Woman on Top Position help? He wants me on top?

[Anonymous]

I'm not very experienced,he's the only guy I've ever been sexual with.We've been having sex for about a month so far maybe a little more.He is experienced if that matters.Well,yesterday we were talking [about sex] and he told me he wants me to be on top.But we've never done that,well,I've never done that.So,besides having to ask him for help,what are some general tips you can give? I really don't wanna look stupid or be a turn off to him

[hisangel]

Well, I would say don't start with the position people typically think of when they say "girl on top". Which is the man on his back, the woman on top, her sitting straight up, while riding him. That position is way too intimidating first time out. Luckily, all sexually positions can be varied.

So I would do one of two things. If you want to try the typical position, you can always lean forward a little bit. You don't have to sit straight up. The closer you are to him, the less self conscious you are going to feel. So try leaning down a little bit. The other position you can try is your boyfriend is basically sitting on the bed with his legs out and you sit on top of him. It' basically like sitting in his lap with your legs wrapped around him. What's good about this position is his head is eye level with you, you are doing all the work, but you don't feel as "out there". It's a pretty intimate position too.

Another thing you can do is have your boyfriend start with him being on top and you guys can change to this position. Or you can start and then change to this position. Then you don't have to feel like it's all on you and can slowly get more comfortable with it.

One of the things about girl on top is it is a great position if your boyfriend has a large penis. If he is smaller or normal size, if you are moving too fast his penis can slide out which obviously isn't fun. If it happens, just stop and slide it back in. No worries, it happens.

Another issue with girl on top is that the vagina isn't as tight around the penis as when he is on top. So some guys have a hard time cumming in this position cause the sensation isn't as intense. One trick you can try (when you get used to the position first) is clamping down on his penis occasionally with the muscles in your vagina. Like when you pee and you try and stop yourself? Those muscles. My partner says it feels like I'm grabbing onto his penis every time I move. It drives him crazy.

[janelov]

Awesome comment as usual!

[hisangel]

Thanks janelov.

[Anonymous]

First, try to come across confident as that what guys like. Don't be worrying too much at the fact that he can see all of you -- because to him, you will look beautiful. After foreplay, and when you are ready and on top, take his d*** and slowly put it inside your p****. You don't want to do this quickly as it might hurt if you aren't used to it and it does too deep too fast. If you lean more forward toward him and kiss his face or chest, that angle is better for the first time. If you let his d*** go straight in, it might hurt if it goes deep. When you are on top of him, you can be kissing him, feeling him, reach around behind and feel his balls. Your motion can be either up and down (you control it) or you can also kind of rock back and forth. He will guide you as far as how fast to go as he gets more excited. When he getting ready to cum, he will most likely grab your hips and kind of move you up and down to the pace he needs. Just let him kind of guide you on that. But, you need to let him know if he goes to deep and it hurts. You can also massage your own clit during this time, but that might be a little vulnerable for your first time. Hopefully other girls or guys can give you more tips.

[Engageme]

You won't look stupid nor be a turn off. However, just sit on top, and raise up and down. With time you'll figure out what feels good to you both. He will likely help too.

[kailar]

I usually have problems with this too. I find the easiest way to do this, and not have him help out, is to have him sitting and you on top either kneeling or with your feet planted on either side of him. And with having him in a sitting position there is more stimulation on your clit and it feels amazing.

I hope this helps!

Good luck :)

[haleypeters]

just ride him as you were riding on a horse back and forth motionss

[JennieF]

I enjoy it.