is good. He actually tells me all the time how good I smell. Oh and I don't know if it makes a difference, but I have gone down on him. I'm not asking him to do something that I wouldn't do to him.

    • sex and love is not a barter system. One should and must respect each others' likes and dislikes. There are tons of times men go down on the woman when the woman doesn't. It's a personal preference. Why not ask him openly, if he has anything against going down on a woman

    • Oooh-I actually did do that! He seemed kind of weird when he responded, and he said no he didn't have anything against it. That's when I learned that all of his previous gals have always finished with normal sex. But after his response he still didn't do anything, except carry on with the normal sex.

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  • @Update...I can't think of ANY reason that one lover should get mad at their partner for asking for that...pretty much mainstream sex...I mean I have a couple of fixations that need to be satisfied so you can be sure that I would be asking...Turned off for the night? Heh...I might be turned off for the night if you would NOT let me go down! I suppose that is possible...I mean I don't feel as though that should happen...but a person never knows when they are going to say something that messes with a touchy individual...:S

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  • maybe he doesn't like it. And women can get an orgams from vaginal sex, cause we have millions of nerves in the vagina that are there so we can enjoy sex and get an orgams. I think you haven't found a postion that works for you or you are too dependent on oral. Anyway you can't force anyone to go down on you so you either have to live with it or end things with him.

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  • Even if it doesn't anger the person who doesn't want to do it, it may well happen that he may get turned off to an extent even if not fully considering that he doesn't seem to like it or since he's said he's done it before he may simply not be in a mood to do it.

  • hell no it wouldn't turn me off.I would want to do it that is like going to the gates of heaven and saying nah I don't want to go in.That is the best place to visit catch my drift. ;)

  • Okay all his past girlfriends probably lied.Women will do that to a guy who doesn't know what he is doing almost to keep from hurting him.I bet he has no idea what he is doing down there and age has nothing to do with having sex.A guy might have slept with 30 women but it doesn't mean he knows what he is doing.This is embarrassing but I have only slept with 3 women and every-time we did the women would start shaking.It just depends on how he does it.

  • I'll only do it if she goes down on me.

  • Shave, be clean, smell good and have an innie.

  • I SO love going down on females that it is extremely difficult for me to grasp that some guys don't like it...but the only ones I have ever bumped into just seem to think it's unclean or gross or something...although these same ding dongs will usually french kiss...O.O

  • Sexual pleasure is a two-way street. Both should enjoy. My wife loves cunnilingus. I Always give her cunnilingus when she wants to. I love cunnilingus and penetration, long penetration. With clitoral stimulation she can have an orgasm during penetration.

  • He's gay?

    Honestly, that's the only reason I can think of.

    A gay guy could f*** a girl and pretend like he's pounding a mans ass. He can get blown, and pretend it's a guy blowing him.

    But when you're eating p**** - there's no way you can pretend you're doing anything else.

    Gay men can't eat p****.