Wondering about Mirena-guys with fingering/sex and girls' experience

[Anonymous]

Girls who have taken Mirena, how did you find it? And guys, can you feel the strings? I may need to go on it and I'm just worried about it. I worry what if the guy can feel the strings and thinks it's a tampon or catches the string and pulls it out a little (sometimes I like being fingered deep and fast/hard). I haven't had sex, but I can't take estrogen (have a blood clotting mutation-Factor Leiden V unfortunately :( ) so a guynocologist suggested Mirena. I also would like to know if it helped with acne. I want a birth control to help with acne also. She said it helping with acne is questionable. I know it's expensive, but would like to know your experiences with it. How do you check the strings?

[Cass_M]

If you have a blood clotting disorder, you should get Paraguard, not Mirena. It is copper based, not hormonal. I have anti-phospholipid antibody syndrome and, after a really bad blood clot, am not able to have any type of hormones.

If he fingers deep enough, he may be able to feel the strings. Tell him he might feel the strings of your iud deep in, but as long as he doesn't pull on them, there shouldn't be any problems.

As for acne, hormonal birth control can either make it worse or better. no way to tell. Again, you really shouldn't have hormones. I had to go to two gynos before the second would listen enough to do a little more research and realize that yes, I was right, people with clotting disorders such as APS should not be on any type of hormones.

If your gyno insists it is ok, even after she checks her books/research/chart, then I would recommend the Implant over the IUD. It has much fewer problems, and the lowest rate of unplanned pregnancies - lower than sterilization even.

Also, if you have insurance, your insurance should cover it 100%, because it is preventative. I know mine did.

As for being able to feel strings after sex, as long as they aren't super short, they should soften after a couple weeks.

[SuperCurious]

Why don't you try planned parenthood? They are really cheap for those who need it, and unless your man has long alien like fingers I doubt he will feel or pull it out, it's placed in your uterus which typically not reached by fingers, not go me at least. If your still concerned then you should consider the IUD, they implant that one on the inside of your bicep. As for acne I'm not sure, my birth control doesn't affect mine, but I usually just get a couple around my period, so I think it depends on each woman.

[Asker]

There's strings though that hang down that you have to use to check. I know they put it way up, but there is still strings, which is what I'm worried about. :S

[SuperCurious]

Oh I didn't know that! Hmm I'm on the Nuba ring and love it, it is extremely low dose as well, maybe you could ask your gyno About it

[Asker]

Is there estrogen in the Nuvaring? I don't know if I'd want that, I'd be worried of the guy pulling it out or something when getting fingered (or sex if you have sex). I've read too that you can get more infections since it's sitting there, but not sure if that's all true. Does it stop your periods or help with acne?

[SuperCurious]

It's an extremely low dosage of estrogen. I've never had issues with it during sex or getting fingered. My man knows about it so it's not an issue, it's not recomended but you can take it out for upto two hours and still be protected. I don't risk that though, it's flexible and if you get it up far enough (I use a tampon applicator to push it up far) its not really noticable for him or you.ive been on it for over a year and never gotten an infection, you can easily take it out and rinse it with

[SuperCurious]

Cool water so it's easy to keep clean. I personally don't have acne so I'm not sure, you should try using baking soda/milk paste as a scrub every couple days, it helps me whenever I get breakouts I also use sysilic acid face washes. As for the periods I make it so I have one every other month :)

[Asker]

Ah, see I can't take any estrogen :( Tried to get back on estrogen, but I can't with this Factor Leiden V unfortunately. I mostly have the acne on my back and shoulders, so it's hard to reach sometimes. I wish I could take estrogen, made my boobs a little bigger-it was great! But did gain some weight on it-Alesse. I know a couple people on Nuvaring.

[SuperCurious]

That sucks

[Asker]

Yeah, BIG TIME! So why did you choose Nuvaring? and not say Mirena or any other IUD?

[SuperCurious]

I want something I can easily remove myself, I don't like the thought of all those hormones being stuck in my body at once. My schedule is to crazy for me to take the pill anymore, I'm never up at the same time everyday because of work so the nuva ring was my best option

[Asker]

Oh I see. It's slowly released over time though, but makes sense. At least with Mirena, well for some people I guess, they don't have periods for the 5 years. But I worry if you were to have sex, how would you know you're not pregnant since you don't have a period? Which is why I'd like one, but not having one would always be convenient (then can go to the beach or an outing and not have to worry about it. That's if you didn't get one ha ha).

[SuperCurious]

Yea same with the nuva ring. With meraina your supposed to take regular prego tests. That would be nice though ha ha I hate my period

[Asker]

With the nuvaring also? Did not know that, you keep it in for three weeks and out a week right? I know you said you do it for every two months.

[SuperCurious]

I keep it in 3 and a half weeks put a new one in for another 3 and a half weeks then take it out for a week

[Cass_M]

As for SuperCurious and Asker, what you are doing is dangerous. You leave it in for up to 3 years. Only a gyno is supposed to take it out. You can tear your uterus otherwise. Anytime that it is not in, you are at risk of pregnancy. Also, Paraguard (copper) works as soon as you put it in, whereas Mirena has to be in for a couple weeks before you are safe.

[anonymous0418]

Sometimes the strings are cut too short for you to even check it yourself; but, you insert you fingers into your vagina and just feel for the strings, but don't tug at all. Your doctor usually cuts it plenty short enough so the male does not feel it. I haven't had a problem with mine at all. I don't usually have too much acne so I can't answer that. The mirena is great and I'd say to give it a try! The only side effect that I have had was cramping and some bleeding after insertion but that's it.

[Asker]

I read the Mirena website and didn't know about the strings. It said sometimes the male can feel it so then I got all worried. How were your periods? Where they irregular or stop at all? How do you check to make sure it's still in proper position with the strings? Then I read also on the website about being gentle if wear a tampon with the strings. So I worry if you have to be careful with a tampon, how can sex not disrupt the strings? I'm still a virgin.

[Red_Arrow]

Never heard of it before your question, but then I researched a bit. Someone here mentioned the strings being stiff and even causing the boyfriend to bleed (finger or penis? Ouch!) Found other mention on the web about that being true. That could be problematic.

As far as the guy mistakenly pulling them, use common sense. Once you are about to get that far with a guy, tell him what you have and let him know not to tug on them. And please do not be one of those women who feels such info is too intimate to discuss, but will have sex with the guy. And yes, even with short threads he would be able to feel them. Reaching a woman's cervix with the finger is quite easy. (Doctors will reach past the cervix (which hangs down in the vagina) to feel the uterus in some exams. And a penis will often push beyond the cervix. Better ask your gyno about making sure your sexual partner is not hurt if your strings are hard.

[justme20]

I had the mirena twice and The strings would poke myself inside and it would poke my boyfriend and make him bleed (ouch). I had the strings cut twice and it would still hurt him. They claim it softens overtime but after a year my strings were still really strong and tough. I did lose 20 pounds, no periods but I did keep getting pelvic infections (caused from the mirena) after it was removed they went away (mind you I was a virgin when I had it and only kept it in 3 days while with a partner). It never did help with my acne but I did get full body clots with the combined pill so I am also unable to take estrogen. I say give the mirena a try and see how it goes. You can also try implanon. Its an implant in the arm that lasts for 3 years. No estrogen and no poking issues. Friend me if you like.

[Asker]

Kept it in 3 days with a partner? What do you mean? I don't think implanon would be for me, I heard you gain insane amount of weight and depression, like with depo-provera. I added you by the way :) Are you still on Mirena now?

[justme20]

I mean that I had 2 mirena IUD's inserted while I was a virgin then with my second one I became sexually active but the strings poked my guy so much he hated them so I had them removed 3 days after being sexually active. The day after I lost my virginity I had the strings cut and we had sex and there was still poking. I am not on the mirena IUD atm but I do plan on getting a third one soon. I need to talk to my doctor again but my guy of course is against it lol.. thanks for the add :)

[Asker]

Oh I see, makes sense. So how far up do they cut? I really don't wanna put my fingers up there and dig around. Seems kind of stupid if you have to be careful not to pull the strings with a tampon, but having sex would also pull them no? I just don't want a guy to think I'm wearing a tampon if I mess around with him. It sucks they won't let us take estrogen. Like I loved being on Alesse because my boobs got bigger and knew exactly when periods were. How long til you lost your periods?

[justme20]

I lost my period instantly. Once I had it inserted I never had one again. Yeah it does suck that I can't take pills either but its safer then blood clots lol. They cut them as far as possible without going too short. Everyone is different. I think you should try it out! My experience may be different then yours. I used tampons with the mirena and never had issues with it.

[Asker]

Oh I see. I'm so used to periods, and if I did start having sex I'd like a period to know if I'm pregnant or not. I guess it's nice not to have to worry about a period, like this summer I have a music festival I'm going to and I don't want my period during that time! I see, it's just so darned expensive (I live in Canada, have insurance through school, but still worry what if it isn't covered). Just don't want a guy to feel the strings. Why do you have to check the strings if it's up there?

[justme20]

Just to make sure the placement is fine and that the mirena is still in place. You should always check after your period every month just to be safe. My first one fell into my cervix and I had no clue even though I still felt the strings. Good luck!

[Asker]

Oh really? How did you know it fell through? How could it fall out, that's weird ha ha

[justme20]

The strings were longer then normal. I had to checked out by my doctor and it was confirmed.

[Asker]

I see. Ah it seems so crazy with the strings. Like I said I worry about him feeling them getting fingered or during sex. And it's so expensive :(

[Asker]

And I worry what if I don't like it within a couple months, then it'd be a huge waste of my money. Did you get more acne while on it? I've heard other people on YouTube say they broke out in acne (I'm trying to get rid of mine on my back, that's where I have it lots)

[justme20]

nope never had any breakouts. Remember everyones body reacts differently so your experience can be different