The thing is, it's never really rape if she wants to sleep with him. Some guys will use this as an excuse to rape women - saying that secretly they really like the idea, therefore it must be fine. But there's a difference. She fancies a particular guy (guy A) and enjoys the idea of him being so attracted to her that he comes onto her forcefully and tries to coerce her. It gives her power if she's able to refuse him or brush him off but he'll still try to sleep with her, which is really what she wants. But when this other guy (guy B) comes along, he knows that lots of women have rape fantasies, so he uses that as an excuse to actually rape her - it's different, because in that case she really doesn't want it, hasn't consented, and it really is rape. Just thought I'd point that out.
Most of the time, women are brought up with the idea that being too sexually forward is being slutty. But the fact is that we have urges and desires just the same as men do. So if we are 'raped' (I put that in quotation marks to mark the difference between the fantasy and actual rape; see my point above) then we get to have our urges satisfied, without the blame being on us. So the theory goes.
You could also consider it as a test of a man's strength; lots of women find physically strong men attractive (in evolutionary terms, you could say it marks a guy's ability to protect her or her children from real danger if needed. It also can be a marker of good health) and rough or 'forced' sex is a way for a guy to show that. In the fantasy, if she's struggling against him and he's still holding her down easily, he must be very strong.
The way you phrase that last sentence is slightly worrying. If you're alone with a woman and you're making out or whatever, and she's giving you the green light to go further, then you can try being more forward or a little more aggressive with her. That can play into the fantasy perfectly (if she also accepts what you're doing then as well). Never assume that you can actually just corner a woman and start being sexually aggressive with her and that she'll automatically like it. I
If I knew the guy and was comfortable with him it'd be hot, if some guy dragged me into dark alley and raped me a gun point that'd be terrifying. It's not that we want to be raped but just thinking that a guy wants you so badly that he can't control himself and forces himself on you and doesn't treat you like you're going to break if he too rough with you is hot.
thats the perfect way to describe it
It's actually a very common fantasy among women (though not everyone necessarily thinks of them as "rape" fantasies, sometimes it's just seen as being "overpowered" or "forced" by a man). link
Personally, I really enjoy rape fantasy and I have engaged in rape roleplay with a number of partners.
This kind of fantasy is actually quite common in women. In fact, it's one of the more common sexual fantasies. However, it's not really a rape fantasy so much as it is a fantasy about being "taken" and dominated, generally by somebody she would find attractive, and often by somebody she already knows. Don't get the wrong impression. No woman wants to actually be raped.
Yes, it's a common 'rape' fantasy among the female population. The fantasy though, necessarily isn't actually what real rape would be like, it's more so a man sometimes men they know that dominates them and give it to them rough. Real rape however is different, it's not something any woman would want to experience and it is rarely something that could be enjoyed.
Not just rarely - rape, by definition, is something she doesn't want.
Of course, but when I said rarely, I had a story in mind. A woman told me once she was raped in an alley (Cliche, right) She wasn't beaten or anything, he just had his way with her, 'cummed' on her face, and left her there. She said she didn't hate it at all. However this would be the only real life story I heard about rape that wasn't a horrific experience. That's why I said rarely, some women are injured or even killed during a raping.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!i think its not the rape itself but the roughness...alot of women like it rough.
It's a fantasy even among the hardest feminists
They like to be dominated in an extreme way, however I doubt they'd enjoy actually being raped... Well there's no way they could because it's not really rape if they're enjoying it, is it?
As my friends and I say, "you can't rape the willing."
One of my friends says she thinks like that. I just don't connect rape as the same thing as forced sex (in fantasies it would be someone you know who wouldn't want to hurt you) where as with rape, the goal of the rapist is power and rape is typically very heinous and abusive.
Nah, I'm actually dominant in sex, and always on top, but my boyfriend has fantasy about being raped by me ;)
I like it. But of course, it'd have to be with my boyfriend and not a stranger..
Yes. Many women like to play out rape fantasies with their boyfriends.
I read online somewhere, maybe YahooShine, that many women harbor rape fantasies, it's quite popular.
It's the turn on of being in actual danger, without being in actual danger.
Good luck.
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