Will girls think I'm a loser?

[Anonymous]

it seems a lot of girls lose their virginity in their 15/16/17s and most don't regret it.. but I'm 21 and still a virgin and not by choice but because no girl wants me... am I a loser? ):

[Anonymous]

You are not a loser. I am 22 and still a virgin. I have had zero opportunities to loose it and I have come to the realization that would not make me happy. It would not make me cool or popular. IT would not make me feel as if I have accomplished something. I thin having sex with someone is a bond that must be built. Having sex in general should not be thrown around like it it today. I personally would rather wait until marriage to have sex. BUT that is what I feel right now. Who knows maybe I will someday fall madly in love with a guy and he will prove to me that I can have sex with him and I be okay with it. It will happen when its supposed to happen.There is no need to rush it. I with you great luck in finding the person that will make you happy and it should not matter if she is or is not a virgin. It should only matter in your heart. :)

Your are not a loser, end of story.

[sarcasticbella]

your not a loser, you have nothing to be ashamed of. You'll find someone when the time is right. Maybe even wait for marriage and you and your wife can have your first time together, that would be ideal. Most people I know who lost their virginity in their teens do regret it and wish they had lost it to their husband. Don't let society and its negative connotations of being a virgin effect your self esteem.

[Asker]

but it's because I'm waiting, its because no girl wants to share that intimacy with me..

[Asker]

its not because I'm waiting**

[sarcasticbella]

Maybe you just haven't met that girl yet. Don't wanna use any derogatory terms but there are girls(guys too) out there who will have sex with anyone so if you just wanted to get laid you probably could. But I'm guessing your holding out for a somewhat special experience

[Asker]

no I don't think I could get even those easy girls..

[sarcasticbella]

why do you think so little of yourself, there are worse things than being a virgin, that's a good thing. If you find a really religious girl with a purity ring she'd love you because there's a drought of male virgins

[Asker]

because none of them find me attractive, so I'm ugly and lonely

[sarcasticbella]

your self esteem is likely the most unattractive thing about you, not your looks. Your holding yourself back from finding someone. I've seen terrible looking guys dating girls who look like models because they have confidence and their just good people. Try to find the goodness in yourself so that others can see it.

[Asker]

I try but it doesn't work

[sarcasticbella]

im positive that you have some redeeming qualities. If your even a semi good person, someone will love you

[Anonymous]

idk you may be a loser. doesn't have anything to do with your virginity though. I mean I guess if no one likes you, you're a loser in terms of love/desirability but not in general. you could have many good qualities about you.

[EngineeringStudent]

If it's one of the first things they learn about you, probably. It doesn't have good implications. Fortunately, the only way that can happen is if you wear a sign on your back saying "Virgin not by choice." Don't mention it until it's brought up. If a girl has grown to like you as a person and finds out you're a virgin (you can leave the "not by choice" part out), chances are she's not going to care.

No, I don't think you're a loser.

[Moloch]

You're not a loser. TRUST ME, there's nothing special about losing your virginity. After you lose it, it's like nothing ever happened. The only difference is that now you have more in common with other people, like shared experiences. Whenever someone asks you if you're a virgin, just say no, what's the big deal?

[anupamagrawal]

Not having sex does not make anyone loser. You are just 21. Having whole life to have sex around.

[MilaPohstro]

no

[InstantBeta]

Yes. you're a loser. just messin but no I lost my virginity when I was 23 and lets just say it didn't happen the way I wanted. just live your life and enjoy it one day you'll find a girl just don't try to push it or you'll end up regretting it

[starlight124]

your not a loser, it'll happen eventually so don't worry :)

[IHateBeingaMan]

that must mean I am too

[Anonymous]

i hate how we guys have to have confidence but girls don't

[Anonymous]

Meanwhile...back in real life...

[Anonymous]

Not a loser. :)

[Asker]

but it's not because I'm waiting, its because no girl wants to share that intimacy with me..

[InstantBeta]

Look man there's someone out there for you. Stop with the nobody wants to share intamacy me crap. there is someone out the for you. but societies got you thinking that being a virgin is an abnormal thing and in order to fit in you must lose it. That is extremely false. Learn to love yourself for now. and you'll find that girls find a guy who is confident in himself attractive no matter if you're fat ugly nerdy geeky whatever. just be yourself enjoy the things you like indulge yourself in hobbies

[Asker]

I don't think there s

[InstantBeta]

well there won't be if you keep thinkin like that

[Opinion Owner]

I kind of have to agree with InstantBeta. don't let yourself feel defeated, that's what makes the loser you think you are. Had I not been patient and persistent, I would have had to wait to lose my virginity at 22 because I also though no one wanted to be with me, but that wasn't true. There was someone out there for me, I just hadn't met him yet.

[Asker]

when did you lose your's?

[Opinion Owner]

I lost it one month before my 18th birthday. Had I not met him, it would have taken me 5 more years to lose it.

[Asker]

ok but I'm a guy and the older I get the more unattractive it is

[Anonymous]

Not a loser..

[Anonymous]

yes